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April 2012
Increasing Emotional Intelligence in the Home, Tuesday, April 17th     
Building Emotional Understanding starting  Tuesday, April 24

Greetings!     

 

We are emotional beings. Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence, suggests that our emotional intelligence is even more important than intellectual intelligence to live a successful life. We enter this world interacting from our limbic system which is our emotional center. All feelings are stored there in our long term memory only to be triggered during certain events in our life.  

 

When our emotional response is more intense than the situation calls for, it is likely that we are re-experiencing feelings from our childhood without even knowing it. Our emotions don't wave a flag and say "right now your child's behavior is reminding you of the time when you yelled at your mom and got a spanking." Instead, big feelings just come up and usually overwhelm us causing our thinking brain to shut down. When a parent can discover why their child's current behaviors are making them "freak out" then the possibility to manage the intense feelings begin. The more parents understand and express their emotions in a healthy way, the better equipped they are to help their children become emotionally intelligent.  

 

Follow this link toread Daniel Goleman's thoughts on the importance of the family for teaching emotional intelligence.

 

If you want to improve your emotional skill level, I have two classes starting in April to consider attending. The first is next Tuesday night and is called Increasing Emotional Intelligence in the Home. The second is a 6 week class, called Building Emotional Understanding, which starts on April 24th. Please see the Classes section at the bottom of this email for details.

   

Happy Parenting,

 

Cynthia  

 

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Parents' Success Stories    

 
Learning to Listen to Rather than Yell at My Teenage Daughter 
 
 

I am a dad of a 15 year-old daughter who is struggling in school and in following our rules. My wife and I contacted Cynthia to help with managing her behavior. We have come to realize that rather than trying to control or manipulate her, we need to learn how to listen and solve problems together. I struggle with controlling my anger which gets in the way of good communication. Because of Cynthia's coaching, I had a huge breakthrough in listening rather than getting mad.  

 

My daughter was trying to sneak out at night and we caught her. Before I would have lost my mind and started screaming. Instead, we sat down to talk. I asked her questions and she listened as I explained how scared and worried we would have been to find her gone. I did much better at connecting with her on a heart-to-heart level so we were able to start a discussion on how we can solve her problems together. The next day she told my wife that in the past she was afraid to be honest because of my anger. Cynthia is continuing to teach us on a weekly basis what language and actions will build bridges of understanding and cooperation between the three of us rather than walls. I know I will continue to improve and so will our relationship.

 

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Cynthia 
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April 17,  6 - 7:30
Increasing Emotional Intelligence in the Home

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Building Emotional Understanding

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Raising Children

Part 2

 

I see child-raising as a process of leading a young adult to develop the strength to stand and walk on his own feet. Every time I meet a child, I always offer my respect to him or her as an independent person. A child is an individual with a distinct personality, and even the bond between parent and child is ultimately a relationship between two individuals.

 

Some children are very considerate and always deep in thought. Others may be looking for someone to fight with. One child cannot resist scribbling on everything in sight. Another is always running to the kitchen for something to eat. There are a thousand different character types and each has different interests. Parents can try to anticipate the different directions in which a child's individuality might lead them and then do everything possible to provide the environment best suited for their development.Pg. 29 - 30  

 

From: A Piece of Mirror and Other Essays. pg. 29.

   

Daisaku Ikeda President of the SGI World Wide Organization
World Renowned Author and Poet  
Artist in the classroom
Spring 2012
 

 

Increasing Emotional Intelligence in Your Home

    

Understanding your own emotions is the first step to enhancing your children's emotional intelligence.  Discover how your thoughts trigger your feelings. Learn how to change negative triggers and build an empathetic home that strengthens Emotional Intelligence and cooperation.

Date:            Tuesday, April 17

Time:            6:00 - 7:30 pm

Location:      Morrissey-Compton Educational Center, Inc.

                      2555 Park Blvd, Suite 1, Palo Alto, CA 94306

Cost:             Free

Registration: pace is limited so registration is required. Register here at Morrissey-Compton's Website     

  

Building Emotional Understanding

A 6-week course

 

Reduce the stress of parenting and create the warm cooperative family atmosphere we all want to share with our children. This class will give you a new perspective on your child's emotional moments and how to set limits in a way that builds strong relationships. You'll take home six new tools for resolving children's off-track behavior, and for getting the support you need. Reflect on current parenting styles, learn parent-to-parent listening skills and develop a Family Connection Plan.

Date:                     6 Tuesdays, April 24 - May 29

Time:                    10:00 am - 12:00 pm

Location:              555 Waverley Street, Room 28, Education Building (at the All Saints Episcopal Church) Palo Alto, CA 94301. Hand in Hand Parentiing  

Fees and registration  

  

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