Creating Your New Reality

by Gary Barnes, Gary Barnes International  

  

Your reality is whatever your perceptions are.  Is the reality you are now living the one you want? If not, how do you change it? Here's a three-step process that you can use to change your perception so your reality can be the one you want:

  

First, we have to understand what perception is. Perception is a belief. Unfortunately, it is often a limiting belief. A sample of a limiting belief is "I don't deserve ______". If this was a belief that you held, and you wanted to change it, you would have to deliberately design a new belief like "I  deserve _______". This may sound like a very simple process. In reality it is simple, but at times very difficult to do.

  

Do you know what your perceptions or beliefs are? If not, to start the process of understanding what your beliefs are, you can ask a question like "What are my beliefs about money"? Then you write down the next thoughts that come into your mind. You can continue your discovery process by using the same question and just replacing the next topic for the word money. If it's not a belief that you want to keep, you now know how to change it. To help build and reinforce these new beliefs, I recommend writing them every day.

  

Second, we have to change our actions or response to the belief. Let's say for example that you have believed "I deserved to be fat". One of the actions which support that belief is to eat a high calorie snack just before going to bed. If you change your belief to "I deserved to be healthy and my weight is proportionate to my height", then an action to support your new belief could be to eat a light healthy snack before going to bed.

  

Third, is to recognize the result. There is an old saying "the proof is in the pudding". Results don't lie. It's important to see what reality our old beliefs gave us. Is it a reality of an unhealthy body or lack of money or a bad personal relationship. Likewise if we see a result of a healthy body, a steady supply of money, and a loving supportive personal relationship, we know that our belief is supporting the result that we want.

  

Here's the formula: Belief + Action = Result. The simple truth is this: If you want a different result, all you have to do is change your belief and your action. The key is to do it deliberately, taking full responsibility for the result. The empowerment that you will experience will catapult you to whatever level of achievement you desire. The Sky Is The Limit. Enjoy!

by Andrea Costantine,ConsciousPreneur Connection Specialist

Everywhere you look, you hear about the craze of social networking for staying connected, building a business, and also finding potential partners (that's business partners of course). I use social networking  a lot to stay connected, to make new connections, share more of me personally, and find out what others are up to in the process of building relationships.

There are other ways to keep connected outside of social networking, so I will spotlight a few of each to get you started.

Facebook
This is one of the most popular social networking sites out there. You can create a profile, post pictures, host an event, join groups that interest you, and build your friend list. You may here people jokingly say "Will you be my friend?" when referencing Facebook or Myspace.  You can also update your status to let people know what you are up to, and comment on what other people are doing or talking about.

Twitter
This is the latest buzz on the internet. Twitter is basically a site for micro-blogging, all you can do is send out 140 character " tweets" to the people who are following you. On this site you don't have friends, you have followers. You want to follow important people in your industry and get in conversations with them through twitter. You use the @ replies to converse back and forth or you can send a direct private message if they are also following you. Twitter has a whole new language from twitteriffic, twitterville, my tweeps, and so on.  If twitter sounds a little overwhelming, don't worry there are plenty of free resources to help get you started.

Linked In
This site appears to be more professional than Facebook or Twitter and is great for professional connections. One thing I have noticed is that you don't see as many people updating their personal status on Linked In as you do on the other sites. Also, this site does not allow you to randomly go around "friending" people who you do not know.

The idea of "Linked In" is to link people together that do know each other and then ask for an introduction to someone you want to meet. For example, you want to meet Joe Smith, president of a company in town, if you look at his profile you can tell that you are just a few connections away from getting introduced to him. The idea is that you will get introduced to someone in a "warm" way and make the connection easier. I find this site like Six Degrees of Separation.

Send Out Cards
So this site is very different from the above social networking sites, but a great way to stay connected with people. The site is all the rage, as you can manage your entire contact database, schedule cards and postcards to be delivered and more. For an additional fee, you can even have the cards written out in your own personal handwriting. Send Out Cards is bringing a personal touch back into the business world. The card selections are phenomenal and the system is super easy to use. 

  

Ezine
Electronic newsletters are another great way to stay in touch with your contacts. There are a few golden rules in having an Ezine though.  First, never add anyone onto your newsletter list that did not ask to be added, that is considered spam. Also, make sure that people can opt out easily if they want to. Be consistent in your efforts, if you commit to doing a bi-weekly newsletter then be prepared to send it out every two weeks. Start monthly if it feels a little overwhelming at first.

Also, be sure to use a contact database system, don't use Outlook or your regular inbox to deliver electronic newsletters, most of these will get sent to spam and will never be seen. Visit my website to see my recommendations on these systems. While this may seem like a lot of work, I recommend you start with one of these social networking systems and one database system and go from there. There are also services that integrate these sites together like ping.fm so you don't have to jump around checking different sites all of the time. I personally use socialoomph.com to schedule my "tweets" and have those integrated into Facebook to simplify my efforts.

Whenever and wherever  you can - automate! 

About the Author: Andrea Costantine is the ConsciousPreneur Connection Specialist, providing powerful resources to help entrepreneurs easily and effortlessly grow their business. Visit http://www.andreacostantine.com for your FREE ConsciousPreneur Kit.