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Orgasms: Art & Psyche
Discounts & TV show!
Dr. Z as we affectionately refer to Dr. Philip Zimbardo, was recently featured as a guest on The Dr. Phil Show! Watch a clip of this important program entitled When Good People Do Bad Things.
Orgasms: Art and Psyche also features an introduction by this famous Stanford psychologist and New York Times Bestselling Author. I wrote the preface and the orgasm exercises, Nikita Duncan painted the orgasms - all truly paradigm shifting material! This book makes a perfect gift for someone who appreciates fine art and intellectual stimulation. Order here.
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Greetings!
Do you live in or near any of these cities?
California:
Auburn, Sacramento, Reddng, Yreka, Clear Lake, Guerneville, Sebastopol, Santa Rosa, Rohnert Park, Petaluma, Vallejo, Vacaville
Oregon:
Ashland, Medford, Grants Pass, Roseburg, Eugene, Salem, Portland
Washington:
Vancouver, Olympia, Tacoma, Seattle
If so, now is your chance to schedule your very own "housecall!" What is a "housecall" you ask? Well, I usually meet my clients over the telephone or in my Nevada City office. But when I am on tour, I visit my clients in person which makes life a lot easier for them. This is especially well suited to the work I do with couples.
So if you are at that stage in your relationship when you could use a little professional guidance to work past those inevitable blocks to communication we all experience, I will teach you some very specific techniques which create positive change. Could you use more compassion and understanding in your connections?
Let me show you how you can stop having the same old discussions over and over again and finally move on to the fun you thought you were going to have when you first got into a relationship. I specialize in role-playing the very real issues and concerns in your daily life so our time together will translate to maximum benefit to you.
All first time appointments must be prepaid and I only accept Pay Pal when I am on the road. Just deposit $150 for your first hour to my Pay Pal account at veronica@sexwithoutshame.com. Then be sure to email, call or text (415.407.2932) me to schedule your appointment. I look forward to seeing you during my July road trip (July 7-July 29). |
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Veronica Monet In-Person!
Workshops and Presentations 
Return of the Divine Feminine: Birth, Sex and Beyond with Nekole Shapiro, Veronica Monet & Teri Ciacchi
Wednesday, July 13
7-10 pm
AVANTI Art & Design
7317 Greenwood Avenue North
Seattle, WA 98103
(206)784-8475
$25 in advance, $30 at the door
Join me as I join forces with my amazing colleagues, Nekole Shapiro and Teri Ciacchi to illuminate how the Divine Feminine impacts and informs your daily life and deepest desires. What do orgasms, natural birth, tantra, bonobos, mycelium, bees, world peace, building new neural networks, creating sustainable social networks, permaculture and yoni worship have in common? It's all a part of the restoration of the Divine Feminine.
Find out how you can help realize more of the Divine Feminine in your personal life while extending the possibilities for increased pleasure, love and connection into family and community.
This event is happening during the 30/30/30 Show at Avanti Art & Design featuring The Celebration of Sacred Whores by Reverend Ciacchi.
Please pre-register by depositing $25 to Teri's paypal account: livingloverevolution@me.com with the note "Divine Feminine."
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Veronica Monet's Compassionate Connection
Saturday, July 16
2-5 pm
The Center for Sex Positive Culture
Seattle, WA 98107
(206)270-9746
$50 per person in advance, $70 per person at the door
Passionate Kisses are just a few conversations away. You CAN Rebirth Your Romance and Enjoy More Sincere Hugs, More Trust and Understanding . . . More Peace and Passion in ALL your Relationships.
Learn what it takes to Sustain Love for a Lifetime. Join others in this intimate small group workshop!
The Compassionate Connection will take place in a comfortable, private small group setting. The workshop consists of multi-media presentations, exercises and coaching of practical, results oriented tools, taught through interactive exercises.
You will be encouraged to participate in the exercises, but there will be no pressure for anyone to share private information with the group. .. only what is comfortable for you.
