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. Welcome To The Black Men's Xchange National Gatekeepers e-Newsletter. This e-newsletter is for the BMX-New York chapter gathering on Friday, July 22nd, 2011.
Brothers, please if you would take the time and tell us about your experience at a BMX-NY meeting. This is a confidential Survey with no names required. We appreciate your time and comments as we continue to try and make your experience at BMX-NY one of true community.

BROTHERS! Although not required, BRINGING A POTLUCK DISH AND/OR BEVERAGE of your choosing would be a generous offering for the repast after the group discussion! Your offering defrays a cost to the organization. Also, end of gathering DONATIONS are also greatly appreciated, too. THANK YOU!
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BMX- New York Topic For This Friday, July 22nd, 2011
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"MOGUL" Reading and Book Signing
with Author, Terrance Dean
Facilitated by JM Green
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FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
Contact: Yona Deshommes
Phone: (212) 698-7566
E-mail: Yona.Deshommes@simonandschuster.com
Entertainment industry insider and author of the Essence bestselling Memoir, HIDING IN HIP HOP, returns with a highly-anticipated novel
that explores the secret gay life of a hip-hop's impresario
MOGUL: A Novel
By Terrance Dean
With the publication of Hiding in Hip-Hop, the controversial Essence bestselling expose that set the entertainment industry on its ear, Terrance Dean, who has worked in television and film for well over a decade, became the voice of African American men in Hollywood and in Hip-Hop who conduct clandestine same-sex relationships. Through revealing yet discreet anecdotes about his liaisons with the rich and famous who were also on the "DL," Dean's provocative and candid account brought to light a hidden gay subculture that insiders have been well aware of for years.
Now, with his debut novel, MOGUL (Atria Books Paperback Original; On-sale date: June 14, 2011; ISBN: 9781451611922; $15.00), Dean once again returns to this subject matter as he entices readers to play the guessing game about the real-life celebrities who serve as inspiration for his larger-than-life characters. In a literary style that's E. Lynn Harris meets Zane, Dean presents a fictional page-turner about a beloved music industry genius who's launched the careers of the hottest stars in hip-hop but also harbors a secret that could destroy his life and empire.
Aaron "Big A.T." Tremble, an athletically gifted teenager from Brooklyn, discovers he is attracted to George, one of the most popular basketball stars at his school and soon, the two become embroiled in a secret romance as they juggle studies, gym practice and girlfriends. A year later during their senior year, George announces he is moving to California for college. While Big A.T. is heartbroken, he pours himself into his music to forget George and begins producing for local rappers in his neighborhood. After a chance meeting with the retired kingpin of hip-hop, Larry "Pop" Singleton, Big A.T.'s life is forever changed as he becomes Pop's protégé and a member of the "family"-a network of secretly gay men in the industry who will eventually become instrumental in helping him launch his own music label. Attracting the biggest names in the industry, Big A.T. has the Midas touch with millions of dollars in the bank, real estate holdings, luxury cars, and countless fans. He's built a bona fide empire but along the way, Big A.T. falls hard for one of his artists, the sexy Tickman. They love each other but know they must keep their relationship a secret and to keep any press speculation about their sexuality at bay, each becomes involved in relationships with high-profile women. However, unbeknownst to Big A.T., a journalist seeking revenge against hip-hop power brokers and looking for his 15 minutes of fame obtains compromising photographs that threaten to expose the truth about Big A. T. Will his life crumble in the wake of a huge scandal or will Big A.T. survive-and out of the closet forever?
Terrance Dean has worked in the entertainment industry for over 15 years with heavy hitters such as Spike Lee, Rob Reiner, Keenan Ivory Wayans, and Anjelica Houston. He has worked with television and film production companies such as BET, Savoy Television, Paramount Pictures, Warner Bros. Pictures, and Sony Pictures. Most recently, Dean worked with MTV Networks for over six years helping to produce live award shows and events including MTV Video Music Awards, Movie Awards, Hip Hop Honors, Rock Honors, Sports & Music Festival, and Choose or Lose. Dean is also the founder/creator of Men's Empowerment, Inc. and co-creator of The Gathering of Men with Adeyemi Bandele. He attended Fisk University and graduated with a bachelor's degree in Communications. Dean is a 2005 John Seigenthaler Journalism Fellow from Vanderbilt University and served as a writer-in-residence with the Detroit Public School system. He is a contributor to the anthologies Souls of My Brothers and Gone Too Soon and his writings have appeared in publications such as Vibe, Essence, Juicy, The Advocate and Fatherhood Today.
