Why can't we have Peace on Earth? Simply because man has always and will always disagree with any issue that does not support what they already believe. In most conversations facts or reason are not acceptable when applied to a discussion about changing any personal belief. In human terms there seems to be very few aha moments in round table discussions. . . .

You are the CEO of your life...so how is business?

Love always

dad

In short, [women's] manipulation and [men's] overly-centralized power damage the ability for men and women to communicate; because neither side sees the other as a person who can be communicated with. The woman simply manipulates him. The man simply overpowers her.  The age-old (post-agriculture) model.

Dana

I do not know if I have ever said this: I was raised as a fundamentalist xristian.  I was raised to believe that sex is shameful but that war is the lord's will. When I think about my sick, twisted upbringing I can hardly hold my head up. I would give anything to see this disease called religion die out, but I am not at all optimistic. You know, jesus himself said "blessed are the peacemakers". I have a novel suggestion: xristians should read their bibles.

Ryan

Since you asked for it what follows is an unconsidered, off-the-cuff reaction to Deas' letter on human vs. bonobo sex.  He faults human men for thinking that women's only offered commodity is sex, then he criticizes women for using sex to control and manipulate men - almost as though it were a commodity, eh?  There's a lot of symmetry here.  If both genders act this way then who's being victimized?  We could assert that commoditizing sex is bad.  But it might make more sense to accept it as one (rudimentary) way in which the human genders interact, and then point out that we need more than that to make human society work well.  Lot's more to my mind, but let's start with more.  But, what more?  Well, we all have our own lists.  I would start with honesty and respect; I would add openness and a determination to be as safe a person as possible for the other.  I would finish with a deep spiritual commitment that holds the Other as sacred even as we ourselves are sacred.  And after that... well, so far I'm finding that enough for starters.

Not sure what a bonobo would think of this, though I would surely love to know.

Eric

Veronica,
   

I love your insights, emails and the help you give to help someone like me open up to the energies within. Yes many of them sexual but others - like the anger anorexia - are a real tough one. I've decided not to enter into a "relationship" until I get a handle on this. Thankfully I haven't been knowingly hurtful or abusive to someone but your anger anorexia has left me with the dilemma of what is the proper way to express my anger. Truth is my anger scares many due to it's intensity so I tend to go off somewhere alone and just experience it. Can't wait for your next article. Take care and thanks for all your help. It means the world to me.