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Greetings Brothers!
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Welcome To The Black Men's Xchange-New York (BMX-NY) Gatekeepers e-Newsletter. This e-newsletter is for the gathering on Friday, March 4th, 2011.
Brothers, please if you would take the time and tell us about your experience at a BMX-NY meeting. This is a confidential Survey with no names required. We appreciate your time and comments as we continue to try and make your experience at BMX-NY one of true community.

BROTHERS! Although not required, BRINGING A POTLUCK DISH AND/OR BEVERAGE of your choosing would be a generous offering for the repast after the group discussion! Your offering defrays a cost to the organization. Also, end of gathering DONATIONS are also greatly appreciated, too. THANK YOU!
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Topic For This Friday, March 4th, 2011
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RESURRECTING BLACK MANHOOD
& the Fear of a Same Gender Loving Planet:
A Dialogue w/Hetero Brothers

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Does sexuality define manhood? When and how did you transform from being a boy to being a man? Was there a rite of passage? Was your sexuality a part of that Rite of Passage? What role does fear play in the dynamics between SGL and hetero brothers? How do we struggle with the vestige of slavery that gives us to see ourselves as super sexual Black male bucks? Are we parenting our children - financially, emotionally, spiritually? Who sees or has seen homosexuality as a threat to the Black family? How does the notion of having a SGL child ring with you as a hetero brother? What do you appreciate most and least about the same gender loving community? Does Black male homosexuality compromise the resurrection of Black manhood? What is the role of same-gender-loving and bisexual Black men in the fight against white supremacy? What is the impact to the Black community of a life of secrecy and shame? Are we working collectively towards the creation of a cohesive Black community? How do we make our community safe for all its members?
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Friday Forum Recap (Topic Hi-lites From Friday, February 25th, 2011)
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SAME GENDER LOVING ENTREPRENEURSHIP:
If I Were to Start A Business, What Would It Be?
Facilitated by Chet London & JM Green
At Friday's Black Men's Xchange-New York dialogue, Brothers endeavored envisioning themselves entrepreneurs. They reflected on the following issues: What is entrepreneurship? "Owning a business...[It's] different from being an employee, or worker bee..." "Self-sufficiency..." "The heart of Capitalism...Business is the mechanism by which the society runs..." "Autonomy..." "Tapping into the passion within...What makes a person tick...Everybody has some special talent [entrepreneurship is the means to capitalize on that talent]..." {Facilitator 2 reads dictionary definition: "'One who undertakes to start and conduct an enterprise or business, assuming full control and risk...' So, the idea of control [cited in this definition] has been broached in constructs like, 'ownership,' 'self-sufficiency,' and 'autonomy,' but, this definition adds another idea to the mix...That of 'risk'..."} Is it important to own our own businesses? "When we, as a community, show the other community [whites]...When we can use the services of our own people and support our own people, the other community will treat us more respectfully..." "There's an argument to be made that owning your own business is not important...Most people are risk averse...[and it requires a lot of hard work and determination]..." "I find entrepreneurship orgasmic...It's my personal pornography...I pay zero percent taxes [on a] for-profit business [I own and operate]...A corporation creates another entity [which protects the individual from some risk]...95% of everything I purchase is tax-deductable...[It is] the untapped step to freedom [for most of us]..." "Everyone's talent is something that takes time and introspection to discover..." "We are raised to go to school [so that we can] get a job..." {Facilitator 1 asks, "What would you do if money was not a concern?"} {Facilitator 2 says, "That's a key question when considering the possibility of flexing entrepreneurial muscles...But the fact of the matter is, many of us are shut down and don't even realize it...When working with young people, I have often asked, 'If you could do or be anything you wanted to do or be - no holds barred - sky's the limit - what would it be?...Do you know what most people answer?...Including people older than anyone here?...'I don't know'..."