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Orgasms: Art & Psyche
Discounts & TV show!
Dr. Z as we affectionately refer to Dr. Philip Zimbardo, was recently featured as a guest on The Dr. Phil Show! Watch a clip of this important program entitled When Good People Do Bad Things.
Orgasms: Art and Psyche also features an introduction by this famous Stanford psychologist and New York Times Bestselling Author. I wrote the preface and the orgasm exercises, Nikita Duncan painted the orgasms - all truly paradigm shifting material! This book makes a perfect gift for someone who appreciates fine art and intellectual stimulation. Order here.
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Greetings!
Wow! What an amazing three weeks on the road! I was blessed with my share of family drama along the way. That is a blessing because it gives me the opportunity to work the techniques I teach. How did I do? I made my share of mistakes but over all I feel so grateful to have the training which enables me to walk my talk in most situations.
I found the two workshops I taught in Seattle to be moving and transformative; and my lecture at Sonoma State sparked student participation where there had been little before.
I managed to include a short vacation in my tour and it was fulfilling on a multitude of levels. Now that I am back home, I might need to explore some ways to extend my vacation state of mind. Fortunately, I co-wrote an article on that very topic and if you too are just returning from your summer vacation, you might enjoy these tips for bringing rest and relaxation into your daily routine.
I hope to see you at one or all three of the workshops I am conducting this month (see below). Enjoy the sun and fun no matter what you do. |
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Veronica Monet In-Person!
Workshops and Presentations
The Compassionate Couple's Connection
Saturday, August 6
9 am to 4 pm
Sierra Commons
107 Sacramento Street
Suite 300
Nevada City, CA 95959
(530)478-0402
$175 per couple in advance, $199 per couple at the door
Remember how in love you used to be? With the right coaching those same Passionate Kisses are just a few conversations away. You CAN Rebirth Your Romance and Enjoy More Sincere Hugs, More Trust and Understanding . . . More Peace and Passion in your Relationship. Learn what it takes to Sustain Love for a Lifetime. Join other couples in this intimate small group workshop and plan your Nevada County Escape!
In this one day workshop, couples will have the opportunity to solve real life issues most couples encounter as well as problems specific to their connection. Employing very specific and effective communication and problem solving techniques, you will experience an enhanced emotional connection which almost always leads to a reawakening of your passion for each other. Discover the essential skills which Sustain Love and Passion for a Lifetime.
The Compassionate Couples Connection will take place in a comfortable, private small group setting. The workshop consists of lecture; multi-media presentations; exercises and coaching of practical, results oriented tools, taught through interactive exercises with your partner. Couples will be encouraged to participate in the exercises, but there will be no pressure for anyone to share private information with the group. .. only what is comfortable for you. Some participants have found they've learned a tremendous amount just from listening to others' experiences. All levels of participation are welcome.
Want to combine this workshop with outdoor fun and romantic interludes? Special Discounts and Romantic Getaway Packages are available to couples who preregister when you call Carla at Nevada County Escapes: (530)478-0402.
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Embodying the Divine Feminine:
Reclaiming the Power of Passion
with Francesca Gentille and Veronica Monet
Tuesday, August 9, 16, 23, 30.
6-7 pm
Your Telephone!
$75.95 if you register by August 5
$99.95 after August 5
Reclaim the power, magic, and healing passion of being your Feminine Aspect and learn the inspiring history of erotically empowered women and the practical grace of using feminine sexual energy infused with conscious intention, and Divine Love. Reclaim the power of your Inner Goddess of Eros as a healing elixir that connects and integrates us to our inner erotic self, spiritual core, and embodied soul.
· Receive practical exercises in Sacred Eros,Feminine Mysteries and Compassion
· Heal the rift between the Good Woman and the Fallen Woman
· Reclaim the Sacred Prostitute archetype as healer, king maker, queen, & divine warrior
· Discover your empowering inner Sacred Courtesan that ignites all beings
· Heal the Whore - Madonna split in our culture
· Learn the 30,000 yearhistory of the Priestesses & Shamans of Love & Eros
· Become aware of the cultural shift of The Burning Times & how to correct it
· Integrate the lineage of female wisdom into your power as a woman today
FREE GIFTS to YOU for enrolling in this teleseminar:
4 FREE MP3s of teachings by Francesca Gentille and Veronica Monet, PLUS a FREE 1/2 hour of sex and intimacy coaching by Francesca Gentille, and a chapter from " Sex Secrets of Escorts" by Veronica Monet!!
Once your payment has been received, you will receive an invitation to listen to the teleseminar live, links to the session (once it is recorded), an email containing the homework associated with the sessions you have bought, an invitation to join the online discussion group, and any free gifts you qualify for.
To Register for this Class:
Email Francesca (RelationshipDiva@gmail.com)
OR
Email Veronica (Veronica@TheShameFreeZone.com)
OR send payment to either email address via Pay Pal.
