Domestic Estate Managers Association

The DEMA Chronicle 
 
May 2010 Issue
Featured Article by Teresa Leigh "Acing the Private Service Interview"
Domestic Professional Spotlight Featuring Katie Ireland
New Monthly Article "Ambassadors of Service" by Robert Hayman
Education Connection - PSOW
Consulting Connection - FCW
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Why are monthly meetings so important?             
 

Six months ago DEMA joined the ASAE & The Center For Association Leadership. We did so for many different reasons, but the main reason was to help format our monthly meetings and bring more value to them.  With the recent and successful additions of our new chapters we feel that is was worthwhile.

 

Although, the question is still "Why?"  Why does anyone join an Association?  What's in it for me?  We thought that the "Why" in regards to monthly meetings is best answered in a white paper written a few years ago by Robert Half (www.rhi.com)

 

 

The Benefits of Professional Association Membership

Provided by the career experts at Robert Half

 

Given the number of responsibilities that you juggle on a daily basis, joining a

Professional organization may not be one of your top priorities. After all, what businessperson has time for more meetings and activities?

But such thinking can cause you to miss out on the numerous benefits that membership in a professional association offers. Whether you join an industry-specific group, a special-focus organization (for women entrepreneurs or small-business owners, for example), a neighborhood-based merchants' association or the local chapter of a national trade organization, you'll make valuable professional contacts and gain access a wealth of useful information.

 

Networking opportunities.

 

When you join a professional organization, you'll deepen existing business relationships and make new contacts on a regular basis. Such networking goes

beyond the exchange of business cards - as you attend periodic meetings, become active on a committee or take a prominent leadership role, you'll forge lasting ties with others who have common professional interests and similar business concerns. These relationships will be a rich, ongoing source of inspiration and ideas.

 

Education.

 

Many professional associations offer their members the chance to update

their knowledge of business and trade basics or acquire new skills through seminars, workshops, break-out sessions at conferences and online courses. Typical subject matter can run the gamut from tax tips and small business financing to advice about hiring and staff management.

 

 

Support system.

 

Members of professional associations can often take advantage of

formal coaching or mentoring relationships with more experienced businesspeople who provide guidance and useful insights. Even on an informal basis, such relationships can be a source of answers and solutions when you're facing a challenging situation in your business. At the very least, the feeling that you have a support network behind you can boost your confidence when

problems arise.

 

 

Our meetings are a fertile ground for all the reasons above, but in addition we have the ability to network with great vendors who are consultants in their respective industries who are all here to support our Principals and our membership.

 

This month we had industry leaders like Pamela Eyring, Teresa Leigh, Andrew Lowrey and Charles MacPherson all attend the Washington D.C. Chapter launch.  You never know who will show up at one of our meetings as a presenter or as an attendee!                                                   

 

                                                                                                Washington D.C. Launch

D.C. LaunchWe ask that if you haven't attended a meeting yet - attend one this month.  If you have a colleague in another state - tell them about DEMA.  If you have been coming to meetings - keep coming. Help us shape these chapters into an Association that continues to break ground and achieve things in this industry that many think are not possible!            

 
You will find a complete list of upcoming meetings near the bottom of this newsletter.               
 

We will be contacting all of the membership in the next couple of months to ask you to take a survey and find out what we can do as a group to make this Association work better for you!

Please don't hesitate to contact us by email or call us directly!

We hope everyone enjoyed their Holiday weekend!

 
                Matt Haack                                                                            mike 1
    Matthew Haack                                                                       Michael Wright
    President                                                                                     Vice President
    matt@domesticmanagers.com                                          mike@domesticmanager.com
    586-457-8004                                                                              586-822-0627

  
 
Featured Article
 
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                4         1            How it works- referral
 
Domestic Professional Spotlight
 
~ Featuring ~
 
Katie Ireland
 
Q: How did you get started in the Industry?
 
A: I worked as a temporary personal assistant while I was staying in Arizona during the summer of 2007.  I was offered the position through a friend whom already worked atKatie the company.  I enjoyed personal assistant work so much, that I decided to pursue it when I moved here to Los Angeles.