} "It could start with a hobby...You work harder than you do for others but, my joy is, I don't have to share the money...The secret is to have a good accountant and a good lawyer who you dance with regularly..." Have you ever dreamed of starting a business? What was it? What happened? "I own a publishing company and a TV show...With the publishing stuff, I partnered with a California company [for distribution]...The TV show is on Manhattan Neighborhood Network Thursday nights at midnight..." "I do interior renovation and design...To be in business you have to have balls..." "I do IT [Internet Technology]...Developing websites and [doing computer] programming..." "I am a corporation...[And] whenever I work for someone else, I consider myself a business doing business with other businesses...[I have] three types of businesses; Sole proprietorship - where I'm working as a consultant; Corporation - where I own the products I produce; and an LLC [Limited Liability Company]..." {Facilitator 1 says "I'm a licensed real estate broker...For me [being an entrepreneur represents] a way of preserving the [Harlem] community for the folks that are there and building the community...Owning puts you in a completely different [and] preferred status in terms of taxes...If you walk around Harlem, you'll notice a lot of new businesses, especially restaurants..."} "I'm a masseur...I'm working on getting my certification...I've a dream of [opening a business] doing holistic health..." Are there barriers to Black entrepreneurship? "If I have been taught to think with a cap, I will only think so far...The challenge of entrepreneurship is learning to think beyond [the cap]...To think I am worthy of more...[I have to train myself to think] What do I have in this room that I can sell to somebody?..." "[There are] a lot of stories about Black businesses within families that are not uncovered...Businesses that were destroyed by white supremacists who got tired of Blacks being successful..." "We don't have an internal locus of control [belief that we create our destiny]...We're shy about having dreams [and the nerve to attempt to realize them]..." How might we overcome those barriers on the way to building our own businesses? "WEBO (Workshops in Business Opportunities) [is a technical assistance provider for people interested in becoming entrepreneurs where] each person [is shown how to] develop his own business plan [to seek out financing to start his own business]...The reason we're here tonight is to interconnect with each other..." "Free Enterprise Training is a twelve-week course...Operation Hope...Project Enterprise [all] give micro loans...I have a street vending business...I started off with one table...Now I have more [and am about to start hiring other workers with my partner]...My intention is to start selling African art...Harlem Business Alliance gives a lot of assistance, including help getting a business loan, even if you have bad credit...There are challenges...days when I feel like giving up...But, the reason I mention these resources is because they give you so much assistance...There is a sister there who says, 'We are entitled to have our own businesses'...That was so powerful to me..." "There are different levels of ambition...There are some people who want to be supportive, and that's okay...It's okay to come down on the side of wanting to be supportive...[As in] I am entrepreneurial in that I want to expand my skills, but I will use those in service of some else's vision [that I believe in]..." "Regarding non-profit as opposed to for-profit [enterprises]...A lot of people think social enterprises can't serve [peoples' needs] and be for-profit...Black people are taught to be sacrificial... We don't have to be..." "That's another part of the program...In addition to being taught to go to school and get a job...we're taught to go to church...and tithe...and Jesus will take care of us..." "If you're going to have a business, you need a business plan...There is a way you can learn to do this by gaming [playing a game]...I'll send it to you [the game]...I have only had jobs given to me, and crated my own jobs...I was recently offered a promotion and a raise on my current job...I had to embody a whole new person...I didn't know how to gauge the worth of what they were asking me to do [or what I bring to the table]...I want to start an environmental sustainability magazine for people of color..." "BMX-NY should get involved in workforce development...A lot of us are traumatized into disorientation...because we're taught we're not in control...I came from a classically poor, dysfunctional Black home... The reason I am a millionaire is because I developed a sense of self...I unlearned the myth of my own worthlessness...Self-knowing and self-love [are the keys to success]...Your body is your antennae to your possibilities...If your body is traumatized, your antennae is blocked...Self-knowing as a Black human being [is freeing]...right now, I have four businesses...and I deserve [them]...Not because I'm better than y'all...[But] because I am y'all..."