Orgasms for Life
Friday, August 12
7-9 pm
Reno Poly Meeting
Reno, NV
$20 per person in advance, $25 per person at the door
This special 2-hour workshop will employ adult images/video, toys, props, exercises and demonstrations to teach us about:
Vaginal, Cervical & Clitoral Orgasms; Birth Orgasms; Male Ejaculation & Female Ejaculation; Nipple, Neck & Ear Lobe Orgasms; Male & Female Multiple Orgasms; Prostate Massage & Anal Orgasms; G-Spot, U-Spot & A-Spot Orgasms; All-Over-Body & Out-of-Body Orgasms . . . and how our Emotions affect our Orgasmic Potential!
Learn to envision your sexuality as a life-long journey. Activate the natural "reset button" on yourself, your emotions, and the tension in your body and your life. Let your orgasms be an integral part of your spiritual development. Spark the creative fires of your orgasmic passion with Masturbation Meditation and discover the magical properties of the A Spot (your doctor doesn't even know this stuff!).
Pre-Payment: send $20 via Pay Pal to veronica@sexwithoutshame.com
(Log into your Pay Pal account at www.paypal.com and select the Send Money tab!)
At the Door: $25 cash
RSVP Rod for address and directions at sudden.net@gmail.com
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Sex Positive Parenting on The Shame Free Zone!
What is Sex Positive Parenting? Known as "The Godmother of Erotica" and "Susie Sexpert," Susie Bright, author of Big Sex Little Death, joins me in a thorough exploration of how to talk to your kids about sex. Got kids? You want this podcast too.
While you are at it, be sure to access your FREE library of educational and entertaining material pertaining to the erotic and the emotional. Previous episodes include Caroline Muir speaking of The Divine Feminine, Christopher Ryan sharing his findings about monogamy in his New York Times Bestselling Sex at Dawn and research scientist Vanessa Woods speaking about the roots of peace as contained in her Bonobo Handshake.
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A Child's First Love
Do you remember your first pet? How old were you?
I was three or four years old when my favorite aunt invited me to peer into a box of squirming kittens. They were brand new, grey tabbies whose eyes were still shut tight. Their plaintive mews filled the air with a sense of sadness for me. How I longed to make them feel safe and loved. When my aunt told me I could take one of these little fur balls home, my heart leaped for joy. My very next thought was "oh no, will my mom and dad let me keep the kitten?" I turned my pleading eyes in the direction of my parents while my aunt went to work on them with assurances that it would be good for me to have a kitten. I did get to take the kitten home once it was old enough and now these many years later, I am still struck with the intensity of that first emotional connection with a non-human life form.
Animals play an important role in my adult life too. My current animal companion is a 47 pound rescue named Amelie. She is part terrier and part boxer and 100 per cent love. Her previous owners were unkind to her and she came to my home fearful and desperate to please. It took some time to rebuild her confidence. In the beginning she didn't even know how to play with humans. If I tossed a ball in her direction she would not attempt to catch it. Instead she would cower and duck, convinced that I was trying to hit her with the ball. Today she is full of attitude and loves a rough game of tug of war.
In my professional life I teach anger management and communication skills to adults. When a client begins to retell that first pivotal relationship with an animal in their childhood, their entire demeanor is transformed. Otherwise emotionally reserved people will suddenly become less self-conscious and more animated as they retell the delight with which their particular furry friend filled their life. If the story is a sad one, I can count on tearful sobbing you might think would be reserved for the death of a parent or child. But with little exception, the deepest grief I have witnessed is reserved for that very first important relationship in the life of most children - that of their relationship with a pet.
A great deal of research supports the importance of animal companions to the lives of humans. Many studies confirm a predictive link between early childhood abuse of animals and violence towards humans in adult life. Programs which rehabilitate prison inmates by pairing them with horses or dogs who require rehabilitation too, have proven the power of the animal/human bond to reduce recidivism rates. Therapy dogs and cats regularly visit the elderly and infirm, spreading their unconditional love and creating measurable improvements in human health and recovery rates.
Pets are an economic priority in the United States as well, a multi-billion dollar industry which eclipses the sales of toys. More than a few immigrants to this country have marveled that supplies for dogs and cats warrant entire isles in supermarkets, not to mention huge stores like PETCO and PetSmart which are devoted to pets and pet needs entirely.
And yet, I believe we as a society are lacking a level of awareness pertaining to our pets. I don't think we understand just how crucial our early animal connections are to shaping our adult lives and human relationships. Therapy routinely focuses on our families. We are asked about our relationships with our mother, father, siblings and human playmates. But most intake forms don't have a section about pets. Most therapists do not ask their patients about their relationships with animals - whether in childhood or adulthood. Unfortunately, we are still stuck in a culture which relegates animal connections to the periphery of human psychology.
