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The Wealthy Woodpecker Providing You with an Holistic Approach to Sex and Spirit
July 2009 Hello!
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Orgasmic Art and My Pacific Northwest Tour
This month I head to the Pacific Northwest for fun with family and to lead a couple of workshops (scroll below!). If you are in Portland or Seattle and would like to schedule an in-person appointment now is your chance! Be sure to contact me ASAP because this trip is booking up fast.
Maybe you are not sure what I offer during an in-person appointment? Well this should help (if you have needs not addressed below feel free to call me to discuss a tailor-made session!):
The Passion Forever Formula
Trading Sex Addiction for Sexual Celebration
Women's Sexual Power Parties
Sex Coaching for Couples
What You Can Expect from an Appointment with Veronica Monet:
1. Confidentiality: A safe person to tell your deepest darkest secrets
2. Feedback based upon Education AND Experience
3. Compassion and Deep Empathy
4. Healthy Boundaries
5. Weekly or Monthly Homework
6. Specific Techniques and Tools to Create the Results you Crave
7. Tangible and Measurable Results - You WILL See Positive Change in Your Life
Some of you have asked how you can read past issues of this newsletter. Well, I have good news! You can now access The Wealthy Woodpecker archives just by clicking here. Enjoy! And please remember to keep those questions and comments coming. This is OUR newsletter so let your voice be heard!
Want to find the most popular links to everything from my television appearances, university lectures, online interviews, articles, poetry - and even nude paintings - then click over to Delicious for quick and easy access.
If you want to see photos from my archives Flickr has it! Publicity photos, magazine covers, lingerie shots, stills from my television appearances - it's all there!
Want help with your relationship(s) or dating? Do what others are doing and call in (888.228.4494), email or Skype (Skype ID: Veronica Monet) during my Internet radio program, The Shame Free Zone which airs every Saturday at 5PM Pacific time! You can Twitter your comments and questions too! July 18 my guest will be artist Nikita Duncan who paints orgasms! She painted my orgasm and you can see it here.
This month you can access several discounts for my services. You will find a coupon as you read further into to this newsletter. Here is a discount offer to get you started! |
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Veronica in Person
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Are You a Sex Addict or Simply Subject to Sexual Shame?
When: Wednesday July 29 from 3PM to 5PM
Where: The Center for Sex Positive Culture
1608 15th Ave W
Seattle, WA 98119-2717
(206) 270-9746
How Much: $15 (both Seattle workshops for $30 if you RSVP in advance)
Sex Addiction is touted as a modern malady resulting from the media's preoccupation with sexual imagery and online porn. We are warned that certain sexual behaviors are signs of sex addiction - anything from "too much" masturbation to frequenting prostitutes can indict our sex lives as dysfunctional. We are admonished to seek treatment for behaviors which use to define "immorality." Is this therapeutic paradigm simply new packaging for the "morals police?" Or is sex addiction real? And if sex addiction does exist, exactly what distinguishes it from sexual shame?
This presentation will provide you will clear guidelines for separating the shame from the dysfunction and empower you to explore your sexuality with freedom and joy.
Rebirthing the Great Whore of Babylon
When: Wednesday July 29 from 7:30PM to 9:30PM
Where: The Center for Sex Positive Culture
1608 15th Ave W
Seattle, WA 98119-2717
(206) 270-9746
How Much: $25 ($30 for both Seattle workshops with an advanced RSVP)
The Bible spends a lot of verse condemning prostitutes and one in particular, The Great Whore of Babylon, seems to evoke an inordinate amount of ire. What IS it about whores that can cause so much consternation and anger? Who is afraid of the Big Bad Whore? And what could any of this nonsense have to do with YOUR life? Former courtesan and self-admitted whore, Veronica Monet will shed light on the subject and show you how these archaic concepts shape your modern sex life and relationships. This fun and informative presentation culminates with a ceremony inviting you to rebirth the Great Whore of Babylon in your own life and become an Honorary Whore.