Terrance Dean is available for interviews.
Please contact Yona Deshommes at (212) 698-7566 or at Yona.Deshommes@simonandschuster.com.
MOGUL: A Novel
By Terrance Dean
Atria Books Paperback Original
On-sale Date: June 14, 2011
ISBN: 9781451611922
$15.00/320 pp.
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Speaker, Educator, Author, and Detroit native, Terrance Dean, is the author of the Essence Magazine best-seller Hiding In Hip Hop - On the Down Low in the Entertainment Industry from Music to Hollywood (Simon & Schuster/Atria Books - May 2008). He is also the author of Reclaim Your Power! A 30-Day Guide to Hope, Healing and Inspiration for Men of Color (Random House/Villard - May 2003); and, Straight From Your Gay Best Friend - The Straight-Up Truth About Relationships, Work, and Having a Fabulous Life! (Agate/Bolden Books - October 2010). Dean also conceived the idea and concept for a tribute book, Visible Lives: Three Stories in Tribute to E. Lynn Harris, (Kensington - May 2010), for his dear friend and mentor, New York Times best-selling author, the late E. Lynn Harris.
Dean's highly anticipated debut novel, MOGUL, is scheduled for release June 2011 with Atria Books. The book is a fictional story based on the life of one of New York's most beloved music producers.
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Friday Forum Recap
(BMX- NY Topic Hi-lites From Friday, June 24th, 2011)
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During Friday's dialogue we looked at the extent to which same gender loving men flex our political muscle from the following angles:
Define political. "To advocate for causes..." [Participant reads dictionary definition] "'Pertaining to public policy; concerned with the administration of government: a political system: Engaged in or taking sides in politics...'" What does it mean to be political? "Having a voice and using it everywhere I go...And now, learning to use it as a gay, same gender loving, HIV+ man...It's phucking freeing...I came to this [disposition] by almost losing my life..." "[Being political means] If it's not documented, it doesn't exist...It's the ability to make sure things are documented...The police harass us [with impunity]...I call Internal Affairs...I call CCRB...I hold them to account...[That's being political]..." "Being political is challenging the status quo...Seeing something is wrong or unjust and setting out to right the wrong..." What is political capital? How is it garnered? Do we have any? Where? "[Having] some kind of clout..." "Capital...The assets, the gains and abilities we have in unity...Resources, numbers, people...BMX could be considered capital because here we are a group of men...We don't have a lot of political capital as Black men because of what we were told by our parents...That we were wrong...It's slowly growing..." {Facilitator says, "That's important...You said Black men don't have a lot of political capital because of what we were told by our parents...Can you elaborate on that?..."} "We were taught into shame..." "That's a great point...That we are not present to our political capital because we have been taught to be ashamed of who we are...Being political presumes worthiness..." "We all have political capital...It's about whether or not we choose to use it..." "Once you give gay, SGL, or whatever [people] the right to marry, you're legitimizing the group...As long as you don't, you're robbing them of their political capital..." "It's not gay, SGL or whatever...Especially where we're talking about political clout...capital...[What I call myself involves] self-determination...It's connected to [having a] voice, and the things that impede our capacity [to find our voice...and take political action]..." "{Facilitator says, "[Same gender loving in the name of] A self-determination movement [which] is crucial...We came out of slavery only a moment ago...We are still in the process of defining ourselves..."} "That's so true...My mother died in January... And as I was preparing for her home-going, it occurred to me that she was born fewer than fifty years after Emancipation...I was born fewer than a hundred years after Emancipation...The reason we went from Nigger to Colored, to Negro...And, I remember, as a kid, for a moment between Negro and Black, some among us identifying as Afro American...Malcolm founded the Organization of Afro American Unity, I believe it was...And I remember Black people arguing amongst ourselves as we opted to shift from Negro to Black...And now, we are in another transition...As homosexual Black folk stand up with Same Gender Loving...The reason we have continually shifted from one identification to the next is because we have continually opted to redefine ourselves in the face of definitions that were imposed on us...So, yes...in terms of gaining political capital, it matters what we call ourselves...Do you think it's an accident that we may be within hours of marriage equality in the State of New York?...No, gay works for the people who coined it...Something I learned growing up through all of that is that, the way you can tell if an identification works for a people is that, it impels them to act in their own interest..." Is being pro-Black and pro-SGL radical? "Radical is stepping out of the preconceived notions of normal...I always hated being considered a minority...There ain't nothing minor about me..." "[Radical is] taking a clear and distinct position..." "I think SGL is a way of further separating us..." "The reason I like SGL is because, when I say it, people say, 'What is that?'