All sexual, gender and relationship orientations are welcome!
Pre-Register by sending an email or visit http://sexpositiveculture.org/
Sonoma State University Presentation
Thursday, July 28
1-4:30 pm
Sonoma State University
Rohnert Park, CA 94928
Free
By Invitation Only
If you have yet to attend one of my university presentations this is your chance to do so. Just email me and I will get you on the guest list!
 
The Compassionate Couple's Connection Saturday, August 6 9 am to 4 pm Sierra Commons 107 Sacramento Street Suite 300 Nevada City, CA 95959 (530)478-0402 $175 per couple in advance, $199 per couple at the door Remember how in love you used to be? With the right coaching those same Passionate Kisses are just a few conversations away. You CAN Rebirth Your Romance and Enjoy More Sincere Hugs, More Trust and Understanding . . . More Peace and Passion in your Relationship. Learn what it takes to Sustain Love for a Lifetime. Join other couples in this intimate small group workshop and plan your Nevada County Escape! In this one day workshop, couples will have the opportunity to solve real life issues most couples encounter as well as problems specific to their connection. Employing very specific and effective communication and problem solving techniques, you will experience an enhanced emotional connection which almost always leads to a reawakening of your passion for each other. Discover the essential skills which Sustain Love and Passion for a Lifetime. The Compassionate Couples Connection will take place in a comfortable, private small group setting. The workshop consists of lecture; multi-media presentations; exercises and coaching of practical, results oriented tools, taught through interactive exercises with your partner. Couples will be encouraged to participate in the exercises, but there will be no pressure for anyone to share private information with the group. .. only what is comfortable for you. Some participants have found they've learned a tremendous amount just from listening to others' experiences. All levels of participation are welcome. Want to combine this workshop with outdoor fun and romantic interludes? Special Discounts and Romantic Getaway Packages are available to couples who preregister when you call Carla at Nevada County Escapes: (530)478-0402. View the Video! Pre-Register Now! |
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Sex Positive Parenting on The Shame Free Zone!
What is Sex Positive Parenting? Known as "The Godmother of Erotica" and "Susie Sexpert," Susie Bright, author of Big Sex Little Death, joins me in a thorough exploration of how to talk to your kids about sex. Got kids? You want this podcast too.
While you are at it, be sure to access your FREE library of educational and entertaining material pertaining to the erotic and the emotional. Previous episodes include Caroline Muir speaking of The Divine Feminine, Christopher Ryan sharing his findings about monogamy in his New York Times Bestselling Sex at Dawn and research scientist Vanessa Woods speaking about the roots of peace as contained in her Bonobo Handshake.
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Slut Walks? Why Release Your Inner Slut?
It began just 3 months ago in Canada as a reaction against an ill-informed constable by the name of Michael Sanguinetti who told an audience at York University that "women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized." Constable Sanguinetti has since apologized but the movement to assert women's right to safety, regardless of what they wear or how they are labeled by others, is spreading around the globe and might very possibly be coming to a city near you. If you haven't heard of these protests yet, you will. They are called Slut Walks.
A variety of people are weighing in on the topic. For instance, second-wave feminist, Gail Dines, asserts in the UK Guardian: "The term slut is so deeply rooted in the patriarchal 'madonna/whore' view of women's sexuality that it is beyond redemption. The word is so saturated with the ideology that female sexual energy deserves punishment that trying to change its meaning is a waste of precious feminist resources."
While I agree the term "slut" (and the word "whore" for that matter) is imbued with the justification of any mistreatment by those who insist that women deserve to be punished, I absolutely believe the term must be reclaimed. Any word which is allowed to quell the conscience of a would-be perpetrator, to excuse their perpetrations at any level, must be brought out into the sunlight of defiant declarations which refuse to submit to the shame these words evoke. Not only do the words "slut" and "whore" fuel violence against women, these same words bow the heads of women in shame and submission to the status quo.
