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Welcome To The Black Men's Xchange-New York (BMX-NY) Gatekeepers e-Newsletter. This e-newsletter is for the gathering on Friday, May 27th, 2011.
Brothers, please if you would take the time and tell us about your experience at a BMX-NY meeting. This is a confidential Survey with no names required. We appreciate your time and comments as we continue to try and make your experience at BMX-NY one of true community.

BROTHERS! Although not required, BRINGING A POTLUCK DISH AND/OR BEVERAGE of your choosing would be a generous offering for the repast after the group discussion! Your offering defrays a cost to the organization. Also, end of gathering DONATIONS are also greatly appreciated, too. THANK YOU!
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Topic For This Friday, May 27th, 2011
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Now That You Know How To Do It Better,
Find Intimacy With Someone To Do It Better With
Facilitated by Kyle Doyle
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Is my sex life fulfilling?
What constitutes sex?
How do I date? How do I measure who I want to date? How do I create intimacy with another man?
What does intimacy look like without sex? What happens when the sex and intimacy fail? Is it over? Should I leave? Finding my voice: How do I identify and express my emotional and sexual needs?  How do we remove shame and guilt from our bedrooms?
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Friday Forum Recap
(Topic Hi-lites From Friday, May 13th, 2011)
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During Friday's Black Men's Xchange-New York dialogue, Brothers considered their relationship to spirit in the face of their sexuality from the following perspectives:
Is homo sex wrong?
"No...Cause it feels right...It took a while [for me to arrive at that, but]..."
"It never felt wrong for me...It's always just felt right..."
"I'm not okay with it because I grew up in a homophobic home..."
"The act of homo sex isn't wrong...If anybody attacks me for it...I attack back...It's none of your business..."
"I was thinking back and wondering why did I feel ashamed [about my sex]...Bathhouses...I wonder if it was the circumstances [under which I had sex]...or, because I thought the sex [itself] was wrong...Falling in love was what brought me out of feeling a shamed...When it was done in the right circumstance..."
"It's tough to be able to stand as a same gender loving man...and be able to defend yourself..."
"I think sometimes there is a callous or scar tissue that forms around [something that is stigmatized]...Even the concept that my sex life is private is a reflection of a belief that it's wrong...Heterosexuals have no problem admitting their sex...If it's private...[it's hidden, and that implies that it's wrong]..."
{Facilitator says, "I was thinking back to when our sexuality started forming...Was there a moment when you realized [or first believed] it was wrong?..."}
"My mother took me to a therapist...The conversations [I had with the therapist] were great...He told her, you don't have to bring him here any more...[My mother] didn't like that...Then she took me to a pastor..."
"I knew from the time I was a toddler that I was attracted to males...I was prematurely sexualized by an older cousin one weekend when I was four...The cousin, who I would later learn was fourteen or fifteen that weekend he spent with us...taught me to felate him over the course of the weekend...While I didn't experience it as traumatic at the time...I just remember being thrilled that I had this beautiful creature's complete and undivided attention...The event did trip a switch that I would not be able to turn off for a very long time thereafter...And, one night when I was five...It was bedtime and I was sitting on the bed with my father...My brothers were in the kitchen with our mother...I was looking at my father's penis through his pajamas...And, with my heart racing, I reached over and clutched his penis, asking, 'Daddy, what's that?'...He recoiled, barking...'That's my penis! And, you must never touch another person's penis!'...And, while I didn't really understand what sex was yet...That was the moment I first realized homo sex was wrong..."
{Facilitator asks, "Has anyone ever prayed to have homosexuality taken away?"... [Many participants raise their hands]..."Questioned whether or not they were cursed?"... [Many raise their hands]..."Been ridiculed by family"...[More hands]..."Out in the street? [More hands]..."What does that do to us?"}
"It depends on how secure you are in yourself...By now, I'm quite secure...As a child, any time I met a boy I was attracted to, I took him home and introduced him to my mother...As I got older, I would learn that it wasn't accepted...[but, I learned better]..."

Is there a connection between spirituality and sex?