Q:  Do you have any formal training or degrees for domestic management? 
 
A: 
 I do not, but would like to see a certification program for Personal Assistants.
 
 
Q:  What have been some of the more difficult situations that you have run into on the job?
 
A:  
Being given an obscure task to complete that I have never attempted before.
 
 
 
 
Q:   What type of principal or homeowner do you prefer to work for?
 
A:   My boss owns an Internet advertising agency (sales, not creative) and I bounce between a roll as Executive Assistant/ Office Manager at the office location and a Personal Assistant/ House Manager at his home.  I find the bouncing between home and office difficult as files and checks I need at a moments notice never seem to be in the location I'm at when I need them.  I would prefer to work for someone a bit more organized or professionally established.  I feel very insecure about my job stability when working for "start-ups".  Established musicians, artists, actors, models, executives, and so on are all preferred.  The industry does not make a difference to me.
 
Q:   What direction would you like to see the domestic industry go in for the future?
 
A:   I'd like to see clear lines drawn between the terms we throw around as job titles.  Once the industry can clarify what (for example) a house manager and personal assistant is and does, then we can offer proper training.  
 
 
Q:   What are your goals for the future?
 
A:   I would like to have increased wages, health benefits, and a 401k plan.  I would also like personal items such as phones, laptops, and vehicles to be properly reimbursed for when being used for business.   
 
Q:   What are your interests and hobbies?
 
A:   I am very interested in cars and always have been.  Not only can I operate a manual transmission, I drive one every day.  I could change my own oil if I wanted to and have done so in the past.  I have done some racing (always on the track and never on the street).  I am about to start learning Italian.  My great grand parents were from Italy and so I've always wanted to learn more about the culture.  I hope to visit there someday.  I also love travel, but have only been to Europe once so far.
  

Ambassadors of Service

May 2010

By Robert Hayman

  Butler / Chef / Domestic Professional / Humanitarian

 

At the dinner table in 1959 it was announced by my father that my well traveled English Grandmother was coming for a visit in a couple of months.  As he continued to read from her letter she asked his permission to take me to New York City.  She alsoRobert Hayman made it clear that she would cover our expenses to include round trip first class airline tickets on a TWA Constellation and all accommodations at The Waldorf Astoria.  Her only request was that I have a new blue suit of clothes and impeccable manners especially for dining out.  We were to meet and dine with Dorothy Kilgallen and her father the famous journalist, James Kilgallen.

When I came to, I could hear my Mother on the phone with one of her friends from the Junior League asking if it was too late to enroll me in the summer Cotillion being held at our church.   

So, in my new blue suit I attended every Saturday morning for 6 weeks.  I knew most of the simple etiquette and proper table manners as my parents had already instilled these qualities in me.  However, our teacher, the beautiful Miss Beverly, taught me the art of introductions, how to Foxtrot and Waltz, and how to ask a young lady to the dance floor.  The graduation ended with a dance and reception.  The boys had to ask the girls, "How do you do, my name is Robert, may I have this dance?", and then bow slightly from the waist.  I complained to my Mother that it made me feel uncomfortable and she replied; "the more you practice your good manners the more they will become you!"   

That was 50 years ago and my Mother was right.  As we are all Ambassadors of service we are never off the clock.  Our mission is to bring our manners and service into everyday activities wherever we may be:  the grocery store, the school, while driving, with our partner, the neighbor or the stranger. 

Are you an Ambassador of service?  Please feel free to share your stories and comments.  As I remain...

At your service,

Robert Hayman

DEMA Member

 
 

To submit your "Ambassador" story please email info@domesticmanagers.com

 
Education Connection 
 
DEMA would like to welcome our newest educational partner Pamela Eyring and The Protocol School of Washington.  We would also like to thank them for sponsoring and hosting our Washington D.C. Chapter Launch earlier this month! 
 