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Upcoming Topics: BMX- NY 2011 Winter Calendar
(PLEASE NOTE THAT TOPICS ARE SUBJECT TO CHANGE; WEEKLY E-NEWSLETTERS WILL REFLECT ANY NEW CHANGES)
Friday, March 11th, 2011
DIVA WORSHIP: How, If At All, Does Our Idolatry of Beyonce, Whitney, and Janet (among others) Impact Our Manhood As SGL Men?
Friday, March 18th, 2011 MAKING ROOM FOR RETURNING BROTHERS: A Dialogue w/ Formerly Incarcerated SGL Brothers
Friday, March 25th, 2011
PDA* As An SGL Liberation Movement Resistance Strategy (Part II)
*Public Display of Affection
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Community Corner Announcements
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25th Annual ADODI Summer Retreat Wednesday July 20th - Sunday, July 24th, 2011 White Eagle Conference Center Hamilton, New York

Official ADODI Website: ADODIonline.com
Greetings from The Brotherhood of ADODI We invite all same-gender loving men of African heritage to join us in the gathering for our 25th annual summer retreat: The ADODI Promise: Claiming the Legacy, Living The Legend If, as Joseph Beam postulated in 1986, "Black men loving Black men is the revolutionary act..:" then the ADODI Brotherhood is surely revolutionary. It lies with each of us to ensure that this life affirming movement does not become simply an historical moment. We gather together in July 2011 to conjure the legendary qualities of the ADODI Brotherhood. We journey forth to hold one another and affirm the fearless vision and life-saving, life-giving mission of black men loving black men. We congregate to appreciate the lives - both past and present - that define our tribe of caring, compassionate community among same-gender-loving (SGL) men of African descent. This summer we join together and share our commitment, knowledge, skill, passion and evolving aspirations of freedom, so that our beloved tribe may thrive 25 years more! For this special 25th summer gathering we invoke the idea of "legends" to honor the values, traditions, ancestors and historical significance of the ADODI Brotherhood. We call forth the notion of "legacy" to center our spirits on the seemingly modest gifts turned into grand treasures - our inheritance of loving intent and beloved community called ADODI. As trustees and beneficiaries of this legacy, we have our own bequests to the future to consider. This year's Retreat is dedicated to celebrating that legacy, and envisioning the future. As we benefit from the fruits grown by those who have gone before us, so the future of the brotherhood rests on our shoulders.

ADODI Summer Retreat (2011) Registration Form (PDF)
Registration for the 25th Annual ADODI Summer Retreat is now available online, too!!! Visit www.ADODIonline.com and click on The Adodi Annual Summer Retreat on the banner to be taken to the Retreat info. page. You will need to create a login to ADODInline.com to register for the Retreat. Above the Retreat information tabs is where you click to create your free account to access the ADODIonline community. You may register online now and mail your payment(s) in later, or you can register and using a credit card via PayPal. (if you pay using a credit card, a $15.00 service fee is added onto your registration price). Registration Fee Information If paid in full by April 30, '11........... $630.00 If paid in full by May 31, '11 ............ $700.00 After May 31, '11............................... $800.00 Round trip coach bus transportation will be provided from the Adam Clayton Powell Jr State Office Building 163 West 125th Street (between Lenox Avenue/Malcolm X Blvd and Adam Clayton Powell Jr. Blvd) Harlem, New York City 10027 GOOGLE MAP
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SGL Black Heroes
Luckey Roberts (1887 - 1968)

Luckey Roberts - stride pianist, composer.
He was Harlem's original piano powerhouse, the king of the New York Fast Shout pianists, the grandfather of stride piano. The name Luckey Roberts has become little more than a footnote in the pages of jazz history books. The names of his students are better known today than the master whom they worshipped. And what a list of disciples it is. These musicians include such luminaries as Duke Ellington, Earl Hines , James P Johnson, Eubie Blake , Willie "The Lion" Smith and last but not least George Gershwin .
