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The Wealthy Woodpecker Providing You with an Holistic Approach to Sex and Spirit
May 2009 Hello!
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Can You Help Me?
If you have been waiting for me to reply to your email for longer than a week, I would really appreciate it if you sent it to me again. After switching from Outlook Express to Thunderbird, I had hoped my email problems were a thing of the past but no such luck. Thunderbird blew up on me and now I cannot access my inbox or my archives for that matter. There were 200 emails in my inbox! Apparently the data is still on my hard-drive but I can't acces it. If you are a Thunderbird whiz then please contact me with a solution. I need help!
In the mean time please resend your emails so I can get back to you. And read on for all the things I want to do for you!
For instance in just a few weeks I will be offering online classes on a variety of topics: Ancient Sacred Prostitution, How to Date a Wealthy Man, The Straight Man's Guide to Getting Laid, Erotic Evolution and Relationship Repair. While this program is in the development stages, I would love your feedback. Which topics sound interesting? What subjects would you add to this list? Email me with your thoughts and I will do my best to make sure your needs get met.
I am also presenting you with many ways to interact with me and/or access information you won't find on my websites. For instance, if you want to find the most popular links to everything from my television appearances, university lectures, online interviews, articles, poetry - and even nude paintings - then click over to Delicious for quick and easy access.
I have created a photo album for you too. If you want to see photos from my archives Flickr has it! Publicity photos, magazine covers, lingerie shots, stills from my television appearances - it's all there!
Have you been thinking about making a telephone appointment with me but you aren't ready to shell out the shekels just yet? That's ok. Do what others are doing and call in (888.228.4494), email or Skype (Skype ID: Veronica Monet) your questions for FREE during my Internet radio program, The Shame Free Zone which airs every Thursday at 8PM Pacific time! I am happy to conduct full sessions on the air so you can go as deep as your courage will allow. You can Twitter your comments and questions too! And if you think you can fill an hour with your relationship drama, contact me in advance to discuss whether you can book the entire hour for free.
And finally don't forget that I have made this newsletter more interactive. Check out the new section entitled Readers Respond. If you find any of the subject matter in this newsletter compelling enough to write a response, then please email me. I will post several excerpts in next months' newsletter. The feature article located in the Erotic Evolution section will also appear in my blog so you may post at length there too. |
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Veronica in Person
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FREE Event for Men, Women and Couples: Women's Sexual Empowerment and The Pleasure Principles for Men!
Of course you have heard of the G-Spot - but did you know women also have an A-Spot and a U-Spot? Would you know where to find any of these pleasure spots? And what about men? Do they have any pleasure spots guaranteed to drive them crazy with passion? I will provide you with clear answers to these and many other questions. I will also show you things your doctor doesn't know about female ejaculation and male sexual response. If you have ANY questions about sex at all, this IS the time and place to get answers - from a certified sexologist no less! And while you are at it, pick up your personal autographed copy of my book and erotic DVD! Kiss n Tell offers a COMPLETE line of adult products in a classy, woman-friendly environment. Come join the fun!
When: Friday, June 12th starts at 7PM
Yale University Presentation Online Now
A video of my 15 minute presentation for Yale on Your Sexual Bill of Rights is online now. The video resolution is appalling so you won't really be able to see my presentation but I am quite certain you will find it worth listening to.
You can also read my postings for Yale on this Campus Blog |
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| Veronica on TV
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Television InterviewsFOX40 in Sacramento has invited me back for a fourth time. Tune in this week to hear me offer my expert opinion on those infamous "cheating" websites! We will be taping Monday the 1st of June so the segment will probably air that evening or the next evening. If you miss it, you can find it online. Just look for the evening news video segments. Of course I will be posting the link in next month's newsletter.
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Veronica on the Air
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The Shame Free Zone has moved to Saturday Afternoons!
My radio program, The Shame Free Zone, is a great way for you to get answers to your questions about sex, relationships and spirituality for free! Or maybe you don't have any questions. Maybe what you really need is an opportunity to be heard? Well, your comments are welcome in The Shame Free Zone too!