 
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Pamela EyringNational Business Etiquette Week:
 
 
86% of Recruiters Use Social Media to Research Applicants
Citing Importance of Social Media Etiquette
PSOW® Launches 4th Annual National Business Etiquette Week June 1 - 7
 
 
* Swearing at Work Tops List of Most Hated Business Behaviors
 
NY, NY - 5/24/10 - Research shows 86% of recruiters look at social media sites like Facebook (FB), Twitter and MySpace to learn more about job applicants and 44% don't hire applicants based on their findings.[1] "What you say and do on-line is just as important as what you say and do in the workplace. Whether you're job hunting or gainfully employed inappropriate behavior can be a deal-breaker," says Pamela Eyring, President of The Protocol School of Washington, global leader in business etiquette and international protocol since 1988 and the first school of its kind in America to become accredited and recognized by the U.S. Department of Education.
 
To spotlight the importance of business etiquette, especially in today's digital age, PSOW (www.psow.edu)is sponsoring the 4th annual National Business Etiquette Week June 1-7 offering tips and advice to help professionals recognize and combat bad behavior and act more professional. Historically, 85% of job success is connected to people skills including sending a hand written thank you note after a job interview to show respect and distinguish yourself from the competetion.
 
 
Top 5 Social Media Myths
  1. FB is personal (FB is now used by businesses from solo shops to the Fortune 50)
  2. FB is private (default privacy settings are minimal - select privacy settings manually)
  3. Only my followers read my Twitter posts (the Library of Congress has started collecting Twitter posts as a way to record history)
  4. Recruiters Don't Look at MySpace or YouTube (recruiters look everywhere)
  5. My FB profile and pix can be deleted (even deactivated content remains on FB's server)
 
Top 5 Most Hated Business Behaviors Internationally[2]
  1. Using swear words (79%)
  2. Arriving at work and not acknowledging fellow workmates (77%)
  3. Speaking loudly across the room (66%)
  4. Not offering guests a beverage (51%)
  5. Taking calls on speakerphone (47%)
 
Top 5 Business Etiquette Mistakes & How to Correct Them
 
  1. Unprofessional office attire (dress two levels above your position)
  2. Improper handshake (use a firm, web-to-web handshake)
  3. Poor eye contact (make eye contact 40% - 60% of the time in between the eye brows)
  4. Poor dining skills (when in doubt watch the host)
  5. Cell phone rudeness (keep phones on vibrate and use your library voice)
 
Business Etiquette On-Line
 
PSOW recently went virtual www.PSOWeLearn.com offering courses on-line at a fraction of the cost of on-site training. PSOW's virtual platformhelps the jobless (and veterans seeking a refresher course) master business behavior conveniently 24/7 from a PC, laptop or iPad. The training helps improve confidence, build relationships and enhances leadership skills via step-by-step advice, tips, scored tests and interactive video.
Founded in 1988 to meet the needs of an expanding global economy PSOW has trained over 3,000 graduates from 45 countries. Facilitators hail from The White House, the Disney Institute, corporate America and the military. Students travel to D.C. from as far away as the UAE, Bulgaria, China, Great Britain, Ghana, India, and Switzerland. PSOW is owned by Pamela Eyring who has worked with heads of state, four-star generals, CEOs and entrepreneurs.
 
 

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Consulting  Connection
 
We are  pleased to announce a newly established consulting firm, FCW.   Ms. Cameron-Williams is trained and certified by The Protocol School of Washington!  DEMA firmly believes in supporting our members that make a transition into new endeavors.  
 
 

FCW

 
 
 
 

How to succeed in the international arena:

 

In a rapidly expanding global economy, employers and employees at all levels need to distinguish themselves from the competition. Educating existing employees or new recruits in the area of protocol and etiquette provides the tools that give you an advantage in situations where business maybe promoted or conducted.

FionaCulture colors people's sense of identity and their perceptions of others. Difference in management style and organizational behavior can often be traced back to cultural influences.  Cultural miscommunication is very costly. This could be intimate, such as two co-workers interacting or it can take place in a more public arena i.e. an advertising campaign.

