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The BMX-NY  Gatekeepers  e-NewsletterJANUARY  28th, 2011
Black Men's Xchange-National

 
In This Week's Gatekeepers Issue
This Friday's Topic: The Gift of Same Gender Lovingness
Friday Forum Recap (01|14|11): DRUM CONNECTION: Embracing the Ancestors - Reconnecting with Our Identity (Part II)
Friday Forum Recap (01|07|11): RESPONDING TO THE DRUM: Embracing The Ancestors - Reconnecting With Our Identity
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Welcome To The Black Men's Xchange-New York (BMX-NY) Gatekeepers e-Newsletter. This e-newsletter is for the gathering on Friday, January 28th, 2011.

 
 



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Topic  For  This  Friday,  January  28th,  2011
 
The Gift of Same Gender Lovingness
 

 

How do you feel about your sexuality?

 

 

What is unique about same gender loving Black men?

   

 

Is SGL a gift?  And if so, to whom, and for what?

 

 

What are some benefits of being SGL?

 

 

How does the gift of same gender loving keep on giving?

 

 

Which SGL s/heroes do you most admire?  And, why?

 

 

What does it mean to be a Gatekeeper?

 

 

How can we learn to honor and celebrate our gifts and teach others to do so as well?

 

 

How do we create families that will preserve and or continue our legacies?

 
 

  

 

  

 
Friday  Forum  Recap
 
(Topic   Hi-lites  From  Friday,  January  14th,  2011)  
 

 
DRUM  CONNECTION:  Embracing  The  Ancestors  -
Reconnecting  With  Our  Identity  (Part II
)

Facilitated  by  Jett  Wilson  &  Chad Franklin 
 


From our BMX-NY dialogue 2 weeks ago,  brothers continued our consideration of our relationship to Africa and Africanness.  Among angles through which we took up this deliberation included:


 

NAKO KWANZAA @ Boys
Copyright © 2007 ROD PATRICK RISBROOK

 

What is identity?

 

"Classification...labeling...self-labeling..."

 

"What I identify with...How I see myself...What I can relate to...How I choose to live my life..."

 

"My culture, belief system, practices..."

 

Shorthand for what you want other people to believe about you...and what you want to believe about yourself..."

 

I AM... Brutha Crying 

 

{Facilitator asks: "When you think about identity, when do you think your identity coalesced or formed?" }

 

"Around five or six, about my homosexuality...[That's] when it became clear that it was not to be talked about..."

 

 

How might our understanding of identity serve us?

 

"Na'im Akbar asked, 'What function do you have in the world?...and you say, 'I am the protector...In the village, people have roles and functions...and the concept of an identity wasn't useful...The notion of identity is Western - psychoanalytic...It has nothing to do with who we are really..."

 

{Facilitator asks: "What is influencing how you see yourself?"}

 

"I grew up in Haiti...They tell you, 'This is what you eat...how you behave'..."

 

"Social Cognitive Theory [involves] likability...[people do what they learn makes them likable to others]..."

 

{Facilitator proposes, "[Consider the Kwanzaa] Kawaida questions, 'Who am I?'...'Am I who I say I am?'"}  

 

"As a forty-four-year-old Black man, I see our identity has been under attack from the beginning of our [tenure here]...In "Roots," when Kunta Kinte was whipped because he wouldn't identify as Toby...That's what has been [and continues to be] done to us..."

 

"Yes...and what was brilliant about Haley's depiction of his great, great's abuse at the hands of the white slave-owner was that it took the idea of having had our identity and culture stripped of us out of the abstract...We saw Kunta having his identity literally stripped of him...beaten out of him...And, while identity may be a Western construct, to the extent that we have been enculturated in, and operate in a Western context, that is why our understanding of identity vital...And  appreciate that our identity is connected to Africa and Africanness..."

 

"In the spirit of Pan Africanism...I don't see any other group of people who have been brought here as we were...Being descendants of slaves...not knowing where we come from has created a very distinct problem...I have a very unique African descendency...My relationship to Africa is an acknowledgement of descendency...But, we tend to ignore the [connection]..."

 

{Facilitator says, "[A behavioral theorist named] Abraham Cardner proposed that, If you can control a person's experiences, you can direct his behavior...Are our experiences under control?...Who dictates where we live...how we eat...how we pray?..."}

 

"Our relationship to Africa is conflicted...The lack of geological locator...property identification...creates enormous conflict...Europeans talk about being from the 'old country,' and they [have a clear sense of locale including traditions, mores, etc.]..."