Deep ecologist, John Seed, argues that our current culture robs us of the emotional and visceral experience of the interconnectedness most of us shared with animals as small children. In fact the majority of us have been trained and shamed away from putting much importance on our connections to animals. While Americans love their pets, they still exhibit an awkwardness around expressing that love. Our laws classify pets as property and our conventions of speech relegate sentient beings to inanimate objects with pronouns like "it."
Human chauvinism, known as anthropocentrism, asserts human supremacy over all other life forms. It lives in the sacred text of many religions which believe "man" is the "pinnacle of creation." And it exists in scientific discourse which insists homo sapiens are superior to all other evolved life forms. No matter the political or spiritual orientation, people tend toward this self-serving world view.
But does it really serve us? Does minimizing and denying the heart connections, empathy, shared joys and love most of us felt for our pets when we were small children, help us to live better lives?
From the vantage point of my office, I would reply with a resounding "no." My clients don't come to me to talk about their childhood pets. They are there to work on repressed or acted out anger as well as sexual dissatisfaction of one sort or another. But in the process of uncovering those emotions and life events which often produce dysfunctional patterns and frustrated goals, a violation of innocence and a crushing of spirit very often reveals itself. While this may take the form of sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse and/or protracted illness, I have been astounded at the level of grief reserved for that first love - the love of a pet.
Humans have a long history of living in harmony with other life forms just as we have a long history of abusing anyone we designate as "other" be that another gender, another race or another species. If we are ever to tip the balance in favor of a more loving and positive culture, we must begin an open dialog about our true feelings surrounding our animal relationships. If we continue to silence the voice of our inner child and don the mask of adulthood which demands an almost robotic response our tender memories, then we continue to perpetuate a culture which is both mechanical and cruel.
I believe reconnecting to that first love - that first reciprocal relationship formed on trust and shared joy with another life form - is vital to our mental and emotional well-being as well as the capacity of the human species to survive and thrive. It could be that it even contains the solutions to violence for which we have long been searching.
I use a very successful combination of education and role playing which will increase your passion for your partner(s) and just about everything else. Email me or text 415.407.2932 today!
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Readers Respond
Hi Veronica,
I finally got the chance to pick up your book. Just finished it.
What a charming book! (just like you) It is refreshingly genuine. (also like you)
You and I have the same perspectives on sex. I don't want to write my own book here in an email, but so much of what you have written resonates completely. I have the same approach to sex. I make a safe space for my lover to be who s/he is in bed and I absolutely guard that special space. I don't fake orgasms. I had to chuckle as advice after advice that you give are things I do (that guys don't usually get from other ladies, unfortunately).
It amazes me how many guys have told me that I am the first person they slept with who wanted the lights on. I give the same genital anatomy lesson you do, and I love the looks of wonder (and maybe feeling like they are getting away with something) on guy's faces when I reveal my vulva. I can tell from the naive questions they ask that I am clearing up confusions they didn't even know they had about female anatomy.
Since adulthood I've been on the plump side and I've struggled with body issues since I don't look like a magazine ideal, but I don't have any trouble getting dates-- you are right about sexual confidence being more attractive than a particular body type and that men usually have different personal tastes than the anorexic adolescent society ideal.
I really enjoyed your book and identified with it.
When I was a young adult for a while I only dated women, and it AMAZES me to think of all the comments I heard from heterosexual women about their men! How the penis is ugly and balls are disgusting, how they only go down to get something, how they would never touch themselves "down there," how they endure sex. I became for a while the Lesbian Defender of Men--if sex is so horrible for you, why do you do it? If you are repelled by male genitalia, why touch them? I felt so bad for these poor men.
Thankfully I never had sex with men until it was something I really wanted. I am grateful that I was able to work out my issues with sex before I started having it, especially after hearing from my friends and acquaintances about years of bad sex or women who couldn't even orgasm.
Unfortunately society does not reward women embracing their own sexuality, and women also have the very real fear of getting the "slut" double standard imposed if they revel in their own juiciness. I am delighted whenever I meet other women--you!--who embrace their sexuality with both arms and then open up their spirits to it, even turning early damage into something healthier and more profound than most regular people experience.
Thanks for sharing this book with the world.
Agnes
Note To My Amazing Clients:
If you wish to share your success story from The Shame Free Zone, you can do so anonymously! Have you realized inspiring progress in your relationship? Are you feeling less burdened by shame? Please consider sharing with others so they might benefit too. Email me with your story. Your privacy is assured. |
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Sincerely,
Veronica Monet, ACS, CAM TAP Communications
228 Commercial Street, #408
Nevada City, CA 95959
Toll Free: 888.903.0050
Text/Cell: 415.407.2932
Direct Line: 530.362.8013 |
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