Recently I had an experience that made me reexamine my own mantra of finding The Real You.

The Triumphs and Trials of Tall 

One thing people immediately notice about me is that I'm tall. Tall enough to take note, in fact, and since the age of 18, I've loved every minute of it. I enjoy high heels, I find I'm annoyed when another woman is taller than me - you get the picture.

The only problem is it's tough to find clothes, specifically pants, that are long enough for my frame. I have always been annoyed that even the "extra-long" pant is never long enough. I even get worked up when sales people don't believe that it won't be long enough.

Long Enough Pants - Finally! 

Last week, I found the perfect, "long enough" pant at the Gap, which has recently reworked their pant collection - a drastic change for the better. I decided to try on the "long" pants. Miraculously, they fit. I bought three pairs and headed home.

Whoops... 

I was so excited when I got home that I started trying on each pair, styling them with tops, jackets, and shoes. And even though the pants were great, I felt a little gnawing in my stomach that something wasn't right. Slowly, I remembered that I don't really like pants.  

Everyone has their best body features, and for me, that happens to be my legs. And of course if you don't use your best feature to your advantage, then you aren't being true to The Real You. I laughed, called my sister (who knows me well and laughed too) and then returned all three pairs of pants and bought a skirt!

Discover and Stay True to The Real You 

Here's the deal: you need to make really good friends with The Real You and then don't betray her (or him). Find your "look" - the signature style that brings out the You in you - and then run with it. Don't try to be someone else - and as in my case, don't get hung up on proving a point that doesn't help you embrace The Real You.

Find the best way to stay true to The Real You and don't waiver. You'll show up every day happy that you listened to the most important person in your life: You.