 

"I think of identity as building something with bricks...Sometimes I bake the bricks myself and sometimes they're given to me..."

 

Africa (Continent) Mosaic 

 

What is our relationship to Africa?

 

"As a child I was taught Africa was a place of savages...Tarzan...Africans had to be controlled by white people..."

 

"My first images of Africa were of Little Black Sambo, the little boy who ran around the tree and turned into butter..."

 

"The motherland...a place of greatness...with a history so rich, I developed a thirst for knowledge of it...I had to learn on my own [because there was nothing taught about it in school]..."

 

{Facilitator asks, "In the early grades, can you remember being taught anything about Africa?"}  [Group]  "No..."

 

"In one class I was taught, nobody knows who built the pyramids...In another we were told aliens built the pyramids!..."

 

"All I was taught regarding Africa [had to do with] slavery..."

 

"When I was reading about W.E. B. Dubois, Booker T. Washington, Martin Luther King and Malcolm X, I learned a lot that we [West Africans] had to copy...There is a very bad attitude in Africa now where kids call themselves 'niggas'...When I cam to BMX I was so proud of you because you call yourselves African...The sense of belonging is so important...African Americans don't have that, and when I was in Senegal, I remember seeing Blacks talking about, 'I'm not African, I'm an American..."

 

{Facilitator asks, "How many have visited Africa?"}

 

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Which, if any, African cultural items/practices do you observe?

 

"As I move through the world, I see all Black people younger than me as my sons and daughters...all in my age range as brothers and sisters, and all elders as my fathers and mothers..."

 

"We do it daily without knowing it...Eat curry...listen to R&B music...reggae...the way we speak and sound..."

 

"They are called Africanisms...[they include] the way we combine languages...Back in the nineties, white social scientists reflected on that natural tendency as "Ebonics"..."

 

"I collect Hummel [figurines]...and I know their history...and I think about objects of African art I am attracted to ... [but] if I don't know what it is, I refuse to have it in my home...until I understand its meaning..."

 

"The same way we were taught about European objects, we can learn about African art...The only way you're going to have that reconnection is if you [study]...Blacks don't buy African art...That's the next business I'm going into and it frustrates me that I know most of clientele will not be African Americans..."

 

Orisha Art and Posters - OGUM 

 

Can monotheistic God-centered practices and ideas coexist with ancestors?

 

"I have always been attracted to African spiritual intelligences and practices but, during my first trip to Ghana, I experienced something like beatitude and, at one point, I went our on the terrace of the apartment where I was staying one morning and I just fell to my knees crying and praying...they were tears of joy...Now, I have always prayed, but I never prayed systematically...When I got back, I created an ancestors shrine at which I pray every morning after I pray to what I call God..."

Santeria Candles

 

"I practice Santeria..."

 

"I pray to the ancestors every day when I leave my house..."  

 

Santeria (Olokun)
An African Village Practing Santeria (Olokun)

"I have altars...One has male energy...The other has female energy...Someone recommended recently that I combine them...Ancestors visit me in dreams...It's always scared me, but as I get older, I'm becoming more comfortable with it..."

 

 

What is the mindset(s) of Africans about African Americans?

 

There is also that animosity of Africans toward African Americans...The same way you've seen negative images of Africans, [we've] seen negative images of you..."

 

"Because we can't say, 'I'm Fanti, or Wolof or Fon...can I really connect to Africa or these people I don't know?..."

 

"I'm not at odds with myself anymore because I'm not at odds with my history anymore..."

 

"The Black man is largely in an identity crisis...When you can step out of the door in most any Black community and hear five-year-olds calling each other nigga'...We have passed that on to them..."

 

"Tautology...Kwanzaa is East African, and we're not East African...We are descended from West Africans...So, I don't think it's about [latching onto] African stuff [we don't have any real connection to]...[Maybe] whites were giving them [Africans] the implementation of identity because they needed to have an identity... My thing with African Americans having connection with Africa...We should make sure it makes sense..."

 

"My grandmother threw rocks...Ju ju...The dead know what the living are doing..."

 

"To me, everybody on the planet is African because we are the first people..."

