Whenever someone tells me their sex life used to be good but now it isn't, I ask them "What are you ANGRY about?"  As a society we have become obsessed with pills, potions and positions as cures for our dwindling libidos and less than stellar sex lives. But we are NOT machines and simply adjusting our chemistry or rubbing a body part in an exotic manner will not lead to long-term sexual satisfaction. Sooner or later the newness and novelty will wear off and you will be left with the same empty feeling that sent you searching for cures in the first place.
 
Save yourself time and frustration by changing your approach to sex as follows:

 

1.) Acknowledge that you are a feeling creature and as such your sex is driven by emotions

 

2.) Begin to acquaint yourself with all the buried feelings you are trying to hold at bay

 

3.) Learn Anger Management Techniques so you can be assured that you won't do anything you might regret while you are learning how to have your anger without acting out. 

 

Most of us suppress our emotions because we are trying to do the right thing. The problem is that once you suppress any emotion you have in effect, tamped down all your emotions so that you can't laugh, cry or experience orgasms with the same intensity you used to.
 
The solution is very simple but also very difficult to learn.  Don't let that discourage you. You CAN revitalize your passion, romance and orgasmic potential.  Communication is key in any relationship but most of us communicate in a way which creates LESS trust - not more intimacy.

 

By learning very specific communication techniques you can open your heart and that of your partner's to create connection and compassion. You will also want to learn healthy boundaries and assertion skills.  Once you have these basics in place, you can add education about specific sexual techniques to the mix. You might even want to try conscious breathing and meditation as methods for enhancing a truly embodied sexual experience.

 

But don't bypass the part about emotions because your sex is tied to how you feel in your heart and head far more than how you feel in your genitals.  Envision your sex life as a lifelong spiritual journey of exploration and discovery - not just of physical pleasures - but of spiritual awakening. This is the most effective way to rebirth your relationship, your sex life and your passion for living.

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Love it or hate it, feminism has left its mark on society in a huge way. Some changes have been more positive than others although we don't all agree on what has been positive and what has been negative. Check out my recent keynote in Seattle which explains where I believe the feminist movement went wrong and how we can correct it!

 

Curious about the sex industry and the internet? Want to know more about the obstacles to decriminalization? Then you will enjoy this interview series!

 

If you work with the media, you will find these tips about television, radio, print and online interviews very helpful too!

 

I am the subject of a documentary on The Women's Entertainment Network (We tv): The Secrets Lives of Women. This television show broaches a familiar topic in a revolutionary way, expanding the conversation about domestic violence to address violence perpetrated by women. You can view a clip online now. 

 

And if you haven't already viewed the now infamous CNBC documentary, Dirty Money: The Business of High End Prostitution, you can still watch it online!

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Orgasms: Art and Psyche is a collaboration between myself, famous Stanford psychologist Dr. Zimbardo and a young San Francisco artist by the name of Nikita Duncan! Every page of Orgasms: Art and Psyche exposes you to visual and textual concepts which expand and push at the borders of sex positivism and artistic expression. Your personal copy is waiting for you. Get your copy now!

 

Courtesans at the Opera starring Karen Slack:  "People think of courtesans as a deprecated profession but it is really about being adored and respected." Read the rest of this newspaper article . . . 

 

Couples Coach Reveals Secret Past . . .Read newspaper article . . .

How Our Fear of Sex is Destroying the Planet Is it?click here 

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Sex Secrets of Escorts gets rave reviews . . .  

Dear Veronica,

My boyfriend Jan and I had the most wonderful Valentine's weekend ever - thanks to you. I had the pleasure of reading your book several years ago. Little did I know that it would change my life. When I gave it to Jan (whom I met 2 years ago), it became
a real eye-opener for him (as it was for me) and now we have the best sex ever: adventurous, playful, shame-free, spiritual. It is simply fantastic!

 

In all our former relationships, we never experienced such a rich, sensual, awe-inspiring sexuality. I dare say that it's a miracle. I thought you might like to hear that your book still has an enormous impact. Thank you ever so much for sharing your experiences and your wisdom.

Best regards from Germany,
Tatjana

 

PS: Your book truly has been a boost to our love life and I just love it when my wonderful lover Jan reads aloud from it.

(February 2010)

 

 

 

 

 

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