"Yes...spirituality is an expression of how you feel connectivity to another person...and also for procreation...Usually someone's sexual habits or sexual life...Persons who are connected to the realm of spirituality tend to have a healthier sex life and less sex...People who are connected to the negative realm of sexuality have more sex and more destructive sex..."
"For me, sex is a spiritual act...a spiritual expression...I used to keep spirituality over here, and sex over here...Once I brought them together, sex was better...It involves how I treat my partner and how I expect my partner to treat me...[We] have conversations about what we will do...how fast or slow...You need to make love to me spiritually...and to my mind, before you can make love to my body..."
{Facilitator says, "That's not the same as being religious[ly] observant...[where there is moralizing about what people do with each other]..."}
"[Spirituality] is not a concrete thing...[It's] another view of yourself]"
"For me, spirituality is essence...There is a Principle or Force by which the universe functions...that flows through all things...That is the essence of all things...Some call it God...or, Yaweh...or, Jehovah...or, Buddah...or, Oludumare...But all relate to the essence...And for human kind, it is the essence of my self...My divinity...Some call it Creator...That part of me that reflects my own capacity to be creative and to create...and I am creative sexually..." {Facilitator says, "Spirituality is a relationship with that thing...[that] force..."}
"When we talk about spirituality as a connective thing...I'm hearing a lot of ego in people's descriptions...If everybody's so connected, why aren't we all getting married and celebrating our sexuality [wherever we go]...John-Martin talks about how many of us [SGL Black men] are still playing darting eye games with each other out in public...If we're so connected to spirituality...why aren't we all happy, and all getting married?..."
"If you don't have a basis for the first question [Is homo sex wrong?] you're not going to be able to answer the second question [Is there a connection between spirituality and sex?]...For me, yes, it's wrong...We rationalize it...Is sex wrong?...No...It's a form of communication...Is homo sex wrong?...Yes...I don't know why I participate in it...We confuse our happiness sometimes with joy...There's still a void for me sometimes at the end of the day...Yeah, I do...I think it's wrong...I think that, that's why we are here...For me, I think we justify it...And spirituality..."
{Facilitator asks, "What is the void?...Can you describe it?..."}
"[The] void is a lot of difficult things...I grew up with just my mom...So, there's no father figure...And, the males that were around took advantage of that..."
{Facilitator asks, "Was there loneliness in that?"}
"Yeah...If I wasn't lonely, I wouldn't be here [right now]...That conviction [that it's wrong] for me, it's God...He tells me...I let you go out here and do what you want to do, and you still feel [empty]..."
{Facilitator asks, "Do you love yourself?} "Yeah..." {Facilitator asks, "How do you know that you love yourself?"} "Cause I'm still here..." {Facilitator says, "May I offer that the void that you're feeling is a lack of love, and a lack of self-love...As Black men, from the Middle Passage, through enslavement...through sharecropping, the public school to prison pipeline...we are taught that we are [unlovable]"...[He reads a passage from Sonbufo Some's "The Spirit of Intimacy"..."'In the village homosexuality is seen differently...because all sexuality is spiritually based'..."For me, God is Love...That void is the absence of love...To be alone is painful...A loveless place..."}
"I was kind of saddened by what you shared, But I can relate to it...I have nineteen journals dating back to when I was in grad school in the nineties...Therapy...I don't believe that [homo sex] is wrong consciously...But then, my boy friend tried to kiss me in public in the store around the corner yesterday, and I was [a little put off by it] like...'Come on Baby'...When did I stop thinking it?...It took a lot of work...When I think of salvation [it's] the complete and total acceptance of myself..."
"I hated myself... I felt a void...My parents told me, 'You're going to hell'...I started drinking...and doing drugs...Last year, I tried to kill myself...I wound up going to a therapist...The therapist said, 'Say it out loud'...[I told her,] 'Miss, I can't say that'...[She said,] 'It's who you are, and until you do, you won't start to heal'...And I finally said, 'I'm a Black, gay man'...My prayer every day was for God to take this cup from me...I'm twenty-eight-years-old...I pray every night...I get everything else I want...Why not this?...Something's wrong here..."