 

"I am possessed of many identities...I am a man...I am African...I am an African American...I am an American African...I am an artist...I am an educator...I am a  Gatekeeper...All these identities are mutable...Ever evolving, changing and growing and I grow and change...None of these identities should be in conflict with each other, and so, through all this, I have found that it is imperative for me to maintain and deepen my connection to my Africanness...As I do, I find I am more empowered in all of them..."










Friday  Forum  Recap
 
(Topic   Hi-lites  From  Friday,   January  7th,  2011)  
 

 
   RESPONDING  TO  THE  DRUM:
Embracing The Ancestors  -
Reconnecting  With  Our  Identity
 
 


In our first dialogue of the New Year, Brothers considered Responding to the Drum, as in, our connection to Africa and Africanness.  Among questions we took up included: 


 

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Copyright © 2007 ROD PATRICK RISBROOK


 

Are you African?

 

"No, I just see myself as a Black American...Because I don't speak it [any African language]...and I wasn't raised to see myself that way..."

 

"I identify as African American...I'm not indigenous African...not born on that soil...but my roots go back to Africa...I recognize that the struggles I'm going through, they're going through...They're not in control of the continent..."

 

"I consider myself African...The Ghanians treated me so kindly...I don't know if it was because of the money or the reason is the struggle Africans face in America...I actually think there's a need for a better description like 21st Century African...There's no need to describe Germany or England because they haven't changed in hundreds of years...I long for a more substantial term that describes a geographic [relationship]...The otherness and the regional phenotype..."

 

{Facilitator says, "As a matter of fact, there are a couple of identifications being taken up currently which embody the intention you point to...They are 'Afrikan,' and 'New Afrikan',,,"}

 

 

Do we think about Africa in any meaningful way in relation to ourselves on any regular basis?

 

"If you are an involuntary immigrant and haven't had an opportunity to [maintain your cultural bearings, it stands to reason that you might not]..."

 

"There's a cable channel called the Africa Channel...I'd like to get it...I think Time Warner and Dish TV carry it..."

 

Africa (Continent) Mosaic 

 

Is there a general disinterest or disregard for Africa among us?  If so, why?

 

"I don't read any news about Africa...I love RSS feeds...[It's a] program on a web page that puts a link in...The page is updated regularly...A continuous feed of information [about Africa]...My aim is to make my thinking about Africa more regularly...Consider Africa in relation to everything else...Also, I want to think in terms of investing in Africa...There's such a huge untapped market for so many things there...Right after the war in Rwanda they started putting up the cell phone towers and [made a mint]..."

 

 

In our psyche, is there anything sexy (alluring, captivating, exciting) about Africa?

 

"Inspirational...Look what these people can do when given a fair chance?...I guess, hope...I have this imagination that it [will flourish] in the future..."

 

{Facilitator says, "During my first trip to Ghana, I found it terribly sexy that everywhere I looked, I saw Black people running things...And while I knew that European interests were still controlling most of the country's natural resources, I was thrilled by the promise that Jerry Rawlings [then President] was  inspiring...Proposing free public education for all and other progressive initiatives...and there was a delicacy about the people, from the most high-born to the most rustic that I found ennobling..."}

 

"I don't think of Africa on a daily basis like I once did...I'm forty-five...Africa is a very complex place...Fifty-five countries...[The] French, Port...Spain...[The] Lagos Stock Exchange is a great investment...India and China are investing, so it will be an economic engine..."

 

{Facilitator says, "In fact, Africa has been an economic engine [for Eurocentric interests] since ancient times...and more recently, particularly since 1884 when European interests convened in Germany to set about the scramble for Africa..."}Nelson Mandela Collage-1 

Other than Nelson Mandela, Chinua Achebe and Ifa (Yoruba), what, if any personal connection do you have with Africa?

 

"I'm Dominican...Yes, I'm African..."

 

"I've worked with African people...I'd love to go to Lagos...Nigeria is one of the biggest importers of oil in the world..."

 

"I'm a free spirit...Pangaea is what we all came from...We're all still animals...So, when people say, 'I'm better than you,' [based on some artificial racial difference] it bothers me..."

 

"I personally have always had an interest in Africa...Africans have been denigrated as an excuse to exploit the people out of ignorance...Out of African theory...[The] Sand People..."

 

 

Does the way we currently relate to Africa help or harm us?

