Although it is true that most of the parents who participate in Shayna's Village classes are moms, every so often dads participate too.  When they do, it is no exaggeration to say that the children are THRILLED to have their daddies with them.  We love it, too, because we know that involved dads help raise children who have fewer behavior problems, higher self-esteem, and better academic success. 

The fathers that I meet in Shayna's Village continually impress me.  They may leave covered in flour or paint from participating in a cooking or art class, but they never complain.  Perhaps they are flooded with relief after having survived the class or maybe the smile on their child's face makes it all worthwhile. (My guess is it's a little of the first and a LOT of the second.) Either way, it is a fact that these brave dads make their families better by being involved.

For those interested in ways to be a better dad, The Child Welfare Information Gateway shares the following 10 suggestions:

1. Respect Your Children's Mother

One of the best things a father can do for his children is to respect their mother. If you are married, keep your marriage strong and vital. If you are not married, it is still important to respect and support the mother of your children. A father and mother who respect each other and let their children know it provide a secure environment for them. When children see their parents respecting each other, they are more likely to feel that they are also accepted and respected.

2. Spend Time with Your Children

How a father spends his time tells his children what is important to him. If you always seem too busy for your children, they will feel neglected no matter what you say. Treasuring children often means sacrificing other things, but it is essential to spend time with your children. Kids grow up so quickly. Missed opportunities are lost forever.

3. Earn the Right to Be Heard

All too often, the only time a father speaks to his children is when they have done something wrong. That is why so many children cringe when their mother says, "Your father wants to talk with you." Begin talking with your kids when they are very young so that difficult subjects will be easier to handle as they get older. Take time and listen to their ideas and problems.

4. Discipline with Love

All children need guidance and discipline, not as punishment, but to set reasonable limits. Remind your children of the consequences of their actions and provide meaningful rewards for desirable behavior. Fathers who discipline in a calm and fair manner show love for their children.

5. Be a Role Model

Fathers are role models to their kids whether they realize it or not. A girl who spends time with a loving father grows up knowing she deserves to be treated with respect by boys, and what to look for in a husband. Fathers can teach sons what is important in life by demonstrating honesty, humility, and responsibility.

6. Be a Teacher

Too many fathers think teaching is something others do, but a father who teaches his children about right and wrong, and encourages them to do their best, will see his children make good choices. Involved fathers use everyday examples to help their children learn the basic lessons of life.

7. Eat Together as a Family

Sharing a meal together (breakfast, lunch, or dinner) can be an important part of healthy family life. In addition to providing some structure in a busy day, it gives kids the chance to talk about what they are doing and want to do. It is also a good time for fathers to listen and give advice. Most importantly, it is a time for families to be together each day.

8. Read to Your Children

In a world where television often dominates the lives of children, it is important that fathers make the effort to read to their children. Children learn best by doing and reading, as well as seeing and hearing. Begin reading to your children when they are very young. When they are older, encourage them to read on their own. Instilling your children with a love for reading is one of the best ways to ensure they will have a lifetime of personal and career growth.

9. Show Affection

Children need the security that comes from knowing they are wanted, accepted, and loved by their family. Parents, especially fathers, need to feel both comfortable and willing to hug their children. Showing affection everyday is the best way to let your children know that you love them.

10. Realize That a Father's Job Is Never Done

Even after children are grown and ready to leave home, they still look to their fathers for wisdom and advice. Whether it is continued schooling, a new job, or a wedding, fathers continue to play an essential part in the lives of their children as they grow and, perhaps, marry and build their own families.

If you are looking for a fun way to get involved, go get your calendar!  On Sunday, October 2, 10:00am, Shayna's Village will have its first event of the year- A Man in my Life: Wacky Olympics.  All children (Toddlers through Pre-K) are invited to bring the special man in their life to "go for the gold" while competing in our Wacky Olympics hosted by guest referee, Debbie House.  Please save the date and be on the lookout for more information.  We would love to see you there!  

Sincerely,