"When I was a boy...After I learned that homosexuality was wrong...or, learned the commonly held belief that homosexuality is wrong...I hated myself because I bought into the lie of my inferiority...I believed the myth that my homosexuality made me an abomination before God...And I was angry at God...I cursed God...I raged at god...Because I believed God had cursed me...And, I raged at Him, telling Him He was going to show me wherefore He had cursed me...And, it took me many years of different processes of self-reflection, including over a decade of therapy with different therapists to unlearn the lie that my homosexuality made me wrong...and that, it was the people who would make me wrong who were wrong...But, before I unlearned the lie, I engaged in all kinds of sex that was unaffirming...As a pubescent boy I began frequenting public restrooms...I now realize, I believed that, if my sex is shit, where better to have it, than in a shit house?...By now, I love myself and respect myself and it is that love and respect of myself that enables me to go out into the community that I love and attempt to assist them in unlearning the lie of our inferiority..."
"I do believe there are different levels of loving yourself...I know I matter...My choices matter...I don't give a shit about what anybody else thinks...For me, I didn't come here for a forum [to tell me] this is how Black people deal with it...I work for the government...When I go out [I see all kinds of people]...White people go through this [too]...questioning their sexuality...I keep doing it, and I don't know why, but I don't think it's a lack of love...God loves me right now more than I do...I want to get to the point where I love me as much as God does...I feel like every time I do this [have homo sex] I drive another wedge between me and God...I've been through a lot of different foster homes...I think of one of my foster mothers as my mother...I asked my mother...'Is it wrong?'...I asked why He won't take it from me...After I have sex, I try to wash the skin off me..."
"You are a by-product of a system you live in...You work for the government?...[You do indeed]...They will arrest a five-year-old Black child and put him in handcuffs to shame him [into believing he's a criminal]...There's a lot of rich White people who start wars and then we have to go and fight them...One thing that helped me was identifying myself...When I dropped Nigga and faggot, I began to know who I really am...Our families need us...Black people are the first people on the planet, which means that Black homosexuals were the first homosexuals on the planet..."
{Facilitator asks, "How many of you...if you care to share it...have ever contemplated suicide?..."} [Around half the room raise their hands.]
"That was my contemplation just two days ago...I don't think it's about healing...It's about learning...I don't think I'm more broken than anybody else...I don't even know if my sexuality is why I contemplated it...I don't feel like identifying that as an open wound for me..."
"You can't fix [our Brother]...You can empathize with him...but you can't fix him...You can say, 'I hear where you're at'...But, whether or not he lives or dies is up to him...The intention is to help...But, the masculinized energy is to fix...My experience of the universe has to be [mine]...I've had sex with hundreds of men, women and a few who are making some decisions in-between...and it was all beautiful, because nobody was being degraded...I do not know the mind of God...I do know that I am an aspect of God...In truth, you are the truth that you seek...Your mission was to come here to be phucked up [so you could work it out and find the truth]..."
"I was like him twelve years ago...I was a closed container...Nobody could tell me nothin...I didn't care how many degrees you had or nothin...[It wasn't] Until I was on my deathbed ready to die that I said...Somebody help me..."
