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February 2012
Peace Begins in the Home - Mutual Respect Parentiing
2 SEATS LEFT FOR MONDAY'S FREE CLASS
HOW TO BUILD A COOPERATIVE FAMILY WITH MUTUAL RESPECT 

Greetings!     

 

Why do some parents have difficulty setting limits or expectations with their children and others don't? Why did I not have difficulty yet many of my parenting clients do? Several years ago, I was so good at setting and enforcing limits that I was in high demand as a substitute teacher. I was even asked to take over a very difficult 5-6th grade classroom the last 3 months of the school year. I was told by the other teachers that the class was better behaved with me than the previous teacher.  

 

I believe there are certain beliefs and attitudes a parent perceived as the authority figure either already possesses or can develop. Let's explore this topic to discover the answers.  

 

Think about a time when your child continued to harass you to get what she wanted. You started with a "No" but faltered and ended up begrudgingly saying "Well, alright." Did you not believe in your "No" at the beginning? Let's say you did. For example, you said "I'm not going to buy you ..... (a toy, computer, clothes, etc.) When your child starting pushing, what inner beliefs about yourself or your child slowly made you falter in your determination to hold the limit?


Self-reflection and honesty are crucial to understand your thought process that weakened your resolve. Once you are aware, then the next time you can be more successful in stopping the thoughts that take you off the track. Yes, you can control what you think!!! Read the Parent's Story section below and you'll see what parents have told me keeps them from staying firm and what I advised them to think instead. 

 

Happy Parenting,

 

Cynthia  

 

Please share this newsletter with other parents, schools or businesses so I can help other families build bridges of understanding.   

  

 
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Parents' Stories

 
I coach two types of parents who especially have difficulty setting limits. 1) Parents who didn't have limits set when they were children and 2) parents who had harsh limits set as children with disregard to their feelings.

The parents without limits often don't understand the value of rules, limitations or expectations. They were often catered to and as a result they missed the opportunity to learn important life skills such as patience, respecting authority and problem solving. They tend to flounder when children try to get what they want rather than stay internally strong. Here are examples of underlying beliefs that I helped parents with this problem reveal.

I want my children to be happy.

If I put limitations on my children then they will be unhappy.

If they cry, scream or tantrum because they are unhappy then I am not a good parent.

I don't want to feel like a bad parent so I will do whatever it takes to stop my children from
crying.

A good parent has happy children.
In This Issue
Parent's Story
Express Yourself!
Video Viewing
Inspirational Words
Parenting Classes

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Cynthia is
Building World Peace in the Home through:

 Private Coaching Sessions in person, by phone, in the home or Skype to answer your specific questions.

Parenting Classes to learn skills and gain support from parents.

Speaking

at your school or  organization on a variety of topics.


Fantastic New Talks
One for parents of 6th - 12th graders and
one about Emotional Intelligence

See Classes Section

   You can turn conflict into cooperation

  

 Learn mutually respectful parenting strategies that give you the power to be the authority in your family.        


Inspirational  Words  

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Life is full of unexpected suffering. Even so, as Eleanor  Roosevelt said: "If you can live through that [difficult situation] then you can live through anything. You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.' " That's exactly right. Struggling against great difficulty enables us to develop ourselves tremendously. We can call forth and manifest those abilities lying dormant within us. Difficulty can be a source of dynamic growth and positive progress.  

   

Daisaku Ikeda
President of the SGI World Wide Organization
World Renowned Author and Poet 

 
Artist in the classroom
Winter/Spring 2012
 

How to Build a Cooperative Family with Mutual Respect

 If you want your family to improve communication and cooperation skills, then this is the class to get you started. Studies have shown that parents lead the family by example. Discover how Mutual Respect Parenting will teach you positive discipline strategies and listening skills that will help you resolve family conflicts and develop self-reliant children.

 

NEXT MONDAY, February 13rd, 7:00 - 8:30 

Location:     San Mateo office

Cost:           No fee / pre- registration required.  

Space is limited to 6 parents  

 

 Register here for the February 13rd class 

 

If registration is closed, email me to be on a waiting list.   

 

Problem Solving Effectively With Your 6th - 12th Grader, So They Listen to You! (For parents of 6 - 12th grade)

 

Come to this talk to learn how to teach your teen to make sound judgments. Discover how to speak and be heard while discussing homework issues. Build bridges rather than walls between you and your teen. Learn how to put it all together with the 3 Step Quick Coaching Method.

 

Date:          Wednesday, March 21

Time:          7 - 8:30 pm

Location:    Fusion Academy San Mateo Campus

                   2000 Alameda de las Pulgas, Suite 128, San Mateo, 94403

Cos             Free

Registration:      Click here to register.

 

Increasing Emotional Intelligence in Your Home

 

Understanding your own emotions is the first step to enhancing your children's emotional intelligence.  Discover how your thoughts trigger your feelings. Learn how to change negative triggers and build an empathetic home that strengthens Emotional Intelligence and cooperation.

Date:            Tuesday, April 17

Time:            6:00 - 7:30 pm

Location:      Morrissey-Compton Educational Center, Inc.

                      2555 Park Blvd, Suite 1, Palo Alto, CA 94306

Cost:             Free

Registration: pace is limited so registration is required. Register here at Morrissey-Compton's Website   

  

I am planning on future webinars and parent education self-study courses on line!