 

"When people devise identities for themselves...I would be careful...Many people create identity to raise their level of humanity [above that of others]...People who cannot speak for themselves are [damaged]..."

 

"There's a lot of self-hatred going on...I remember as a child, if you wore African symbols, [other Blacks would say,] 'Who you supposed to be, Kunta Kinte?'...'Are you African?'...Hell no!...I'm a Nigga' from Brooklyn!'..."

 

"In this country I don't feel comfortable...I don't think I will ever feel comfortable because of the level of disrespect that happens every day to African people..."

 

"I don't quite identify as American...I think of America as The Other...I've owned an American flag and I've kind of used it oddly...There are people I will never meet...The Queen, the Pope...I won't kneel before the Queen...Kiss the Pope's ring...I throw out the White book...I ask people, 'Where you from?'...'Where are your people from?'..."   

              

"You [African Americans] are the ramification of slavery...Hegemony...The first thing that was taken away from us was the knowledge of what we are...When I know who I am, I don't [require others' sanction]...I don't want to be part of a melting pot..."

 

"I'm [walking along one day] looking at the bill boards in Times Square...Diddy taking the Chiroc...[And on Oprah] talking about having given his sixteen-year-old son an Maybach...There ain't too much room in Africa for all of that...I live in the Bronx...There hasn't been a Black Borough President..."

 

"We don't love ourselves...In this recession, people close ranks...So, if you are not among the controllers, you are left out..."

 

"We were talking about going back to Africa...We were talking about how much of Africa is not owned by Africans...We still allow Europeans to come and rape [its resources]...If we're always looking for other people to define us [we'll never know who we are]..."

 

" "Roots" was the first opportunity that America had to glimpse Africa and what had happened to Africans..."

 

"Having been there...the lack of development...sanitation...poverty...for me there's not [a positive vision]..."

 

"I visited a village north of Kumasi...I helped build a school...I do have a romantic vision of Africa..."

 

 

What stereotypes, conceptions and/or misconceptions do we harbor about Africa?

 

"I grew up with Tarzan...The natives were chasing Tarzan, and I was angry at them [for messing with Tarzan]...In the 70's I discovered a Pan African group who helped me discover a romantic vision of Africa, and how, what was being done to the people there was what was being done to me..."

 

"It starts with teaching each other about what happened...[While slavery has existed throughout human history] I don't think there's been slavery like that [which was carried out] in America...Do we have a concept of what has been stripped of us?..."

 

"I like the Africa Channel..."

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"There's a fine line between shame and privacy...The shaming of one's identity...thinking about Blackness...Even the medium brow that I am is distasteful...[which is why, when we would think we are different from each other, we have to remember] Same boat, different stop..."

 

"1.2 million children are registered in public schools in New York...550,000 drop out every year...Most are our children..."

 

"I was open to having my mind changed about being African descended..."

 

"How important is it for us to return to Africa?..."

 

""I've been in the homes of so many people who are not African and they own so much of our art...And we could care less...They know they secrets we have not been privy to, of the beauty of Africa...They were travelling to Africa while I was watching movies about us...[They know] the reason the noses were chopped off the ancient Egyptian sculptures..."

 

"I had a [social studies] teacher and the first thing she would teach in her class was that the Middle East is part of Africa and they kept that separate..."

 

"The F.B.I. came to my room when I was in college because I composed a paper on the Scale of Black Self-Concept to see if Egyptians saw themselves as Black...My Professor said, 'You can't present that paper..."

 

 

What possibilities or hopes might we have for Africa?

 

"To go and start up my art business..."

 

"That I can go there and they will see me as a cousin, and not an American..."

 

"That Black Americans will not see Africa as a monolith...[understanding] Africa is not a place that is one thing...We are a people who have been separated from our history...The African experience is as varied as the state to state experience here..."

 

 "It is my hope that Africans in all those countries can run their own shit..."

 

"[That  we] think about investing in Africa...I donate $2 to the African Leadership Foundation...A prep school for African children in Johanesburg..."


 


 



Upcoming  Topics:  BMX- NY  2011  Winter   Calendar

(PLEASE NOTE THAT TOPICS ARE SUBJECT TO CHANGE;
WEEKLY E-NEWSLETTERS WILL REFLECT ANY NEW CHANGES)


 

Friday, February 4th, 2011

OUTING (TO BE ANNOUNCED) 


 


 

 Friday, February 11th, 2011
 
FINDING YOUR PERFECT MATE: The Alpha-Beta Mating Test


 


 

 

Friday, February 18th, 2011
 
MYTHS & FAIRYTALES: How Might Childhood Stories/Legends Have Influenced Our Adult Belief Systems? 