"Like Brother was saying...You can't hear something until you do...The thing is, you do get to hear when you get to hear...Everyone is not going to hear tonight...But don't stop saying [what is real for you]...I didn't see anybody disrespecting this Brother...This is BMX...If you don't expect to hear something about Blackness, and [what is distinct about] our experience...[Then] there's some delusion going on...Just like pro-Black doesn't mean anti-White...We're conditioned to believe that if we focus on what's unique to us, [there's some sort of betrayal being perpetrated]...When we say that we have different experiences than White people have, that's truth...and, if you don't get to that, there's a delusion [going on]...When we speak of homosexuality as wrong...The [question] is...Where did you get that information from?...Where are the facts?...Where did the messages come from?...What's trying to be done to us?...And, who's doing it?..." {Facilitator says, "Sometimes good work does not feel good, and sometimes, what feels good is not good work...Let's focus on the healing...We can uncover the wound ad infinitum...But, let's focus on the healing..."}
{Facilitator says, "Sometimes good work does not feel good, and sometimes, what feels good is not good work...Let's focus on the healing...We can uncover the wound ad infinitum...But, let's focus on the healing..."}
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Upcoming Topics: BMX-NY 2011 Spring Calendar
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(PLEASE NOTE THAT TOPICS ARE SUBJECT TO CHANGE; WEEKLY E-NEWSLETTERS WILL REFLECT ANY NEW CHANGES)
Friday, June 3rd, 2011 TO BE ANNOUNCED Friday, June 10th, 2011 Taking Responsibility For The 'L' in SGL (Facilitated by Chad Franklin & L. Jett Wilson) Friday, June 17th, 2011 Thriving or Surviving, Which Are You?: The Resource Quotient (Facilitated by Kyle Doyle) Friday, June 24th, 2011 How Do We Flex Our Political Muscles As SGL Men? (Facilitated by Anthony Truly & Tommie Thompson) Saturday, June 25th, 2011 2nd Annual Harlem Pride Event (Currently Scheduled For Marcus Garvey Park > 12 NOON - 6PM)
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BMX National News A BMX National Leadership Summit & Retreat Reflection
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"Healing, Strategic Intelligence, Self-Love & Discovery" (Friday, May 6th - Monday, May 9th, 2011) 

Some comments made by the brotherhood during the retreat: "We worked together as a collective team" "The information was excellent"
 AmASSI and BMX Founder Cleo Manago Addressing The Brotherhood During The 4-Day Retreat "We need more time at the retreat" "It was a bonding experience"
"It was a brotherhood, can't wait to see each other again"
"The place was nice, the information was great"
"The neutrality stood out" "I found my voice"
 "There was great energy, people"
"It was motivational"

"Brings together like minded people"
"It was incredible the size of the participants (40) and the hugeness of the retreat"

"I really loved the relationship panel. More people should know that we have sustaining relationships"
"It was beyond my imagination"

"I saw my best self represented"
"Having attended other MSM leadership retreats which were catty, no support, competition, and violence, this one had support, self love, and teaching."
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Community Corner Announcements
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25th Annual ADODI Summer Retreat Wednesday July 20th - Sunday, July 24th, 2011 White Eagle Conference Center Hamilton, New York

Official ADODI Website: ADODIonline.com
Greetings from The Brotherhood of ADODI We invite all same-gender loving men of African heritage to join us in the gathering for our 25th annual summer retreat: The ADODI Promise: Claiming the Legacy, Living The Legend If, as Joseph Beam postulated in 1986, "Black men loving Black men is the revolutionary act..:" then the ADODI Brotherhood is surely revolutionary. It lies with each of us to ensure that this life affirming movement does not become simply an historical moment. We gather together in July 2011 to conjure the legendary qualities of the ADODI Brotherhood. We journey forth to hold one another and affirm the fearless vision and life-saving, life-giving mission of black men loving black men. We congregate to appreciate the lives - both past and present - that define our tribe of caring, compassionate community among same-gender-loving (SGL) men of African descent. This summer we join together and share our commitment, knowledge, skill, passion and evolving aspirations of freedom, so that our beloved tribe may thrive 25 years more! For this special 25th summer gathering we invoke the idea of "legends" to honor the values, traditions, ancestors and historical significance of the ADODI Brotherhood. We call forth the notion of "legacy" to center our spirits on the seemingly modest gifts turned into grand treasures - our inheritance of loving intent and beloved community called ADODI. As trustees and beneficiaries of this legacy, we have our own bequests to the future to consider. This year's Retreat is dedicated to celebrating that legacy, and envisioning the future. As we benefit from the fruits grown by those who have gone before us, so the future of the brotherhood rests on our shoulders.