Rebirthing the Goddess: Seven Simple Steps to Embrace Your Divine Sensuality
When: Sunday August 2 from 2PM to 3PM
Where: Holistic Healing Expo
Holiday Inn Express 9175 W Stockton Blvd. Hwy. 99 at Laguna Blvd. Exit (next to Old Navy) Elk Grove, CA 95758
How Much: Click here for your FREE admission coupon
Do you ever feel like you are missing a part of yourself? Do you find yourself hiding portions of your personality which you know others won't accept? Would you like to reconnect to your true self - your whole being? I will outline seven ways you can create a holistic sensuality which will empower you to be more authentic, centered, creative and joyful. |
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Television InterviewsFOX40 in Sacramento invited me back for a fourth time. Click here to view this most recent episode about those infamous "cheating" websites! You can find it online. Just enter the words "cheaters websites" into the search window for the News at Ten video segments.
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Veronica on the Air
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Painting Orgasms
My July 18 guest in The Shame Free Zone is artist Nikita Duncan who painted my orgasm if you can believe that! Tune in to hear all about it and be sure to check out her painting of my orgasmic journey here. And remember your questions and comments are always welcome in The Shame Free Zone!
When: Saturdays at 5PM Pacific Time
Be sure to check out the archives where you can find interviews of sex celebrities and experts such as master storyteller Cosi Fabian and the incomparable Annie Sprinkle. BBS Radio now offers online educational courses too, so check it out! |
Veronica in Print
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Too Fat to Love?
"It's great that women are realizing that we are also visual creatures and that we are sexually stimulated by what we see and that we have a right to ask our partners to gift us with the benefit of good grooming and a regular visit to the gym," Veronica Monet, a certified sexologist who specializes in relationship dynamics, says. But "any time we threaten our partners by withholding sex or love whether we're male or female, we take the relationship in a negative direction."
Monet suggests talking frankly about your feelings with your partner. For example, "'This thing isn't working for me, would you be willing to change it?' 'I would be so turned on if you lost 20 pounds.' The big reward any man gets is female approval."
Three Tips for Dating a Wealthy Man
These tips for women will boost self-confidence and independence - and help you achieve all types of goals (not just dating powerful, wealthy men!).
"Like with anything in life, there are specific steps you can take to boost your self-esteem and walk comfortably in the world of wealth and power," says Monet.
"My place is not to judge, but to inform," says Monet. "And since all relationships have some economic dimension to them (for instance, we leave our children with an inheritance when we die and our pets love us primarily because we feed them) I would rather bring the economic aspects of dating out in the open where you can honestly decide what you want, why you want it and how you are going to get it."
How Our Fear of Sex is Destroying the Planet
One in one hundred people now live in prison in the US and prisons are fast becoming a major industry for our country. War, famine, violence, AIDS, the population explosion and global warming - nations and individuals are struggling to find solutions to the most pressing issues of our time. But are we looking in the right direction? The short answer is "NO." Because of cultural training and persistent taboos, the key to our survival eludes us.
First we must ask "What IS Sex?" Most people think that is a stupid question.
Falling In and Out of Love
You find yourself dreading walking in that door. Sometimes it seems as if you could cut the tension with a knife. The silence between the two of you has taken on epic proportions. You do your thing and your partner does his or her thing. Although you both live in the same house, it no longer reminds you of Home Sweet Home. And late at night when your partner is lying next to you fast asleep, you wonder what happened.
If you aren't careful the tears start down your cheeks. But mostly you find ways to distract yourself and pretend you feel the same hope and excitement that you did when you first embarked on this relationship.
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More by Veronica Monet
Just click here then scroll to The Reading Room where you will see my smiling face inviting you to explore how our fear of sex is messing things up here on planet earth - and of course how I recommend we fix it!
Or check out a short article I wrote about Sex and Global Warming by clicking here.This online article in The Naughty American is fun and informative and I enjoyed interviewing for it. You might find some of the anecdotes more than amusing.
Leica Meliton interviewed me for this article for Beauty News.