...And it gives me the opportunity to reflect on things about me...to say some things about who I am [that gay doesn't]..." {Facilitator reads definition, "'Radical...Favoring fundamental or extreme change; Specifically, favoring basic change in the social or economic structure'"...} Does the gay liberation movement address our issues? "Do the things the gay movement are fighting for address my needs?...No..." "Yes and no...One time I went down to the LGBT Center...There was a [game night]...People were playing games...It was an open thing...It was all White except for one guy...and this guy [who was running it] kept making all kinds of excuses for why we couldn't play...On Logo, "Noah's Arc was the highest rated show they had, and yet, they still haven't replaced it..." "They don't address our issues...Police profiling...the spread of HIV and AIDS...In some places in Africa, it's up to fifty percent..." "With mainstream society, you know what they say, 'If you can't beat 'em join 'em'..." {Facilitator says, "It's not about beating 'em, it's about being our best selves collectively..."} ""Your parents were taught not to oppose White people...Your grand parents were taught not to oppose White people...You have been brainwashed to not even choose your own name on the threat of death...We were also taught to settle for whatever they gave us...And we have only been allowed to have about 30 -years of having a voice...You cannot change 450 years of training in 30- years...That's why there has been no revolution...Why we will kill each other rather than them...We wait for them to tell us what to think...Even as we look at marriage equality, they look at it differently than we look at Civil Rights...They look at it as [a] resource right to be able to transfer property and inheritance..." {Facilitator says, "White gays don't have entitlement issues based on PTSS [Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome]...Their entitlement issue is, 'I don't have enough'..."} "We have already been separated, that's what slavery did...we're not separating ourselves...gay marriage or unions is only good for people who can use it..." "If you can't beat 'em join 'em?...No, I'm not joining 'em..." "[I recently realized] I haven't been operating with a full set of emotions...Where did that come from?...I was raised in a household where you were not allowed to express anger...My grandmother is 97...Her mother was born a slave...They were not allowed to express anger...We were raised not to be angry...But there are others of us who may be missing other emotions like love...the ability to love ourselves and each other...This idea that we have been trained to accommodate White people and that we must come together to heal ourselves is very serious...So, all our lives we are taught as Black men that we are not worthy...We are not worthy...Years ago, I was a science reporter...I chronicled Act Up for Newsweek Magazine from the beginning of the movement...I took a plane with them down to Atlanta [and the Centers for Disease Control] where they planned to [disrupt] shit and get thrown in jail...It was a Civil Rights Movement strategy...The difference is they had the money to bail each other out...There was this one Black guy, and my sense was that he was somebody's sex object...And I thought, what's going to happen to him?...When he goes for a job and has to say, 'Yes, I was arrested once, but it was part of a political movement'...Is he going to get the same kind of consideration as his White counterparts?..." "The notion of unity is false...There are two kinds of racism...Systemic and identity...We have not been taught how to deal with racism...Jewish people have set the template for having voice after [having been conquered]...The concept of DL means not having a full identity...We have been [enculturated] not to take power...Power is [saying] 'No,' no matter who it pisses off..."
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Upcoming Topics: BMX- NY 2011 Summer Calendar
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(PLEASE NOTE THAT TOPICS ARE SUBJECT TO CHANGE; WEEKLY E-NEWSLETTERS WILL REFLECT ANY NEW CHANGES)
Friday, July 29th, 2011 WHAT CAN WE LEARN FROM EACH OTHER ABOUT BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A BLACK MAN: A Dialogue with Hetero Sisters PLEASE NOTE: The Black Men's Xchange-New York Will Be On Hiatus For The Month Of August 2011. Our Topics Will Resume On Friday, September 9th, 2011 (A Week After The Labor Day Holiday Weekend) THANK YOU!
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Upcoming Topics: BMX- Baltimore 2011 Summer Calendar
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SGL Black Heroes
Alvin Ailey, Jr. (1931 - 1989)
Alvin Ailey, Jr. (January 5, 1931 - December 1, 1989) was an American choreographer and activist who founded the Alvin Ailey American Dance Theater in New York. Ailey is credited with popularizing modern dance and revolutionizing African-American participation in 20th century concert dance. His company gained the nickname "Cultural Ambassador to the World" because of its extensive international touring. Ailey's choreographic masterpiece Revelations is believed to be the best-known and most often seen modern dance performance.