ADODI Summer Retreat (2011) Registration Form (PDF)
Registration for the 25th Annual ADODI Summer Retreat is now available online, too!!! Visit www.ADODIonline.com and click on The Adodi Annual Summer Retreat on the banner to be taken to the Retreat info. page. You will need to create a login to ADODInline.com to register for the Retreat. Above the Retreat information tabs is where you click to create your free account to access the ADODIonline community. You may register online now and mail your payment(s) in later, or you can register and using a credit card via PayPal. (if you pay using a credit card, a $15.00 service fee is added onto your registration price). Registration Fee Information If paid in full by May 31, '11 ............ $700.00 After May 31, '11............................... $800.00 Round trip coach bus transportation will be provided from the Adam Clayton Powell Jr State Office Building 163 West 125th Street (between Lenox Avenue/Malcolm X Blvd and Adam Clayton Powell Jr. Blvd) Harlem, New York City 10027 GOOGLE MAP
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Official Website: TheNewBlackfest.org
THE NEW BLACK FEST is A THEATER FESTIVAL.
THE NEW BLACK FEST
with guest curators Judy Tate and Godfrey Simmons
in association with
651 ARTS
presents
THE AMERICAN SLAVERY PROJECT
In recognition of the Sesquicentennial of the Civil War (now through 2015), The New Black Fest with Guest Curators Judy Tate and Godfrey Simmons, launch the American Slavery Project Series, a monthly reading series that celebrates the work of African American playwrights who boldly and refreshingly explore slavery and/or the Civil War. The purpose behind the American Slavery Project is to initiate new conversations around theater's role in counteracting the increasing revisionism in our political/social discourse about the Civil War and slavery. More importantly, the American Slavery Project aims to promote a generation of African-American voices who are telling the diverse and rich stories from an era that most adversely affected us. The series runs from mid-March through Juneteenth.
Schedule of Events
Monday, March 7, 2011 at 7 p.m.
Fast Blood by Judy Tate
It's 1845. Ham and Effie, an enslaved couple, stumble across the body of a hanging man who's miraculously still alive. It is their connection to this mysterious and seductive stranger that tests their faith, love and ultimately, their own notions of slavery.
Location: CAP 21 - 18 W. 18th Street, 6th Floor, NYC
Post Show Conversation: The Human Face of Slavery
Kick-Off Wine and Cheese Reception will follow.
Co-presented by CAP 21
Monday, April 4, 2011 at 7 p.m.
Sweet Maladies by Zakiyyah Alexander
It's been two years since slavery was abolished and three recently freed slavegirls, stuck in 'the big house', play the only game they know: history. But what happens when the game turns sticky sweet and deadly?
Location: Mark Morris Dance Center - 3 Lafayette Avenue, Fort Greene, Brooklyn
Post Show Conversation: Tiny Rebellions
Monday, May 2, 2011 at 7 p.m.
Living in the Wind by Michael Bradford
Georgia. 1876. Isaiah, a former plantation stud, steps into Sarah's front yard after a twelve-year absence. Married as slaves and separated by their owner on the night of their marriage, Sarah and Isaiah attempt to salvage a relationship. However, difficulties arise as new lovers, past conquests, and the deadly reminder of slavery stand before them.
Location: The Drilling Company - 236 W. 78th Street, NYC
Post Show Conversation: Slavery's Impact on Male Sexual Identity
Co-presented by The Drilling Company
Monday, June 6, 2011 at 7 p.m.
Voices from Harpers Ferry by Dominic Taylor
In 1859, twenty-one men, including five free Black men, attacked the arsenal at Harpers Ferry along with the legendary John Brown. This exciting new play probes into the lives of the five Black men who fought alongside Brown, and more importantly, Osborne P. Anderson, the only Black man who survived to tell the tale of Harpers Ferry.
Location: Audubon Ballroom - 3940 Broadway, btw 165th & 166th Streets, NYC
Post Show Conversation: John Brown and Civil War Uprisings
Co-Presented by The Classical Theatre of Harlem
Wednesday, June 15, 2011 at 7 p.m.
Safe House by Keith Josef Adkins
1843. Kentucky. Addison Pedigrew is a free man of color who has big dreams of opening a shoe business. His family also secretly helps fugitives flee to Liberia. When a young woman knocks on his door seeking refuge, Addison's loyalty to race and family finally clashes with his unrelenting desire for success.