And of course if you haven't picked up your personal copy of my book, Sex Secrets of Escorts (Alpha Books 2005), the best price is on Amazon.com. If you DO have a copy, please consider writing a review for it on Amazon or your personal blog. Check out this review from Tracy over at HappyHer.com.
Maybe you wonder WHY I wrote another sex manual? I tell you all about it in this YouTube video! |
Erotic Evolution
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Part Two: Sex Addictions versus Sexual Shame
outline three simple guidelines for determining if you are a sex addict and the three most important factors needed to recover from sex addiction. OK, here they are!
Simple Guidelines to Determine if You are a Sex Addict:
1. You Avoid Feelings and/or Memories by Engaging in Sexual Behaviors
2. The Quality of Your Life is Suffering due to Your Sexual Behaviors
3. You Have Tried to Stop but You Just Can't
Three Factors Needed to Recover from Sex Addiction:
1. You Need to Have Hit Your "Bottom"
2. You Need to be Capable of Complete Honesty with Yourself
3. You Have to be Willing to Follow Directions and Get Out of Your Comfort Zone
Finally let's not forget we have all been brainwashed to feel ashamed and guilty about our sexual behavior. Make every effort to give yourself the benefit of the doubt about your sexual behavior because chances are you don't have an addiction to sex - you just enjoy it! And keep in mind those three warning signs of sex addiction because an addiction can develop as a reaction to stress as well as unresolved emotional issues. It is no laughing matter because sex addiction can create just as much mental torture as any other addiction and it can lead to bankruptcy, unemployment, depression and suicide.
But don't buy into the idea that certain sexual behaviors such as viewing porn, seeing prostitutes or engaging in BDSM automatically mean you are a sex addict. It's not what you do, but how and why. Safe, sane and consensual adult behavior is a sign of sexual health if it is balanced with a fulfilling and fully functional lifestyle.
Feel motivated to share your perspective?
Email me or post a response to my blog! And if you like, I will even post your comments in my next newsletter. |
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Why Your Body is Like an Aquarium
Last month I talked a little about alkaline diets. This month I want to bring that concept home for you. If you have ever maintained a swimming pool or kept a fish aquarium then you know how important pH levels are to life in water. In the case of the swimming pool, we strive to prevent life such as bacteria or algae from growing. Our objective with a fish tank is to keep the fish alive. Either way, expert attention to acid and alkaline levels is essential.
Well the human body isn't that different from a fish aquarium because we are trying to keep our cells alive and healthy in their liquid home (our blood and bodily fluids). If we become too acidic, our cells start to die and unfortunately a great deal of common diseases can be traced to unhealthy acidic levels in our diets. The American diet is particularly acidic.
Why don't you hear more about this? Primarily because doctors are brainwashed to prescribe medication - NOT teach you how to prevent disease past the obligatory "eat right and get some exercise." But if you want to be truly healthy you have to pay at least as much attention to what you are putting into your body as you would if you were caring for a tank of fish. So if you want to explore alkaline eating further, here are some simple explanations and easy to follow charts. Be sure to read the list of symptoms associated with a too acidic diet and see how many apply to you. |
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Help and Healing for You ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
$25 OFF Relationship Repair You can learn very specific techniques to Repair, Renew and Rebirth your Relationship. There isn't anything particularly complicated about the process. It just takes knowledge, practice and a certain amount of mentoring from someone who has been there. The good news is that you don't have to choose between having the same argument over and over again or keeping your feelings to yourself. You really CAN communicate your deepest desires and most vulnerable fears to your partner in a way which Creates Compassion and Connection. The unexpected Bonus? Your Sex Life will thank you. Why Not Start Your Erotic Evolution Today?
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Where Sex and Spirit Come Together
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This x-rated compilation of two videos and two slide shows in one DVD includes Real Women . . . Real Fantasies, recipient of the May 2001 San Francisco Sex Worker Film & Video Festival SINEMA AWARD. Dubbed "a groundbreaker in the feminization of porn" by Playboy magazine, it includes the x-rated debut of the infamous Mistress Ilsa Strix.
