Inspiration for today: Strength under control

Yes, leaders need steeliness and forthrightness to articulate the vision and expectations and offer constructive criticism when required.

But a constant approach of 'lead, follow or get out of the way' will limit our ability to bring people with us.

You can't drive a ten ton truck of performance over a one ton bridge of relationship.

At the other extreme is false humility - mock servility born of unwillingness to rock the boat. The hallmark of the classic 'country club' management style.

This is characterised by unclear expectations and an avoidance of confronting poor performance or wrong attitudes and behaviour.

True humility comes from a position of personal strength and security. It views leadership as an opportunity to serve others.

As John Baldoni writes, "A sense of humility is essential to leadership because it authenticates a person's humanity."

Showing that you're human will keep people on your side and increase your credibility and influence.

Take these seven steps to building on humility in your own leadership style and that of budding leaders:

Affirm others - "I know you've got it in you to make this happen."
Seek feedback - "How can I do better?"
Admit your mistakes - "I take responsibility for that."
Give specific credit where it's due - "You did a great job on that report. I really appreciate it."
Shun the symbols - like the nameplate on the personal parking space.
Stay teachable - "I never stop learning."
Practise little touches - "Can I get you a tea or coffee?"

Great men never think they are great, just as small men never think they are small.

Think about it.