Location: Audubon Ballroom - 3940 Broadway, btw 165th & 166th Streets, NYC
Post Show Conversation: Free People of Color and the Trek to Liberia
Co-Presented by The Classical Theatre of Harlem
Please check back for updates: TheNewBlackfest.org
THE NEW BLACK FEST is URGENT.
The New Black Fest is a movement. It's a call to action inspired by the state of Black theater in the 21st century. It is a bold step motivated by a growing need within the Black theater community for serious change and boundless opportunity.
THE NEW BLACK FEST is A COMMUNITY.
The New Black Fest is a gathering of artists, thinkers, activists and audiences who are dedicated to stretching, interrogating and uplifting the Black aesthetic.
THE NEW BLACK FEST is VISIONARY.
The New Black Fest is a commitment to celebrate, advocate and showcase diverse and provocative work in a festival of Black theater artists from throughout the Diaspora. It is a convening of visionaries who are determined to reintroduce the way black theater is perceived, who are ready to chart out resolutions and promote action through panel discussions, workshops, and putting both artists and community members on the hot seat.
THE NEW BLACK FEST is FOR EVERYONE.
The New Black Fest is for everyone and anyone who supports elevating and celebrating Black theater around the world, in a fresh way.
THE NEW BLACK IS NOW.
WE ARE THE NEW BLACK.
For reservations, e-mail reservations@thenewblackfest.org The New Black Fest couldn't do this work without your support! A donation of any size will help! You can make your tax-deductible donation here. The New Black Fest is a sponsored project of Fractured Atlas, a non-profit arts service organization. Contributions for the purposes of The New Black Fest must be made payable to Fractured Atlas and are tax-deductible to the extent permitted by law. The New Black Fest Keith Josef Adkins & J. Holtham Co-Artistic Directors
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SGL Black Sheroes
Ethel Waters (1896 - 1977)
Ethel Waters was an American blues, jazz and gospel vocalist and actress. She frequently performed jazz, big band, and pop music, on the Broadway stage and in concerts, although she began her career in the 1920s singing blues. Her best-known recordings includes, "Dinah", "Birmingham Bertha," "Stormy Weather," "Hottentot Potentate," and "Cabin In The Sky," as well as her version of the spiritual, "His Eye is on the Sparrow." Ms. Waters was the second African American to be nominated for an Academy Award.
After her start in Baltimore, Waters toured on the black vaudeville circuit. As she described it later, "I used to work from nine until unconscious."Despite her early success, she fell on hard times and joined a carnival, traveling in freight cars along the carnival circuit, eventually reaching Chicago. Waters enjoyed her time with the carnival and recalled, "the roustabouts and the concessionaires were the kind of people I'd grown up with, rough, tough, full of larceny towards strangers, but sentimental and loyal to their friends and co-workers." She did not last long with them, though, and soon headed south to Atlanta. There, she worked in the same club with Bessie Smith, who demanded that Waters not compete in singing blues opposite her. Waters conceded to the veteran blues headliner and instead sang ballads and popular songs, and danced. Perhaps today best known for her blues voice, Waters then was to sing, dance, play and star in musicals, plays and movies, and later in TV; but, she returned to singing blues whenever opportunity presented.
Waters obtained her first Harlem job at Edmond's Cellar, a club that had a black patronage. She specialized in popular ballads and became an actress in a blackface comedy called Hello 1919. The jazz historian Rosetta Reitz points out that by the time Waters returned to Harlem in 1921, women blues singers were among the most powerful entertainers in the country. In 1921, Waters became the fifth Black woman to make a record, on the tiny Cardinal Records label. She later joined Black Swan Records, where Fletcher Henderson was her accompanist. Waters later commented that Henderson tended to perform in a more classical style than she would prefer, often lacking "the damn-it-to-hell bass." According to Waters, she influenced Henderson to practice in a "real jazz" style.
