I AM MY OWN LEAD STORY: What to Do When You Become the News
by Mary Caracciol i*
As my staff and I reported on the
world's economic turmoil for my nightly TV show Money Matters Today, we got the news. Our network, show,
and jobs were being eliminated.
Three hundred fifty
of us would be thrown back into searching for a job at a time when it felt as
though there was no job market. For my
staff, the news was particularly hard.
Day-in
and day-out we covered the story of the bad economy... we knew the economic
forecasts and they were downright ugly.
The irony was not lost on us. We had become our lead story.
As
we reported the rise of unemployment, some of us would soon be filing for
first-time jobless claims. Our fears were real. Would we lose our homes,
too? Could we sell them now even if
we wanted to? These were questions we
had tried to answer for a viewers every night. And now, we had to answer them
for ourselves.
At
this moment, it occurred to me how important a nation's psyche really is. This
is America. We pick ourselves up by our bootstraps. While headlines blared about bailouts, I
decided bailouts had no appeal to me personally. What the big banks and the auto industry are
learning now is that bailouts come with strings attached. I prefer to write my
own script. But how do I pull it together when my industry is cutting back
across the board?
Fresh
layoffs occur by the day. Newspapers are folding, television news departments
are no longer competing with each other.
They are sharing material to stay on the air. My predicament is very similar to my friends
in financial services and in the auto industry. Smart, hard-working, talented
people are paying the cost for a situation caused by a bad economy and, in some
cases, colossally bad management.
Worrying about how this happened - is
a story for another day. Today, the only story I am concerned about is picking
up the pieces as best I can and re-focusing on what really matters. I am focusing on things I can control. There is good that comes from a job loss.
Now, you can magically cut through the noise and the trivial and gain clarity
about what matters. So, how can you and
I turn this situation around and make it work for us? I have three ideas I'd
like to present and get your feedback.
1) Re-focus your long-range plan. What
really matters now? Once you let go of goals from the past and accept that
things have changed, think long term. What are your long-range priorities now? What are your goals for yourself and the other people that matter to you - children,
parents, community, etc. So often when we are in the middle of a job loss, we
think about all we have or may have to give up. I say reshape the
discussion. It's not giving up on things. It's re-thinking the priorities. It's not about deliberately shrinking goals;
they may be even more grand than before.
By acknowledging our world has changed, you may also discover some of
your long-range goals also have changed.
2) Re-focus your time. Recently, a friend told me that her job
search was so time-consuming she had no time to network. I suspected that she was spending hours on
Internet job boards as an excuse for not reaching out. When I pushed her on this, she said her
network no longer existed. She said her co-workers were her network, and now they are either laid-off, too, or aren't
returning calls. I reminded her that she
is much more than the title she had on her last job. She has family, neighbors and access to a
larger community that she has yet to tap into.
I asked if she had won the lottery instead of being laid-off what would
she be doing with her time? She told me she always wanted to do non-profit work
and that she loved cycling and would do a cross-country trip. I reminded her that her job search took
time, but not eight hours a day. She had time to work in 10-20 hours of
non-profit work per week. The work would be rewarding and create even more
contacts for her network. Joining the
local cycling club would allow her to train, stay fit, and meet new
people. You never know where that next job will come from, but it often comes
from personal referrals not a classified ad or Internet job board. Those tools
are good, but the pros tell me to spend no more than 10% of your time looking
through ads to find a job. Networking - which is simply reaching out to those
in your circle - is the best way to get that job.
3) Re-focus your spending. What really
matters now? Do you need the cable TV and internet? Maybe just one will
do. Look at your spending. Where were
you wasteful because you were so busy, you gave yourself permission to be
wasteful? What can you do to lower bills or bring in more income. Things like
conserving energy can lead to a very quick return on your investment in any
season. Adjusting the thermostat or
being diligent about turning off lights pays you back immediately. Take a look at things like your auto
insurance. A woman I know was spending a fortune to insure a 13-year-old
car. Good liability was important - but
why pay to insure a car when your deductable is more than the car is
worth? Shop around and make sure you
have the right coverage. I am not saying
skimp here, I am saying don't be wasteful. Spend what you need and no
more. Re-think your cell phone
plan. To do this right you need to take a
methodical and hard look at your spending. I would take a look at every dollar
spent over the last 3 months; you could list a lot of the wasteful stuff you without doing this. But, every time
I do this exercise I find new ways to save.
It's tedious and it pays off. Do it. You will also
know exactly how much money you need to earn to stay afloat. Guessing isn't good enough. If you have to
negotiate a salary for your next job, it will be helpful to know what you
really need to make, rather than what your ego needs you to make.
Finally,
on the subject of our ego. The only thing more bruising to your ego than losing
your job is getting dumped by a guy (or gal) that you didn't really like all
that much anyway. It stinks and you can't help but feel insulted by a pink
slip. I am better than this -right?
Thoughts can really go down a negative road if you spend too much time
serving your ego here. Tell yourself you
will deal with the injustice later. Today is about moving on. I promise you there is something on the other
side of unemployment. We are different
people on the other side, often sharper, more interesting and far more
compassionate than before.
I
know that won't pay the bills today, but it is your reward for continuing to
work hard to right your ship. You are
doing the right thing-keep doing it. It will pay off. In the meantime, I am right there with you.
Let me know how you're doing by visiting me at MaryandMoney.com.
Reward those
who are helping you by making them my world famous granola, recipe below. (Maybe not world
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