Skill acquisition is important, but it only has meaning when it is part of the altered process of how we think about business. An attitude and awareness are necessary which convert the 'where' the company does business to 'how'.

Most of us are hardly conscious of the cultural assumptions, which form the basis of many of our actions and words until they are challenged. This is what leads to those uncomfortable feelings known as 'culture shock' when we visit or live in a culture other than our own.

For the failure of cultural diversity to play an important, strategic role for many companies, is because we have treated it as something apart from the organization's lifecycle. Culture may play a role in marketing and advertising.  It may have a recognized effect on the formation and operation of multi-cultural functional teams.

The conflicts generated by value differences, however are less likely to be so easily amenable to reconciliation. There are conflicts that are also most likely to form around crucial issues of leadership, organization and communication in a company trying to operate as a true transnational:

Leadership is about how power and authority are distributed

Organization is about how people and systems come together to get things done

Communication is about the methods and manners of sending / receiving messages.

All of the above organizational elements are highly influenced by the values of a particular culture.

In emphasizing on relational skills, the objective is to place an importance on maintaining a rapport between individuals at every level of the organization.  By approaching cross cultural training as the development of process skills we are developing individuals' effectiveness in a global business context. Leadership is also equipping the organization to deal with the issues of cross culture and to use a process to generate internal change.

Nothing has so rapidly and brutally, forced organizations to change as increased, international competition. Structures, processes, relationships, and above all mindsets all need to be in sync. This is where training and development comes into play, but only if it is a part of the strategic need and at the right stage in the organizations life cycle.

Training would consist of three elements:

  • Developing a global mindset
  • Working through a model of cross-cultural reconciliation 
  • Emphasis on relational skills

Nowadays, there is a greater recognition that cultural differences affect all facets of international business. Due to this, the industry is challenged to provide information in the form of literature and training aimed at making the business professional more productive in culturally diverse environments.

 

 
Please contact FCW Hospitality and Private Residence Consulting, Inc should you wish to discuss Etiquette and Protocol training with Ms. Cameron-Williams.
 
 
World Class Service Providers
 
Welcome our newest providers to our member directory!
 
  
Fortress - Long Island City, NY
 
 
Fortress 
 
 
 
Stonemark Construction Management - Ventura, CA 
 
 
Stonemark 
  
                                    
                         
Please visit their websites for more information on these great companies! 
 Chapter Meetings & Special Events
 
 
 
 White House June Date TBD, Washington D.C...Details Coming Soon!
 
 San Diego June Date TBD, San Diego, CA... Details Coming Soon!
 
 Chicago June 17th Chicago, IL.... Click here to register!
 
 
 Orlando  June 28th Central Florida.... Details Coming Soon!
 
 NYC Cab Pic   June Date TBD NYC, NY.... Details Coming Soon! 
 
 West Palm Beach June 30th Southeast Florida.... Details Coming Soon!
 
Detroit  June Date TBD, Southeast Michigan.... Details Coming!
 
L.A. June Date TBD Los Angeles, CA.... Details Coming Soon!
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

New Membership Dues for Domestic Professionals & Principal Homeowners

Over the last two years DEMA has been offering complimentary trial memberships.  We will continue to do so with different offerings, currently we have a three month complimentary trial to help new Members become more familiar with the DEMA movement.  Once your trial expires you will receive an invoice with different options for Membership packages.
 
Our current Membership have been asking for three options when it comes to dues:
 
 One Year - $49.95               Three Year - $119.95                Five Year - $199.95
 
DEMA will continue to keep our Membership pricing affordable so all professionals in the industry can afford to participate in the Association!  We are able to do so thanks to the support of our loyal Affiliates, Sponsors and Service Provider Members!

 

To view the entire list of Service Providers and to find one in your area, become a DEMA member and click on the Member Directory tab on the website.

Do you know someone who would benefit from becoming a member of the Domestic Estate Managers Association? Please feel free to pass this newsletter on to them. We always welcome new members!