She recorded with Black Swan from 1921 through 1923. In early 1924, Paramount bought the Black Swan label, and she stayed with Paramount through 1924. Waters then first recorded for Columbia Records in 1925, achieving a hit with her voicing of "Dinah"-which was voted a Grammy Hall of Fame Award in 1998. Soon after, she started working with Pearl Wright, and together they toured in the South. In 1924, Waters played at the Plantation Club on Broadway. She also toured with the Black Swan Dance Masters. With Earl Dancer, she joined what was called the "white time" Keith Vaudeville Circuit, a traditional white-audience based vaudeville circuit combined with screenings of silent movies. They received rave reviews in Chicago and earned the unheard of salary of US$1,250 in 1928. In 1929, Harry Akst helped Wright and Waters compose a version of "Am I Blue?," her signature tune.
Although she was considered a blues singer during the pre-1925 period, Waters belonged to the Vaudeville-style style similar to Mamie Smith, Viola McCoy, and Lucille Hegamin. While with Columbia, she introduced many popular standards including "Dinah", "Heebie Jeebies", "Sweet Georgia Brown", "Someday, Sweetheart", "Am I Blue?" and "(What Did I Do To Be So) Black and Blue".
During the 1920s, Waters performed and was recorded with the ensembles of Will Marion Cook and Lovie Austin. As her career continued, she evolved toward being a blues and Broadway singer, performing with artists such as Duke Ellington.
She remained with Columbia through 1931. She then signed with Brunswick in 1932 and remained until 1933 when she went back to Columbia. She signed with Decca in late 1934 for only two sessions, as well as a single session in early 1938. She recorded for the specialty label "Liberty Music Shops" in 1935 and again in 1940. Between 1938 and 1939, she recorded for Bluebird.
In 1933, Waters made a satirical all-Black film entitled Rufus Jones for President, which featured then-child performer Sammy Davis Jr. as Rufus Jones. She went on to star at the Cotton Club, where, according to her autobiography, she "sang 'Stormy Weather' from the depths of the private hell in which I was being crushed and suffocated." She took a role in the Broadway musical revue As Thousands Cheer in 1933, where she was the first Black woman in an otherwise white show. She had three gigs at this point; in addition to the show, she starred in a national radio program and continued to work in nightclubs. She was the highest paid performer on Broadway at that time. MGM hired Lena Horne as the ingenue in the all-Black musical Cabin in the Sky, and Waters starred as Petunia in 1942, reprising her stage role of 1940. The film, directed by Vincente Minnelli, was a success, but Waters, offended by the adulation accorded Horne and feeling her age, went into something of a decline.
She began to work with Fletcher Henderson again in the late 1940s. She was nominated for a Best Supporting Actress Academy Award in 1949 for the film Pinky. In 1950, she won the New York Drama Critics Award for her performance opposite Julie Harris in the play The Member of the Wedding. Waters and Harris repeated their roles in the 1952 film version of Member of the Wedding'' In 1950, Waters starred in the television series Beulah but quit after complaining that the scripts' portrayal of African-Americans was "degrading." She later guest starred in 1957 and 1959 on NBC's The Ford Show, Starring Tennessee Ernie Ford. In the 1957 episode, she sang "Cabin in the Sky."
Rosetta Reitz called Waters "a natural". Her "songs are enriching, nourishing. You will want to play them over and over again, idling in their warmth and swing. Though many of them are more than 50 years old, the music and the feeling are still there."
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 The SGL symbol, the Bawabisi, is inspired by Nigerian Nsibidi script and West African Adrinkra symbols. The two facing semi-circles represent unity and love. The figure has been split symmetrically in half to suggest parts of a whole that mirror each other. Dots are often used in Adinkra symbols to represent commitment and pluralism. The split and dots, with the addition of color, suggest the concept of gender. The circle encompassing the figure reinforces the idea of connectedness despite duality, suggesting the idea of two-spirited.
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About BMX- NY...
THE BLACK MEN'S XCHANGE - NEW YORK (BMX-NY) was founded in Harlem in 2002 and is a gathering for same gender loving (SGL) and bisexual Black men to powerfully and respectfully address issues that impact their lives, and to connect with one another in a positive, affirming, nurturing and transformational environment. Ages 18 and up.