Luckey Roberts was born on August 7, 1887 in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. After working in vaudeville as a child, Roberts moved to New York where he established a minor reputation as a composer and a major one as a performer of "Rags" and later "Stride" piano.
Luckey was the first of the Harlem pianists to record, for Columbia in 1916. But it would be more than half a century before recording engineers would have the ability to record such explosive music and the records were never released and are today lost. During the 1920s, he accompanied several vocalists and also provided background piano on some of the famous "Two Black Crows" recordings. Luckey recorded next in the '40's for Circle records. In the '50's he made a "Honky Tonk" album and finally after surviving a car accident in which his hands were shattered and several strokes, he was finally captured in stereo for the "Good Time Jazz" label.
In the years between World War One and World War Two, Roberts' composing talents were recognized more and several of his musical shows were produced Roberts was the first Harlem pianist to be published, the composer of over a dozen musical comedies, the composer of several big band era hits, as well as composer of Symphonic works that premiered at both Carnegie Hall in 1939 and Town Hall in 1941.
Although Luckey did not become that successful as a Broadway show writer, he struck gold in the world of society. As a society bandleader, Roberts saw his income rise from six dollars a week to one thousand dollars a night. His orchestras could be heard playing on Park Avenue, on Long Island, Nantucket, Newport, and Palm Beach. He was a favorite of royalty and of the family of President Franklin D. Roosevelt.
Luckey opened his own place in 1940 at 773 St. Nicholas Ave. calling it "Luckey's Rendezvous," which featured singing and dancing waiters, waitresses, and cloakroom attendants. In this period, Luckey began concentrating on serious music and concert performances. The Carnegie Hall concert occurred on August 30, 1939, and included his work for piano and orchestra "Spanish Suite." On May 28,1941, the orchestra performed at Town Hall. In his home town of Philadelphia, at Robin Hood Hall, he premiered his syncopated rhapsody for piano and orchestra "Whistlin' Pete." In 1941, Luckey scored two successes on the Hit Parade with "Moon Light Cocktail" and "Massachusetts."
Luckey continued to run The Rendezvous until 1954 when it closed because, according to The Lion, he would always be too generous with free drinks for his friends and clientele. After spending over 72 years in show business, Luckey refused to retire. During his golden years he composed two musicals, Emalina and Old Golden Brown, the latter of which he spent over a decade composing, writing the lyrics, and writing and revising the plot.
Roberts made few records and most of these were early piano rolls, while his later records were made after he had suffered strokes and was injured in a road accident. Still, it is possible to understand the awe felt by such pianists as Fats Waller, James P. Johnson and Willie "The Lion" Smith at his astonishing technique. Luckey was held in the highest esteem by his contemporaries. He played tenths as easy as others played Octaves. His tremolo was terrific, and he could drum on one note with two or three fingers in either hand. His style in making breaks was like a drummer's; he'd flail his hands in and out lifting them high, a very spectacular pianist.
Luckey Roberts died on February 5, 1968.
Adapted from bio by Tom Roberts.
Luckey Roberts (pictured left) With Willie Smith
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 The SGL symbol, the Bawabisi, is inspired by Nigerian Nsibidi script and West African Adrinkra symbols. The two facing semi-circles represent unity and love. The figure has been split symmetrically in half to suggest parts of a whole that mirror each other. Dots are often used in Adinkra symbols to represent commitment and pluralism. The split and dots, with the addition of color, suggest the concept of gender. The circle encompassing the figure reinforces the idea of connectedness despite duality, suggesting the idea of two-spirited.
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About BMX- NY...
THE BLACK MEN'S XCHANGE - NEW YORK (BMX-NY) was founded in Harlem in 2002 and is a gathering for same gender loving (SGL) and bisexual Black men to powerfully and respectfully address issues that impact their lives, and to connect with one another in a positive, affirming, nurturing and transformational environment. Ages 18 and up.
