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RelationTIPS from Wasatch Family Therapy
June 2009
In this issue
Importance of Family Time
That's What I Like About Me! Accepting Your Strengths
Navigating Mother-Daughter Relationships Workshop
Couple's Intimacy Workshop
Finding Balance Women's Self-Care Workshops
Group Therapy
by Clair Mellenthin, LCSW, Dir. Child & Adolescent Services
Clair MellenthinAs many of you, I am finding myself in the thick of things with end of the school year whirlwind of projects, thank you notes, activities, and finding myself thinking, "What in the world will I do with my kids all summer long??". Today on NPR (yes, I am a NPR junkie too) they presented a segment on the demise of family road trips and what that says about the American family culture today. It got me thinking about my own childhood memories of our family road trips- all of the mishaps that occurred along the way, but much more importantly, the bonding that took place during those long drives.
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THAT'S WHAT I LIKE ABOUT ME! Accepting Your Strengths
By Julie Hanks, LCSW, Clinical Director
Julie Hanks LCSW
Ask yourself the following questions: What are 5 things I dislike about myself? What are 5 things I like about myself? Which one was easier to answer? If it's easier for you to say what you dislike about yourself, you are not alone. Often it is much easier to identify our weaknesses, faults, difficult traits than to acknowledge our strengths and positive characteristics. Here are some common barriers that may be preventing you from seeing the good in yourself:
You worry about what others will think of you.
You have been socialized to minimize your positive traits.
You want to point out your weakness before    someone else can to avoid ridicule.
You define yourself in terms of "either or" (I'm good OR bad, fat OR thin, smart OR dumb).
You don't feel worthy of positive feelings about yourself.
How to Accept Your Strengths:
Listen To & Accept Compliments
If you find it difficult to identify your strengths, start listening to and accepting positive feedback from others and let it "sink in". It's often easier for others to see your strengths than to see them yourself. Notice themes in the compliments that others give you. For example, do others comment on the calm way you handle your children's emotional outbursts, or the warmth you exude when talking with others, or your ability to be diplomatic in difficult work situations. Listen to the positive things that others are telling you and consider the possibility that they are true!
Understand Difference Between Confidence & Pride
Many women fear that owning their strengths will lead to becoming prideful or conceited. Confidence and pride are not synonymous. Pride is putting self ABOVE others, confidence is self EQUAL to others. Confidence allows you to genuinely feel good about yourself and present your best self while generously acknowledging the wonderful and unique characteristics of others.
Recognize Your Unconditional Worth
Every person has intrinsic value. Our worth doesn't go up or down based on our positive or negative traits or behaviors. Your strengths don't increase worth just as your weaknesses and limitations don't decrease your worth. "A person's worth is contingent upon who he is, not upon what he does, or how much he has. The worth of a person, or a thing, or an idea, is in being, not in doing, not in having." - Alice Mary Hilton
Use "AND" Instead of "OR"
Often recognizing your limitations can lead you to discount your strengths, as if you have to choose one or the other. Having limitations doesn't negate your strengths. People aren't strong or weak, good or bad - you are BOTH. Recognize that everyone has strengths AND limitations. Allow yourself to acknowledge your limits AND strengths.
Challenge Your Inner Critic
The majority of internal self-talk is negative. Become more aware of the negative messages you tell yourself and challenge those negative thoughts. Ask yourself, "If I said that to a loved one, how would they feel about themselves?" It can also be helpful to identify the origin of your negative messages and discover that the critic isn't really your voice, but an internalized message that your received from someone else. Try replacing, or at least balancing, the criticism with positive thoughts that acknowledge your personal strengths, gifts, and talents. 
Watch Additional Studio 5 Segments:
Be Confident! Julie joins a panel of experts and weighs in on what confidence is and how to develop more of it. Watch online here.
How to Find a Female Mentor! 
It's crucial for women to find other women who have qualities or accomplishments that we admire to inspire us! Find out why female mentors are so important and what qualities to look for in a mentor. Julie will be sharing the story of one of her own mentors...who happens to be 90 years old! Watch online here.
Presented by Julie Hanks, LCSW
Do you find that even as an adult woman you are trying to please your mother? Do you find yourself in pain over your past or current relationship with your mom? Are you unsure how to handle this complicated relationship? This 2 hour group will focus on healthy strategies for navigating the important and sometimes confusing relationship. Talk with other women who share similar struggles and draw strength from their experiences
DATE: June 26, Friday (one session only)
TIME: 4:00-5:30pm
FEE: $50 
Download Flier Here
Happy CouplePresented by Julie Hanks, LCSW (Held monthly on the 3rd Wed. of the month)
Do you long for a closer relationship with your spouse? Talk with other couples in a relaxed atmosphere about marital struggles and successes! If you are in a committed relationship and want to deepen your emotional and physical relationship this workshop is for you. Join us for one workshop or come every month. Each month a different topic will be highlighted.
DATE: July 15, Wednesday "Understanding and Navigating Sexual Differences"
TIME: 7:00-9:00 pm
FEE: $100 per couple
DATE: Aug. 19, Wednesday "Communicating Your Intimacy Needs"
TIME: 7:00-9:00 pm
FEE: $100 per couple
Space is limited and pre-registration is required.
Download Flier Here
Presented by Julie Hanks, LCSW - Held monthly on the 1st Wednesday
Do you struggle to find the balance between work and family life, or between caring for your relationships and nurturing yourself? Do you feel guilty when those around you aren't happy? You are not alone. Come to one workshop or join us every month. It's a place to share experiences and rediscover you!
DATE: Wednesday, July 1st - "Self-Care 101"
TIME: 7:00-9:00 pm
FEE: $50 per person
DATE: Wednesday, Aug. 5th - "Goodbye Guilt!"
TIME: 7:00-9:00 pm
FEE: $50 per person
Download Flier Here
Space is limited so register now! 
Young Adult Women's Group - Thursdays 5:30-7:00pm
On-going weekly therapy group for women 18-30. Depression, healthy
relationships, family issues, body image.
Sexual Abuse Survivor's Group - Thursdays 7:00 - 8:30pm
On-going weekly therapy group for women healing from childhood
sexual and other forms of abuse.
Kids & Anxiety Group - Fridays 3:30-5:00pm
Bi-monthly play therapy group to help children ages 8-11. This group will help your child gain skills to manage anxiety and strengthen social skills.
Starting soon: Men's Group, Teens Groups, Children's Divorce Group!
To join a group please Email or call (801) 944-4555. 
Amber Dunford Amber Dunford has joined Wasatch Family Therapy as a Mental Health Therapy Intern, supervised by Julie Hanks, LCSW. Amber is offering professional counseling services at a significant discount!

50 minute sessions for $50.00

Evening and weekend appointments available.
Click here to schedule YOUR appointmet or call 801-944-4555. 
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