Ailey was born to his 17-year-old mother, Lula Elizabeth Ailey, in Rogers, Texas. His father abandoned the family when Alvin was only 6 months old. Like many African-Americans living in Texas during the Great Depression, Ailey and his mother moved very often and she had a hard time finding work. Ailey grew up during a time of racial segregation and rumors of violence and lynchings against African-Americans. When Ailey was five, his 22-year-old mother was raped by a group of white men, leaving him afraid of whites. Early experiences in the Southern Baptist church and jook joints instilled in him a fierce sense of black pride that would later figure prominently in Ailey's signature works.
In the fall of 1942, Ailey's mother, like many African Americans, migrated to Los Angeles, California where she had heard there was lucrative work supporting the war effort. Ailey joined his mother later by train, having stayed behind in Texas to finish out the school year. Ailey's first junior high school in California was located in a primarily white school district. As one of the only black students, Ailey felt out of place because of his fear of whites, so the Aileys moved to a predominantly black school district. He matriculated at George Washington Carver Junior High School, and later attended the Thomas Jefferson High School. He sang spirituals in the glee club, wrote poetry, and demonstrated a talent for languages. He regularly attended shows at Lincoln Theater and the Orpheum Theater. Ailey did not become serious about dance until in 1949 his school friend Carmen De Lavallade introduced him to the Hollywood studio of Lester Horton. Horton would prove to be Ailey's major influence, becoming a mentor and giving him both a technique and a foundation with which to grow artistically.

Horton's school taught a wide range of dance styles and techniques, including classical ballet, jazz, and Native American dance. Horton's school was also the first multi-racial dance school in the United States.Ailey was, at first, ambivalent about becoming a professional dancer. He had studied Romance languages at various universities in California, but was restless, academically, and took courses as well in the writings of James Baldwin, Langston Hughes, and Carson McCullers. He moved to San Francisco to continue his studies in 1951. There, he met Marguerite Johnson, who later changed her name to Maya Angelou. They occasionally performed a nightclub act called "Al and Rita." Ailey earned a living waiting tables and dancing at the New Orleans Champagne Supper Club. Eventually, he returned to study dance with Horton in southern California.
Ailey formed his own group, Alvin Ailey American Dance Theater, in 1958. The group presented its inaugural concert on March 30, 1958. Notable early work included Blues Suite, a piece deriving from blues songs. Ailey's choreography was a dynamic and vibrant mix growing out of his previous training in ballet, modern dance, jazz, and African dance techniques. Ailey insisted upon a complete theatrical experience, including costumes, lighting, and make-up. A work of intense emotional appeal expressing the pain and anger of African Americans, Blues Suite was an instant success and defined Ailey's style.
For his signature work, Revelations, Ailey drew upon his "blood memories" of Texas, the blues, spirituals, and gospel. These forces resulted in the creation of his most popular and critically acclaimed work. Ailey originally intended the dance to be the second part of a larger, evening-length survey of African-American music which he began with Blues Suite.
Though Ailey created 79 works for his dancers, he maintained that his company was not merely a showcase for his own work. Today, the company continues Ailey's vision by performing important works from the past and commissioning new additions to the repertoire. In all, more than 200 works by over 70 choreographers have been performed by the company.
Ailey was proud that his company was multi-racial. While he wanted to give opportunities to Black dancers, who were frequently excluded from performances by racist attitudes at the time, he also wanted to rise above issues of negritude. His company always employed artists based solely on artistic talent and integrity regardless of their race.
Ailey continued to create work for his own company and also choreographed for other companies.
In 1962 the U.S. State Department sponsored the Alvin Ailey Dance Company's first overseas tour. Ailey was suspicious of his government benefactors' motives. He suspected they were propagandistic, seeking to advertise a false tolerance by showcasing a modern Negro dance group.
In 1970, Ailey was honored by a commission to create The River for American Ballet Theatre. Ailey viewed The River, which he based on the music of composer Duke Ellington, as a chance to work with some of the finest ballet dancers in the world, particularly with the great dramatic ballerina Sallie Wilson. ABT, however, insisted that the leading male role be danced by the only black man, despite misgivings by Ailey and others about the dancer's talent.