When: Saturdays at 2PM Pacific Time
If you are just in the mood to listen, be sure to check out the archives where you can find interviews of sex celebrities and experts such as master storyteller Cosi Fabian and the incomparable Annie Sprinkle. BBS Radio now offers online educational courses too, so check it out! Other Radio Shows
I have a lot of fun being a guest on other radio programs too. I never know what they are going to ask me and that's half the fun.
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Veronica in Print
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Falling In and Out of Love
You recognize the signs. You have seen this movie before. When you first met it was wonderful. Everything your romantic partner said and did was amazing or at least charming. You laughed at his or her foibles. It was easier to forgive then. But now there is a cold wind blowing and it isn't outside-it is in your home!
You find yourself dreading walking in that door. Sometimes it seems as if you could cut the tension with a knife. The silence between the two of you has taken on epic proportions. You do your thing and your partner does his or her thing. Although you both live in the same house, it no longer reminds you of Home Sweet Home. And late at night when your partner is lying next to you fast asleep, you wonder what happened.
If you aren't careful the tears start down your cheeks. But mostly you find ways to distract yourself and pretend you feel the same hope and excitement that you did when you first embarked on this relationship.
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More by Veronica Monet
Just click here then scroll to The Reading Room where you will see my smiling face inviting you to explore how our fear of sex is messing things up here on planet earth - and of course how I recommend we fix it!
Or check out a short article I wrote about Sex and Global Warming by clicking here.This online article in The Naughty American is fun and informative and I enjoyed interviewing for it. You might find some of the anecdotes more than amusing.
Leica Meliton interviewed me for this article for Beauty News.
And of course if you haven't picked up your personal copy of my book, Sex Secrets of Escorts (Alpha Books 2005), the best price is on Amazon.com. If you DO have a copy, please consider writing a review for it on Amazon or your personal blog. Check out this review from Tracy over at HappyHer.com.
Maybe you wonder WHY I wrote another sex manual? I tell you all about it in this YouTube video! |
Erotic Evolution
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In Search of the Perfect Quick Fix
You and I have spent our lives surrounded by ever more "time-saving" technology and ever more effective "cures" for the diseases we sometimes fall prey to. There is no doubt that we live longer than our predecessors and most of us enjoy the added comfort and ease afforded by a plethora of wondrous inventions.
In this age of satellite communications, iPhones, BlackBerries and Bluetooth we almost expect instantaneous results with a minimum of effort. Western medicine's focus on treating disorders with an endless supply of pills has trained us to ignore our choices in life with the assurance that a quick trip to our doctor will "fix" any self-inflicted harm we may suffer from. This expectation that science, industry and medicine will provide us with the perfect quick fix for whatever impedes our incessant desire for immediate gratification has unfortunately resulted in a superficial and less satisfying existence.
It turns out that a truly fulfilling life requires some effort and exertion on our part. We all want to have fun and enjoy life. But we have gotten a little confused about how best to do that. As the saying goes, you get what you pay for and that applies to more than just shopping. Quick fixes rarely result in the kind of deep change most of us crave. Additionally, if you put a lot of yourself into something, you will feel much more satisfaction than if you are simply handed things.
That doesn't mean suffering is mandatory. But it does mean you should plan a balance between work and play if you want your life to work well. I am not just referring to what you do for a living and what you do with your free time. I am speaking about a basic approach to life which accepts that anything we want will require an equal measure of something which feels more like work than play to us. A little metaphorical sweat will pay off in the long run.
What this means is that each of us are more likely to find what we seek IF we are willing to leave our comfort zones once in awhile and ride those feelings of fear into our personal bliss.
Whether you are struggling with a health issue or financial difficulties or relationship drama, you will find your answers come with a price tag. It's just the price of admission and most likely won't feel much more painful than ripping a Band-Aid off. But whatever you do, don't expect to gain access to your dreams with nothing more than a wish.
Feel motivated to share your perspective?
Email me or post a response to my blog! And if you like, I will even post your comments in my next newsletter. |
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How to Look and Feel Good in Your Skin by Marci Bowman
I'm a personal fitness trainer, so when I began reading Veronica Monet's book, Sex Secrets of Escorts, I had other things in mind than contemplating my business- after all, what does exercise have to do with eroticism? Not far into its pages, I felt I had found a sister of sorts. I love Ms. Monet's sex-positive views and advice. Nevertheless, the strange thing was that many of her topics resonated with me on a career level. I continued thinking of certain lines, which led me back to my original question: What do they have in common?