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BMX Mission Statement THE BLACK MEN'S XCHANGE (BMX) was founded in 1989 by activist, writer and behavioral health expert Cleo Manago, as an instrument of healing and empowerment for same gender loving (SGL) and bisexual African descended men. The mission of the Black Men's Xchange (BMX) is to affirm, heal, educate, unify and promote well-being and critical thinking among Black people - 18 and up - diverse in sexuality, class, culture and philosophy. Black Men's Xchange (BMX) conducts activities that promote healthy self-concept, sexual health, constructive decision making, and cultural affirmation among same-gender-loving (SGL), bisexual and heterosexual Black populations. BMX affirms and educates Black men (and the community at-large) while providing tools for self-determination, community responsibility, self-actualization and the prevention of health threats (e.g. HIV, isolation, substance and other addictions, and mental instability). BMX creates an environment that advances black culture and involves identifying and unlearning ingrained anti-homosexual and anti-black male and female conditioning,
BMX is built on a philosophy that embraces same gender loving experience as intrinsic to everyday Black life. Integral to BMX's approach is the understanding that, in order to decrease internal and external anti-homosexual thinking, and demystify differences around diverse ways of living and loving Black people must engage in supportive dialogue with each other and the community.
At BMX we believe that self-determination is crucial in achieving success toward healing and empowerment. We understand that our cultural and experiential uniqueness requires a uniquely focused and precise approach. Affirming strategies born out of our own experience is powerful; hence, the adoption of the terms, Black, African American and Same Gender Loving (SGL).
The Black Men's Xchange-New York And Our Allies At The Millions More Movement (MMM) In Washington, DC (October 15th, 2005)
The Term Same Gender Loving
The term Same Gender Loving (SGL) emerged in the early '90s to offer Black women who love women and Black men who love men (and other people of color) a way of identifying that resonated with the uniqueness of Black life and culture. Before this many African descended people, knowing little of our history regarding homosexuality and bi-sexuality, took on European symbols and identifications as a means of embracing our sexualities, including: Greek lambdas, German pink triangles, and the white-gay-originated rainbow flag, in addition to the terms gay, and lesbian.
The term gay, coined as an identification by White male homosexuals in the '50s, was cultivated in an exclusive White male environment. By the '60s, the growing Gay Liberation movement developed in a climate largely excluding Blacks and women. In response to this discrimination, White women coined the identification lesbian, a word derived from the Greek island, Lesbos. The Lesbian movement, in turn, helped define a majority White movement, called feminism. In response to the racism experienced by women of color from White feminists, celebrated author, Alice Walker introduced the term womanist.
The term womanist identified women of color concerned with both the sexual and racial oppression of women. In this spirit of self-naming and ethnic-sexual pride, the term same gender loving(SGL) was introduced to enhance the lives and amplify the voices of homosexual and bi-sexual people of color, to provide a powerful identification not marginalized by racism in the gay community or by "homophobic" attitudes in society at large.
As gay culture grew and established enclaves in San Francisco, Chelsea, Provincetown, Key West and other territories, Blacks especially, were carded and rejected from many establishments. Even today Blacks, Latinos and Asians often appear in gay publications and other media solely as potential sexual objects. Ironically, gay rights activism was modeled on the Civil Rights and Black Power Movements initiated by African Americans.
In the years since the advent of the Gay Rights movement many Black SGLs have found scant space for the voices, experiences and empowerment of Black people. Additionally, the rigid influence of the Black church's traditionally anti-homosexual stance has contributed to attitudes that repress and stigmatize Black SGLs. The lack of acknowledgment and support in the Black community has shunted multitudes of same gender loving African descended people to the White community to endure racism, isolation from their own communities, and cultural insensitivity.
The high visibility of the white gay community along with the absence of illumination on same gender loving experience contributes to the tendency in Black communities to overlook and ridicule same gender loving relationships as alien or aberrant. The SGL movement has inspired national dialogue on diverse ways of loving in the Black community. The term same gender loving explicitly acknowledges loving within same-sex relationships, while encouraging self-love.
The designation, same gender loving has served as a wake up call for Blacks to acknowledge diverse ways of loving and being, and has provided an opportunity for Blacks and other people of color to claim, nurture and honor their significance within their families and communities.BMXNational.com
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