 

 

 

Friday, February 25th, 2011
 
SGL ENTREPRENEURSHIP: If I Were to Start A Business, What Would it Be? 


 

 

Friday, March 4th, 2011
 
FEAR OF AN SGL PLANET: A Dialogue with Heterosexual Brothers 


 

 

 

Friday, March 11th, 2011
 
DIVA WORSHIP: How, If At All, Does Our Idolatry of Beyonce, Whitney, and Janet (among others) Impact Our Manhood As SGL Men? 


 
 

Friday, March 18th, 2011
MAKING ROOM FOR RETURNING BROTHERS: A Dialogue w/ Formerly Incarcerated SGL Brothers


  
 

Friday, March 25th, 2011

PDA* As An SGL Liberation Movement Resistance Strategy (Part II)

 

*Public Display of Affection



 
 


 

SGL  Black  Heroes

Benjamin Banneker
Benjamin Banneker's Almanac
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Benjamin Banneker -- author, scientist, mathematician, farmer, astronomer, publisher and urban planner -- was descended from enslaved Africans, an indentured English servant, and free men and women of color. His grandmother, Molly Welsh, was an English dairy maid who was falsely convicted of theft and indentured to a Maryland tobacco farmer. After working out her indenture, Welsh rented and farmed some land, eventually purchasing two African slaves whom she freed several years later.

In violation of Maryland law, Welsh wed one of her former slaves, Bannke or Bannaka, said to be the son of a chief. Their daughter Mary also married an African -- a man from Guinea who had been enslaved, baptized as Robert, and freed -- who took Banneker as his surname upon their marriage. In 1731, they named their first child Benjamin.

Young Benjamin grew up in Baltimore County, one of two hundred free blacks among a population of four thousand slaves and thirteen thousand whites. He was taught to read by his grandmother Molly, and briefly attended a one-room interracial school taught by a Quaker. He showed an early interest in mathematics and mechanics, preferring books to play.

At the age of 22, having seen only two timepieces in his lifetime -- a sundial and a pocket watching -- Banneker constructed a striking clock almost entirely out of wood, based on his own drawings and calculations. The clock continued to run until it was destroyed in a fire forty years later.

Benjamin BannekerBanneker became friendly with the Ellicott brothers, who built a complex of gristmills in the 1770s. Like Banneker, George Ellicott was a mathematician and amateur astronomer. In 1788, with tools and books borrowed from Ellicott, Banneker nearly accurately predicted the timing of an eclipse of the sun, discovering later that his minor error was due to a discrepancy in his expert sources rather than a miscalculation on his part.

In 1791, Banneker accompanied Major Andrew Ellicott to the banks of the Potomac to assist him in surveying the new federal city that would become the nation's capital. A notice first printed in the Georgetown Weekly Ledger and later copied in other newspapers stated that Ellicott was "attended by Benjamin Banneker, an Ethiopian, whose abilities, as a surveyor, and an astronomer, clearly prove that Mr. Jefferson's concluding that race of men were void of mental endowments, was without foundation."

In 1792, Banneker published an almanac, based on his own painstakingly calculated ephemeris (table of the position of celestial bodies), that also included commentaries, literature, and fillers that had a political and humanitarian purpose. The previous summer, he had sent a copy of the ephemeris to Thomas Jefferson, along with a letter in which he challenged Jefferson's ideas about the inferiority of blacks.

Between 1792 and 1797, Banneker published six almanacs in twenty-eight editions. He continued to live alone, selling off and renting his land, then giving the rest to the Ellicotts in exchange for a small pension. He died in 1806. On the day of his burial, his house and its contents (including his clock) caught fire and burned to the ground.


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The Bawabisi SGL Symbol

Bawabisi SGL Symbol (Partial Transparency)

The SGL symbol, the Bawabisi, is inspired by Nigerian Nsibidi script and West African Adrinkra symbols. The two facing semi-circles represent unity and love. The figure has been split symmetrically in half to suggest parts of a whole that mirror each other. Dots are often used in Adinkra symbols to represent commitment and pluralism. The split and dots, with the addition of color, suggest the concept of gender. The circle encompassing the figure reinforces the idea of connectedness despite duality, suggesting the idea of two-spirited.