The answer: Confidence affects - and is affected by- both of them.
"First and foremost, we are all individuals, and this is no less the case when it comes to the male body," writes Ms. Monet. Amen to that. Each of us is unique, but that's a fact the fitness industry often overlooks. I've seen certain approaches being touted as the best ways to get in shape, yet they're contradicting what was considered the gold-standard methods of a mere few months earlier. There are few 'shoulds' in exercise, though theories abound. The only 'shoulds' I truly believe in are: You should find safe, pleasurable, and enjoyable ways to keep your body active and healthy- and you should love yourself every step of the way.
Who can blame my clients when they come to me confused by how to get in shape? "Thanks to years of negative messages from the media and the culture, all women feel self-conscious and inadequate about their bodies." As I read Veronica's words, I pictured my clientele during our first meetings. Many were on the verge of swearing off exercise entirely if their needs and desires didn't conform to the latest fitness trend or body type. Often they just needed help to focus inward to the sometimes subtle- sometimes desperately blatant- signals their bodies were sending out. I believe that guiding my clients back to their inherent body awareness is still my most important task as a personal trainer.
Even someone as confident as Ms. Monet has had her moments of insecurity ("I was painfully aware of those parts of my body that I wanted to change."). Everyone has felt that way at least once, and for many people it's a chronic condition. I credit my current practice of Pilates, Berk Method, and Hatha and Kundalini yoga, for helping me to feel bien dans ma peau (comfortable in my skin, as the French say). I enjoy the variety- and these disciplines share a common approach, as well. They promote moving in a functional, full range-of-motion way, while focusing on the connection between body, breath, and mind. I use these practices as the basis of my personal-training sessions, but I adapt them to my individual clients' needs and preferences.
As Ms. Monet advocates, "Because most of us have been programmed to feel inadequate by media messages, you have to take a proactive approach to get past that negativity and feel sexy!" Our minds exist in our bodies- not just our brains- so using our muscles can't help but have a positive impact on our emotions and confidence. Through it all, though, we should be able to find something pleasurable in the process. No pain, no gain makes no sense. Enjoying exercise is the key to making it a lifelong habit. And that habit makes us, not the media, the masters of our bodies- call it "Confidence Tips of a Personal Trainer."
Marci Bowman is a certified personal trainer who lives and works in San Francisco. You can check out her website at form-and-function.net and email her at marcibowman@sbcglobal.net. |
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Help and Healing for You ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I Wish I Knew How to Get My Partner to . . .
How would YOU finish that sentence? Wish your partner spent more time making love with you? Do you sometimes feel as if your words fall upon deaf ears? Are you worried you may not be as sexy or good in bed as your partner wishes you were? Or do you feel misunderstood or underappreciated? Maybe everything seems OK but nothing feels really great in your relationship. When It Just Isn't Worth Having Another Argument . . .
You know that feeling. Your emotions get stuck in your throat and your stomach turns just a little. You love your partner and want to tell them the truth about your anger or sadness BUT it never goes the way you wish it would. Somehow your best intentions seem to disintegrate into yet another useless argument. So after awhile you decide to keep some things to yourself. And after awhile the sex isn't quite as good as it used to be or the two of you don't seem to have as much to say to each other anymore. And you wonder what happened? It seems to happen to all couples so it must be normal. But is it? What If You Could Fall in Love Again?
Wouldn't it be nice if your partner saw you with the same fascination and excitement that they did when you first started your romance? Remember how you use to tingle all over when your lover walked into the room? What if you could get those good feelings back? Relationship Repair I can teach you very specific techniques to Repair, Renew and Rebirth your Relationship. There isn't anything particularly complicated about the process. It just takes knowledge, practice and a certain amount of mentoring from someone who has been there. The good news is that you don't have to choose between having the same argument over and over again or keeping your feelings to yourself. You really CAN communicate your deepest desires and most vulnerable fears to your partner in a way which Creates Compassion and Connection. The unexpected Bonus? Your Sex Life will thank you. You do NOT Have to Settle. You Deserve to Enjoy Love to the Fullest. If You are Ready for Real Change in Your Relationship I Can Help You Make It Happen! Why Not Start Your Erotic Evolution Today? My office hours are 10AM to 10PM Pacific Time Monday through Friday.