BMXNY.org
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BMX Mission Statement THE BLACK MEN'S XCHANGE (BMX) was founded as an instrument of healing and empowerment for same gender loving (SGL) and bisexual African descended men. We create an environment that advances cultural affirmation, promotes critical thinking, and embraces diversity. Affirming ourselves as African descended people is strengthening. The focus on critical thinking involves identifying and unlearning ingrained anti-black and anti-homosexual conditioning. We recognize and celebrate same gender loving men as diverse in sexuality, class, culture and philosophy. BMX is built on a philosophy that embraces same gender loving experience as an intrinsic facet of everyday Black life. Integral to BMXNY's approach is the understanding that, in order to decrease internal and external homo-reactionary thinking and demystify differences around diverse ways of living, loving and being, same gender loving, bisexual and transgendered Black people must engage in supportive dialogue with each other and the community.
The Black Men's Xchange-New York And Our Allies At The Millions More Movement (MMM) In Washington, DC (October 15th, 2005)
We believe that self-determination is crucial in achieving success toward healing and empowerment. We understand that our cultural and experiential uniqueness requires a uniquely focused and precise approach. Affirming strategies born out of our own experience is powerful; hence, the adoption of the terms, Black, African American and Same Gender Loving.
The Term Same Gender Loving
The term Same Gender Loving (SGL) emerged in the early '90s to offer Black women who love women and Black men who love men (and other people of color) a way of identifying that resonated with the uniqueness of Black life and culture. Before this many African descended people, knowing little of our history regarding homosexuality and bi-sexuality, took on European symbols and identifications as a means of embracing our sexualities, including: Greek lambdas, German pink triangles, and the white-gay-originated rainbow flag, in addition to the terms gay, and lesbian.
The term gay, coined as an identification by White male homosexuals in the '50s, was cultivated in an exclusive White male environment. By the '60s, the growing Gay Liberation movement developed in a climate largely excluding Blacks and women. In response to this discrimination, White women coined the identification lesbian, a word derived from the Greek island, Lesbos. The Lesbian movement, in turn, helped define a majority White movement, called feminism. In response to the racism experienced by women of color from White feminists, celebrated author, Alice Walker introduced the term womanist.
The term womanist identified women of color concerned with both the sexual and racial oppression of women. In this spirit of self-naming and ethnic-sexual pride, the term same gender loving(SGL) was introduced to enhance the lives and amplify the voices of homosexual and bi-sexual people of color, to provide a powerful identification not marginalized by racism in the gay community or by "homophobic" attitudes in society at large.
As gay culture grew and established enclaves in San Francisco, Chelsea, Provincetown, Key West and other territories, Blacks especially, were carded and rejected from many establishments. Even today Blacks, Latinos and Asians often appear in gay publications and other media solely as potential sexual objects. Ironically, gay rights activism was modeled on the Civil Rights and Black Power Movements initiated by African Americans.
In the years since the advent of the Gay Rights movement many Black SGLs have found scant space for the voices, experiences and empowerment of Black people. Additionally, the rigid influence of the Black church's traditionally anti-homosexual stance has contributed to attitudes that repress and stigmatize Black SGLs. The lack of acknowledgment and support in the Black community has shunted multitudes of same gender loving African descended people to the White community to endure racism, isolation from their own communities, and cultural insensitivity.
The high visibility of the white gay community along with the absence of illumination on same gender loving experience contributes to the tendency in Black communities to overlook and ridicule same gender loving relationships as alien or aberrant. The SGL movement has inspired national dialogue on diverse ways of loving in the Black community. The term same gender loving explicitly acknowledges loving within same-sex relationships, while encouraging self-love.
The designation, same gender loving has served as a wake up call for Blacks to acknowledge diverse ways of loving and being, and has provided an opportunity for Blacks and other people of color to claim, nurture and honor their significance within their families and communities.BMXNational.com
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