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THE BLACK MEN'S XCHANGE - NEW YORK (BMX-NY)
was founded in Harlem in 2002 and is a gathering for same gender loving (SGL) and bisexual Black men to powerfully and respectfully address issues that impact their lives, and to connect with one another in a positive, affirming, nurturing and transformational environment. Ages 18 and up.


BMX  Mission  Statement

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THE BLACK MEN'S XCHANGE (BMX) was founded as an instrument of healing and empowerment for same gender loving (SGL) and bisexual African descended men. We create an environment that advances cultural affirmation, promotes critical thinking, and embraces diversity.  Affirming ourselves as African descended people is strengthening.  The focus on critical thinking involves identifying and unlearning ingrained anti-black and anti-homosexual conditioning.  We recognize and celebrate same gender loving men as diverse in sexuality, class, culture and philosophy.  
 
BMX is built on a philosophy that embraces same gender loving experience as an intrinsic facet of everyday Black life.  Integral to BMXNY's approach is the understanding that, in order to decrease internal and external homo-reactionary thinking and demystify differences around diverse ways of living, loving and being, same gender loving, bisexual and transgendered Black people must engage in supportive dialogue with each other and the community. 

 
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The Black Men's Xchange-New York And Our Allies At The
Millions More Movement (MMM) In Washington, DC
(October 15th, 2005)


We believe that self-determination is crucial in achieving success toward healing and empowerment.  We understand that our cultural and experiential uniqueness requires a uniquely focused and precise approach.  Affirming strategies born out of our own experience is powerful; hence, the adoption of the terms, Black, African American and Same Gender Loving.



The Term Same Gender Loving

The term Same Gender Loving (SGL) emerged in the early '90s to offer Black women who love women and Black men who love men (and other people of color) a way of identifying that resonated with the uniqueness of Black life and culture.  Before this many African descended people, knowing little of our history regarding homosexuality and bi-sexuality, took on European symbols and identifications as a means of embracing our sexualities, including: Greek lambdas, German pink triangles, and the white-gay-originated rainbow flag, in addition to the terms gay, and lesbian.

The term gay, coined as an identification by White male homosexuals in the '50s, was cultivated in an exclusive White male environment.  By the '60s, the growing Gay Liberation movement developed in a climate largely excluding Blacks and women.  In response to this discrimination, White women coined the identification lesbian, a word derived from the Greek island, Lesbos. The Lesbian movement, in turn, helped define a majority White movement, called feminism.  In response to the racism experienced by women of color from White feminists, celebrated author, Alice Walker introduced the term womanist.

The term womanist identified women of color concerned with both the sexual and racial oppression of women.  In this spirit of self-naming and ethnic-sexual pride, the term same gender loving(SGL) was introduced to enhance the lives and amplify the voices of homosexual and bi-sexual people of color, to provide a powerful identification not marginalized by racism in the gay community or by "homophobic" attitudes in society at large.

As gay culture grew and established enclaves in San Francisco, Chelsea, Provincetown, Key West and other territories, Blacks especially, were carded and rejected from many establishments.  Even today Blacks, Latinos and Asians often appear in gay publications and other media solely as potential sexual objects.  Ironically, gay rights activism was modeled on the Civil Rights and Black Power Movements initiated by African Americans.

In the years since the advent of the Gay Rights movement many Black SGLs have found scant space for the voices, experiences and empowerment of Black people.  Additionally, the rigid influence of the Black church's traditionally anti-homosexual stance has contributed to attitudes that repress and stigmatize Black SGLs.  The lack of acknowledgment and support in the Black community has shunted multitudes of same gender loving African descended people to the White community to endure racism, isolation from their own communities, and cultural insensitivity.

The high visibility of the white gay community along with the absence of illumination on same gender loving experience contributes to the tendency in Black communities to overlook and ridicule same gender loving relationships as alien or aberrant.  The SGL movement has inspired national dialogue on diverse ways of loving in the Black community.  The term same gender loving explicitly acknowledges loving within same-sex relationships, while encouraging self-love.

The designation, same gender loving has served as a wake up call for Blacks to acknowledge diverse ways of loving and being, and has provided an opportunity for Blacks and other people of color to claim, nurture and honor their significance within their families and communities.







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