Call me toll free at 888.903.0050. |
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Where Sex and Spirit Come Together
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This x-rated compilation of two videos and two slide shows in one DVD includes Real Women . . . Real Fantasies, recipient of the May 2001 San Francisco Sex Worker Film & Video Festival SINEMA AWARD. Dubbed "a groundbreaker in the feminization of porn" by Playboy magazine, it includes the x-rated debut of the infamous Mistress Ilsa Strix.
I don't like mainstream porn. It insults me as a woman with ridiculous lies like the one where all women have orgasms while their partner pulls out and ejaculates on their back or face. I can't stand the cookie cutter bodies and faked female orgasms either. So rather than lament the sorry state of adult videos, I decided to make my own. I got a few of my sex worker friends together to share their stories and their orgasms. Recently, a customer complained that he didn't see what was so special about Erotic Diaries. He had fast-forwarded his way to the "good parts" and all the women did was masturbate. I asked him to go back and LISTEN to the DVD. Yes, you will want to listen to my porn, because the stories are just as important as the pictures.
"The biggest thing I noticed was how friendly the whole thing seemed. A lot of porn that I have seen up till now seems to make me feel inadequate or like there is a competition going on or something. This was more like a group of friends masturbating together and sharing their fantasies. One thing that I was surprised by was the slide show with your disabled friend. I thought it would not appeal to me at all, but it contributed to the sense of sex being a natural part of life and I also thought you were very beautiful in it."
Adult Content: Sexually Explicit: Not for Sale to Minors.
All content conforms to Section 2257 of Title 18 of the United States Code (18 U.S.C. § 2257 and 28 C.F.R. 75)
The Stanford DVD 2005
Did Veronica really model a strap-on for the mostly Christian virgin students at Stanford? Get this DVD and find out!
Order Veronica's Lecture DVD now!
Amazon Short Series: Veronica's White Trash Confessions
Strictly for readers who want the raw reality associated with recovery. If you are having a tough time or just dealing with painful memories you may find comfort in my catharsis.
Click here to order for only 49 cents, if you dare. |
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Make a Difference
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Five Ways YOU Can Change the World for the Better
1. Do What You Love: Your Passion is Your Gift to the World
2. Donate Your Time and/or Money to Causes You are Passionate About
3. Pray for the Planet, People, Peace and Positive Change
4. Vote at the Ballot Box and Vote with Your Dollars
5. Walk Your Talk: Integrity Makes This a Better World for All of Us |
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Affiliates Corner
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These are quality resources I think you may enjoy exploring. Whether you wish to shop for sex toys in a woman friendly environment or you crave a romantic getaway, you are sure to find something to pique your interest.
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This offer comes from the folks at National Geographic:
Are you interested in sharing your story? Perhaps you or your partner has had an affair and Veronica is working with you?
The National Geographic channel television documentary is exploring the subject of 'Adultery' and is seeking to understand and explain this - examining this sensitive issue from a number of angles.
More and more people are now seeking therapy and therefore we think it would be beneficial to the understanding of this area to interview a couple who are interested in sharing their experience of adultery and of working in Relationship Repair and/or sex therapy with Veronica.
Here is a little more information about the series: 'Taboo' is one of National Geographic's flagship shows, a long running popular anthropological documentary series that looks at nature's most interesting animal - the human being. It explores our beliefs, rituals and practices across a wide and varied range of cultures in order to shed light on them and better understand them. We are also very experienced at dealing with highly sensitive subjects and of course treat everyone with great respect and empathy.
IF YOU THINK YOU MIGHT BE INTERESTED WE WOULD BE MORE THAN HAPPY TO DISCUSS THIS IN MORE DETAIL AND GIVE YOU ALL THE INFORMATION YOU NEED - WITH ABSOLUTELY NO COMMITMENT AT THIS STAGE TO APPEAR IN THE DOCUMENTARY.
If you are interested or just want more details, please email or call Veronica at 888.903.0050. | |
Veronica Monet is a Certified Sexologist, Conflict Resolution Specialist and Relationship Expert. Begin Your Erotic Evolution today!