Alvin Ailey and Judith Jamison
Cry (1971), was one of Ailey's greatest successes. He dedicated it to his mother and black women everywhere. It became a signature piece for Judith Jamison.
The Alvin Ailey Dance Theater was constructed by Tishman Realty and Construction Corporation of New York, Manhattan's largest builder.
Ailey made use of any combination of dance techniques that best suited the theatrical moment.[5] Valuing eclecticism, he created more a dance style than a technique. He said that what he wanted from a dancer was a long, unbroken leg line and deftly articulated legs and feet ("a ballet bottom") combined with a dramatically expressive upper torso ("a modern top"). "What I like is the line and technical range that classical ballet gives to the body. But I still want to project to the audience the expressiveness that only modern dance offers, especially for the inner kinds of things."
Ailey's dancers came to his company with training from a variety of other schools, from ballet to modern and jazz and later hip-hop. He was unique in that he did not train his dancers in a specific technique before they performed his choreography. He approached his dancers more in the manner of a jazz conductor, requiring them to infuse his choreography with a personal style that best suited their individual talents. This openness to input from dancers heralded a paradigm shift that brought concert dance into harmony with other forms of African-American expression, including big band jazz.
In 1992 Alvin Ailey was inducted into the C.V. Whitney Hall of Fame at the National Museum of Dance in Saratoga Springs, NY
Ailey kept his life as a dancer a secret from his mother for the first two years.
Ailey was homosexual and is one of the most prominent SGL Black men in American history. According to Black homosexual activist Keith Boykin, this is rarely acknowledged in the Black community due to the stigma surrounding homosexuality. Ailey died in 1989 at the age of 58 from a complication of AIDS.

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 The SGL symbol, the Bawabisi, is inspired by Nigerian Nsibidi script and West African Adrinkra symbols. The two facing semi-circles represent unity and love. The figure has been split symmetrically in half to suggest parts of a whole that mirror each other. Dots are often used in Adinkra symbols to represent commitment and pluralism. The split and dots, with the addition of color, suggest the concept of gender. The circle encompassing the figure reinforces the idea of connectedness despite duality, suggesting the idea of two-spirited.
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About The BMX- NY Chapter...
THE BLACK MEN'S XCHANGE - NEW YORK (BMX-NY) was founded in Harlem in 2002 and is a gathering for same gender loving (SGL) and bisexual Black men to powerfully and respectfully address issues that impact their lives, and to connect with one another in a positive, affirming, nurturing and transformational environment. Ages 18 and up.
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About The BMX- Baltimore Chapter...
THE BLACK MEN'S XCHANGE - BALTIMORE was founded in 2008 to provoke critical thinking; to teach Black men how to unlearn internalized oppression, and to give Black men the tools to deal with these issues. Ages 18 and up.
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BMX Mission Statement THE BLACK MEN'S XCHANGE (BMX) was founded in 1989 by activist, writer and behavioral health expert Cleo Manago, as an instrument of healing and empowerment for same gender loving (SGL) and bisexual African descended men. The mission of the Black Men's Xchange (BMX) is to affirm, heal, educate, unify and promote well-being and critical thinking among Black people - 18 and up - diverse in sexuality, class, culture and philosophy. Black Men's Xchange (BMX) conducts activities that promote healthy self-concept, sexual health, constructive decision making, and cultural affirmation among same-gender-loving (SGL), bisexual and heterosexual Black populations. BMX affirms and educates Black men (and the community at-large) while providing tools for self-determination, community responsibility, self-actualization and the prevention of health threats (e.g. HIV, isolation, substance and other addictions, and mental instability). BMX creates an environment that advances Black culture and involves identifying and unlearning ingrained anti-homosexual and anti-black male and female conditioning.
BMX is built on a philosophy that embraces same gender loving experience as intrinsic to everyday Black life. Integral to BMX's approach is the understanding that, in order to decrease internal and external anti-homosexual thinking, and demystify differences around diverse ways of living and loving Black people must engage in supportive dialogue with each other and the community.
At BMX we believe that self-determination is crucial in achieving success toward healing and empowerment. We understand that our cultural and experiential uniqueness requires a uniquely focused and precise approach. Affirming strategies born out of our own experience is powerful; hence, the adoption of the terms, Black, African American and Same Gender Loving (SGL).
The Term Same Gender Loving (SGL)...
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