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Welcome Message
Instead of the regular feature where a speaker video is posted and we discuss the good and the bad, I've switched up the format this month. I was compelled to do this after listening to two speakers at two separate events, both of whom broke one of the cardinal rules of professional speaking: Making the speech all about them. They spent most, if not all, of their speech time telling their audience all about their experience, their qualifications, how they work harder than anyone they know, and above all, how fabulous they were. Fascinating! Or not! Read more about these "It's All About Me!" speakers in the feature article, why you never want to boast about yourself in your presentation, and tips to avoid falling into the "Me Me Me" trap.
In other features, take a look at the latest and greatest Customer Rave, and why it's time to invest in your professional life with presentation skills workshops, training and coaching. The Question of the Month addresses a commonly-asked body language issue. And as usual, you're all cordially invited to my next speaking engagement in June at the HBAC (see below).
As usual, I'd love to hear from you! If you have any comments about this newsletter, would like to submit a Question of the Month, or have some public speaking experiences you'd like to share, please email me! |
"Thank you for two fantastic presentations. Our attendees thought "Six Steps to Public Speaking Excellence" was engaging, informative and inspiring. Your session was very well-received because you offered valuable presentation advice that attendees found to be immediately applicable to their needs. What's more, you entertained the audience with interactive exercises, colorful stories, and relevant examples. It was a pleasure to have you speak at our conference."
- Iris Unger,
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Upcoming Speaking Engagement
"PUBLIC SPEAKING FOR IMPACT"
Dorval Hilton Hotel, Dorval QC
June 3, 2009
11:30am-1:30pm
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Cool Quote
"Design the type of performance you would like to experience... and be the kind of speaker you would like to watch."
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What's the News??
Keep up with the latest news and events on our News page!
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Coming Up in Future Issues...
- 10 Tips to Bulletproof Your Presentations
- Malcolm Gladwell talks about spagetti sauce
- Ways to control nervousness
- Maybe a photo or two of my upcoming trip to China (but I promise not to make it all about me!)
Any requests? Email me your ideas and I'll address them in a future issue!
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THE BATTLE BETWEEN THE "YOU" SPEAKER AND THE "ME" SPEAKER
The "IT'S ALL ABOUT YOU" Speaker Imagine this: You've just left a presentation that inspired and motivated you. The speaker made you laugh one minute, and then see connections the next. You got ideas, tips, enjoyed relevant stories and examples, a great handout, and a message that inspired you. And most importantly, the speaker seemed to talk directly to you and your needs. It was almost as if you and the speaker shared similar life experiences and values. As you leave, you are grateful that you decided to attend the presentation and promise yourself to take action based on what you learned. What a valuable use of your time it was!
The "IT'S ALL ABOUT ME!" Speaker
And now, imagine this: You're sitting in an audience about to listen to a speaker tell [what you hope] is an inspirational story about how they became so successful. Perhaps you'll be able to learn some valuable lessons that you can apply to your current situation.  The speaker starts with a long, text-heavy powerpoint slide that lists their credentials and qualifications, complete with fancy initials that follow their name. They boast about their accomplishments, their awards, their rock-solid work ethic, and how many businesses they had by the time they were 18 years old. You wait and hope that they will share something of value -- something that isn't purely about THEM -- that shows that they care about what their audience gets out of the presentation. But... nothing. The conclusion goes something like: "I'm so busy and successful, you would have to stand in line if you wanted to work with me." Ah, well. There goes an hour of your life.
It's Not About You...Really
It's not too hard to see that the first speaker wins praise for being attuned to her audience's needs. Before speaking, she has researched who they are, why they're there, and what they expect to hear. She delivers valuable content that's geared directly to them. The second speaker, however, is not attuned at all. She aims to impress her audience by listing her qualifications and credentials, but what she doesn't realize is that her audience is filled with intelligent and accomplished people who are hoping to learn something new and interesting from her. With her self-focused content and inability to provide anything of value to the audience, she simply ends up alienating and frustrating them.
Here's the reality: People care about themselves and how to solve their problems. So to get them to appreciate your message, the speech should be about the audience and their needs. As a speaker, you must resist the urge to focus on talking about your products and services, and what makes you the best person for the job.
A composed, prepared, information-rich presentation will go a lot farther in showcasing your expertise than listing your qualifications, credentials, and experience. Even if you're asked to speak about your company or your products, make it about your customers or the problems you solve instead. Provide them with valuable content -- and they are a lot more likely to provide you with their appreciation, their recommendation, and their business.
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WHERE WAS I LAST MONTH?
At the YES Youth Employment Conference, giving a speech on "Six Steps to Public Speaking Excellence."
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QUESTION OF THE MONTH
"I know I'm not *supposed* to put my hands in my pockets or hold them behind my back when I give a speech, but most of the time I just don't know what to do with them. What do you recommend?" - Max, Toronto ON
Dear Max,
How you move around depends on how you feel most comfortable. I've seen some speakers give a 30-minute speech with their hands by their sides the whole time, and some speakers give a presentation running around and waving their arms, and both looked perfectly appropriate because it fit that speaker's style and personality.
Because you already know not to put your hands in your pockets or hold them behind your back, you're on the right track to finding the answer that's right for you. Here are a few other things to keep in mind: 1. Do not hold anything in your hands, such as a pen, or your notes. I've seen many audiences click their pens, or wave notes around without ever looking at them. This is very distracting to an audience. The *only* thing that is acceptable to hold in your hands is a wireless presenter, relevant props, or items that you want to show your audience. 2. Do not put your hands on your hips or cross your arms. These actions may come across as condescending. 3. Try not to point at the audience. Some people find this action aggressive.
In the meantime, Max, here's what I suggest. Practice your speech several times, standing up and moving around as if you were in front of your audience. Get used to what arm movements feel most comfortable for you. Practice in front of a mirror or with a video camera and watch yourself with a critical eye as you present. Or better yet, practice in front of friends or family and ask them to give you honest feedback about whether your body language seems natural, or if it's distracting. Based on the feedback you get, and how you feel most comfortable, it's up to you to adjust your speaking style accordingly.
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