I don't like mainstream porn. It insults me as a woman with ridiculous lies like the one where all women have orgasms while their partner pulls out and ejaculates on their back or face. I can't stand the cookie cutter bodies and faked female orgasms either. So rather than lament the sorry state of adult videos, I decided to make my own. I got a few of my sex worker friends together to share their stories and their orgasms. Recently, a customer complained that he didn't see what was so special about Erotic Diaries. He had fast-forwarded his way to the "good parts" and all the women did was masturbate. I asked him to go back and LISTEN to the DVD. Yes, you will want to listen to my porn, because the stories are just as important as the pictures.
"The biggest thing I noticed was how friendly the whole thing seemed. A lot of porn that I have seen up till now seems to make me feel inadequate or like there is a competition going on or something. This was more like a group of friends masturbating together and sharing their fantasies. One thing that I was surprised by was the slide show with your disabled friend. I thought it would not appeal to me at all, but it contributed to the sense of sex being a natural part of life and I also thought you were very beautiful in it."
Adult Content: Sexually Explicit: Not for Sale to Minors.
All content conforms to Section 2257 of Title 18 of the United States Code (18 U.S.C. § 2257 and 28 C.F.R. 75)
The Stanford DVD 2005
Did Veronica really model a strap-on for the mostly Christian virgin students at Stanford? Get this DVD and find out!
Order Veronica's Lecture DVD now!
Amazon Short Series: Veronica's White Trash Confessions
Strictly for readers who want the raw reality associated with recovery. If you are having a tough time or just dealing with painful memories you may find comfort in my catharsis.
Click here to order for only 49 cents, if you dare. |
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Make a Difference
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Save Wolves from Senseless Slaughter!
Northern Rockes wolves lost Endangered Species Act protections May 4, 2009, Hundreds of gray wolves in the Northern Rockies and parts of Greater Yellowstone are no longer protected under the Endangered Species Act (ESA). Without these life-saving protections, more than 1,000 wolves could be killed.
In the Greater Yellowstone region, hundreds of wolves could die in states like Idaho, Montana and Wyoming now that federal protections are stripped from these still-recovering animals. In Alaska, over 1,000 wolves have been slaughtered from the skies through the brutal practice of aerial hunting.
Once virtually eliminated from the lower 48 United States, wolves are clawing their way back from extinction their re-introduction into Yellowstone National Park and the Northern Rockies in 1995.
Meanwhile, Alaska continues its brutal program of allowing the aerial hunting of wolves. Through this barbaric practice, aerial gunners shoot wolves from aircraft, or chase them to exhaustion. Then they land and shoot the helpless wolves at point-blank range. Defenders is fighting this practice in Alaska and also working to pass the Protect America's Wildlife (PAW) Act in Congress which would nationally ban aerial hunting.
And in the Southwest, fewer than 60 wolves struggle to maintain a foothold in the wild as anti-wolf forces rally to eliminate their very existence. We're on the ground in Arizona and New Mexico, countering anti-wolf misinformation to ensure that these endangered wolves have a future in the Southwest.
But our work doesn't stop there. We calm itchy trigger fingers by compensating ranchers for livestock losses attributed to wolves. We also implement efforts to keep wolves and livestock apart, so that wolves are kept alive and not shot because of eating livestock. Learn more about participating in one of these programs through a Wolf-Saving Gift.
Your adoption helps save wolves by supporting work to end barbaric aerial hunting in Alaska -- and prevent programs like it from spreading to the Greater Yellowstone region and other states. It also enables the fight in court to keep vital federal protections for wolves in the Greater Yellowstone and Northern Rockies region; helps underwrite wolf-saving work with ranchers to keep livestock and wolf packs apart and allows conservationists to post rewards and help bring to justice people who illegally kill wolves.
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Affiliates Corner
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These are quality resources I think you may enjoy exploring. Whether you wish to shop for sex toys in a woman friendly environment or you crave a romantic getaway, you are sure to find something to pique your interest.
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Veronica Monet is a Certified Sexologist, Conflict Resolution Specialist and Relationship Expert. Begin Your Erotic Evolution today!