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January 2012
Connection Before Correction - Mutual Respect Parentiing 

Greetings!   

 

Are you building bridges of understanding with your children? Or, are you building walls that will get more difficult to climb as your children get older? A relationship built on walls of disconnection will probably last throughout adulthood. Here are common wall building attitudes, beliefs and actions that parents hold on to as the "truth."  Mom Dad large Brick Wall

 

  • My child is never going to stop doing this misbehavior. (ex. Not picking up clothes, not taking over the dishes or not walking the dog.)
  • Whenever my child is irresponsible or misbehaves it means I am a bad parent.
  • I know what is best for my child so my child needs to obey at all times.
  • Getting angry at children or taking things away makes them feel bad which "teaches" them to change their misbehavior.

These rigid and critical beliefs hinder our ability to think flexibly and compassionately. Our children need clear expectations, nonjudgmental listening, and understanding from the adults in their lives.   

Consider embracing these bridge building attitudes, actions and beliefs that encourage parent-child  

connection.

  • My child needs to feel my Kids Open Wall emotional support and acceptance rather than judgment or criticism.
  • My child is unique and has her own developmental path to follow rather than me determining the path.
  • We all struggle and make mistakes. This is the learning process.
  • I will continue to show love, rather than withdraw love, no matter how difficult my children act.

Not only will your changes improve your relationships, you will feel happier being positive and compassionate. Start the new year with letting go of one wall building belief and replacing it with a bridge building belief.

 

Happy Parenting,

 

Cynthia  

 

Please share this newsletter with other parents, schools or businesses so I can help other families build bridges of understanding.   

  

 

Benefits of Parenting Education  

 

Understanding 11 year-old Development Creates Compassion

"What you taught made a BIG difference in my relationship with my daughter. Most important was your stressing how an 11 year old is working on how to define HERSELF in relation to the WORLD (and not to Mommie) and that this is an important task for her. So I was most impressed when, one evening out of the blue, she took 20 photo albums out of my closet. She went through each of them and picked out all the photos she wanted to put in an album of her own. Since you had clued me in, I understood what she was doing. I really encouraged her and helped her with her project when she asked. Interestingly, she had pix of herself with sister, her cats, other relatives, but none with me. I'm so glad you explained why she would do that, so I was just happy to watch and see her grow in her understanding of herself. I also loved you tip about not re-introducing a topic they have brought up before unless they bring it up again themselves.

I hope to be able to come to a class again soon."

Mom of a 11 year-old daughter


 2012 Individual Parent Training Prices
$100 an hour in office or over phone
$270 for 3 prepaid sessions
$175 in home for 1 parent - plus travel cost
$225 in home for 2 parents - plus travel cost 
In This Issue
Parent's Story
Express Yourself!
Video Viewing
Inspirational Words
Parenting Classes

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Cynthia is
Building World Peace in the Home through:

 Private Coaching Sessions in person, by phone, in the home or Skype to answer your specific questions.

Parenting Classes to learn skills and gain support from parents.

Speaking

at your school or  organization on a variety of topics. 


2 Fantastic New Talks
One for parents of 6th - 12th graders and
one about Emotional Intelligence

See Classes Section

I love speaking to parents and giving them hope that change can happen, courage to try a new approach and confidence that their children love them and do want to create a peaceful home.   

  

Invite me  to speak at your school, organization or company, or simply introduce me to the decision maker.  
 
Popular Topics

 

Discipline:  Winning Kids Over Without Punishments or Rewards

My Kids are Driving Me Crazy

Raising Self-Reliant Children

Handling Emotional Moments

Building Your Child's Self-Esteem
 Power Struggles

The Challenging Middle-School Years

Building Connections - Breaking Down Barriers

View my website for detailed descriptions or contact me to create your own topic.  

Inspirational  Words  

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  The heart of one person moves another's. If one's own heart is closed, then the doors of others people's hearts will also shut tight. On the other hand, someone who makes all those around him or her into allies, bathing them in the sunlight of spring, will be treasured by all.

   

Daisaku Ikeda
President of the SGI World Wide Organization
World Renowned Author and Poet 

 
Artist in the classroom
Winter/Spring 2012
 

2 Free introductory classes

How to Build a Cooperative Family with Mutual Respect

 If you want your family to improve communication and cooperation skills, then this is the class to get you started. Studies have shown that parents lead the family by example. Discover how Mutual Respect Parenting will teach you positive discipline strategies and listening skills that will help you resolve family conflicts and develop self-reliant children.

 

Two dates to  choose from:   

    

Date:           Wednesday, January 18th, 7:00 - 8:30

  Monday, February 23rd, 7:00 - 8:30 

Location:     San Mateo office

Cost:           No fee / pre- registration required.  

Space is limited to 6 parents  

 

 Register here for the January 18th class  

 

Register here for the February 23rd class 

 

If registration is closed, email me to be on a waiting list.   

 

Problem Solving Effectively With Your 6th - 12th Grader, So They Listen to You! (For parents of 6 - 12th grade)

 

Come to this talk to learn how to teach your teen to make sound judgments. Discover how to speak and be heard while discussing homework issues. Build bridges rather than walls between you and your teen. Learn how to put it all together with the 3 Step Quick Coaching Method.

 

Date:          Wednesday, March 21

Time:          7 - 8:30 pm

Location:    Fusion Academy San Mateo Campus

                   2000 Alameda de las Pulgas, Suite 128, San Mateo, 94403

Cos             Free

Registration:      Click here to register.

 

Increasing Emotional Intelligence in Your Home

 

Understanding your own emotions is the first step to enhancing your children's emotional intelligence.  Discover how your thoughts trigger your feelings. Learn how to change negative triggers and build an empathetic home that strengthens Emotional Intelligence and cooperation.

Date:            Tuesday, April 17

Time:            6:00 - 7:30 pm

Location:      Morrissey-Compton Educational Center, Inc.

                      2555 Park Blvd, Suite 1, Palo Alto, CA 94306

Cost:             Free

Registration: pace is limited so registration is required. Register here at Morrissey-Compton's Website   

  

I am planning on future webinars and parent education self-study courses on line!