Gail Dines goes on to decry the pressure many young women feel in a hyper-pornographic world culture to dress and act like sluts when they may not want to. In my practice, I see the fallout from this trend in women in their 30's and 40's as well. As an activist for sexual freedom, I am saddened that most of the sexual "liberation" society has embraced, takes the form of more oppression of the feminine.
But the solutions we seek to oppression will never result from more oppression. That might seem like extreme talk in response to Ms. Dine's words, but the fact is that she is being a bit disingenuous.
Eleven years ago, we were both keynote speakers at Kent State and Gail Dines lobbied rather vociferously to have me removed as a speaker. Her justification? I overheard her say "Sex workers should not be allowed to speak for themselves."
I call that more of the same oppression feminism is purportedly fighting. If we want true freedom for women and sexual beings of all genders, we must stay focused on choice. Whether you want a sex life that looks like a pornographic movie or you want to be abstinent like a monk, your freedom to make those choices must be defended. And if women want to call themselves sluts and dress the part, they deserve the same protections of the law accorded women in habits or hijab.
Speaking of sluts, you might find the Sacred Slut Show of interest. This one woman show by Kamala Devi uses oral tradition and temple arts to transmit the powerful teachings of her five sacred sex mentors. I am honored to be counted among those five as Kamali Devi is both a talented and intelligent woman on a mission to eliminate sexual shame. Bravo Kamala!
Exercise your choice! The articles below offer diverse perspectives. You decide what is true for you.
Releasing Your Inner Slut
Merging the Madonna and the Whore
Why Rape Fantasies are OK
I use a very successful combination of education and role playing which will increase your passion for your partner(s) and just about everything else. Email me or text 415.407.2932 today! |
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Readers Respond
Hi Veronica,
I finally got the chance to pick up your book. Just finished it.
What a charming book! (just like you) It is refreshingly genuine. (also like you)
You and I have the same perspectives on sex. I don't want to write my own book here in an email, but so much of what you have written resonates completely. I have the same approach to sex. I make a safe space for my lover to be who s/he is in bed and I absolutely guard that special space. I don't fake orgasms. I had to chuckle as advice after advice that you give are things I do (that guys don't usually get from other ladies, unfortunately).
It amazes me how many guys have told me that I am the first person they slept with who wanted the lights on. I give the same genital anatomy lesson you do, and I love the looks of wonder (and maybe feeling like they are getting away with something) on guy's faces when I reveal my vulva. I can tell from the naive questions they ask that I am clearing up confusions they didn't even know they had about female anatomy.
Since adulthood I've been on the plump side and I've struggled with body issues since I don't look like a magazine ideal, but I don't have any trouble getting dates-- you are right about sexual confidence being more attractive than a particular body type and that men usually have different personal tastes than the anorexic adolescent society ideal.
I really enjoyed your book and identified with it.
When I was a young adult for a while I only dated women, and it AMAZES me to think of all the comments I heard from heterosexual women about their men! How the penis is ugly and balls are disgusting, how they only go down to get something, how they would never touch themselves "down there," how they endure sex. I became for a while the Lesbian Defender of Men--if sex is so horrible for you, why do you do it? If you are repelled by male genitalia, why touch them? I felt so bad for these poor men.
Thankfully I never had sex with men until it was something I really wanted. I am grateful that I was able to work out my issues with sex before I started having it, especially after hearing from my friends and acquaintances about years of bad sex or women who couldn't even orgasm.
Unfortunately society does not reward women embracing their own sexuality, and women also have the very real fear of getting the "slut" double standard imposed if they revel in their own juiciness. I am delighted whenever I meet other women--you!--who embrace their sexuality with both arms and then open up their spirits to it, even turning early damage into something healthier and more profound than most regular people experience.
Thanks for sharing this book with the world.
Agnes
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Sincerely,
 Veronica Monet, ACS, CAM
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