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Volume 10, Issue 8
May 11, 2010
In This Issue

Five Steps to Having
What You Want
The Freedom of (Self-Imposed) Chains
Gary Barnes

Gary Barnes is a global premier business, money and relationship coach; an author, and an international speaker. He is the founder of Gary Barnes International, dedicated to helping people create wealth in all areas of life. 

Gary believes anyone can lead an empowered life, no matter what their circumstances are. He has built three successful businesses from the ground up. To do this, he developed principles and tools that helped him increase his business 2000% over a three-year period.
 
He also understands dealing with adversity - he has fought life- threatening illness and won. He believes that your worst day is the day you meet the man or woman you could have been.  It's a choice.  That's why he's dedicated his life to helping people maximize their lives and their businesses through workshops, teleconferences and individual coaching. His mission in life is to make a difference and to empower everyone he connects with.
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Welcome to Maxlife News! When I woke up this morning to go give a talk, I looked out the window and saw snow! Somehow snow and the middle of May don't connect. Do things in your business and life seem a little disconnected?  Is your business where you thought it would be at this point of the year?  The good news is there is still a lot of time to fulfill the vision you created last January.

During the month of May, we are focusing on marketing and fast results. I hope you enjoy our guest contributors in this issue and I'm looking forward to sharing my article with you later in the month.

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Five Steps to Having What You Want
Karen Schatzby Karen Schatz, Virtually With You

You know the saying "when the student is ready, the teacher appears"?  Well, I've been a long-time student of many things in life and it seems as though my "teacher" is always ready to help me to the next level of learning. 

Recently, the "subject" I most needed to "conquer" is patience.  When I was younger, I used to joke and say "When God was handing out patience, I was standing in the wrong line."  Patience has always been a virtue I longed for.  In fact, when I was confirmed in my church, I was asked to choose a saint's name for my confirmation name.  I chose the name Monica because she was the patron saint of patience.  I figured I'd need a saint following me around, sprinkling saintly patience dust on me since I sorely lacked this virtue myself.

The other saying I've heard so often is "be careful what you ask for" because God doesn't give you what you ask for, He gives you the opportunities to practice it.  And as I look back on my life, that's exactly what I've been getting ... lots and lots of opportunities to practice patience.  Some of those opportunities have come from difficult family members, some from raising my son as a single mother, some from unanswered prayers that I've been longing to have answered and some from running a business all by myself and especially in a challenging economy.

If you're a business owner reading this, then you can probably relate to this latest opportunity.  Maybe your business isn't thriving as you had hoped, or you're losing clients faster than you can gain them, or you're leaning on credit more than you want to and you wonder if being self-employed is the "smart thing" to do right now.  After all, wouldn't it be easier to let someone else worry about such things?  For me, the answer is a resounding NO!  I have a deep desire to succeed at creating a business that will allow me the freedom to create the life I want.  I refuse to let challenges keep me from accomplishing this.  So, I persevere.  I keep pressing onward.  I never take my eye off the goal.  And I trust that I will have what I want.  Did I say trust?  Ah, there lies another virtue I've been working on getting better at. 

In the last couple of weeks, I have been presented with situations that have challenged me to trust.  And for those times that I have trusted and it worked out, the outcome has been extremely rewarding.  As I looked back on these situations, I've realized that I've been patient throughout the process, trusting that it will all work out.  And likewise, when I haven't trusted a situation, I've been extremely impatient.  Hmmmm, is there a connection here?  There is for me.

So, here's what I've learned are the steps for living a life that I love:
  1. Decide what it is that you truly want: Gary offers a very helpful tool in his coaching techniques called GET Statements that help his clients to create the vision they most want to achieve.  Answer these questions and you'll have a clear idea of what truly matters to you most:
    1. What do I want to do?
    2. What do I want to have?
    3. What do I want to give?
    4. What do I want to be?
    5. Where do I want to go?
  2. Trust that you will have it: We all have to trust in something higher than ourselves.  For me, that source is God.  I know that if there's something I want and I am to have it, God will provide it.  And this is where patience is needed most.  Because, as most of us have experienced, we don't always get what we want when we want it.  And if you're having trouble trusting, then this may be the place to focus on first.  You have to be able to trust that you can have what you want or feel you are meant to do.
  3. Create a great support system: Find people to surround yourself with who will celebrate with you, offer solid advice and encourage you when you're feeling discouraged.  You can find these wonderful people in your family, in your friends and in a coach who is dedicated to helping you create, achieve and succeed.
  4. Embrace the challenges: Because there WILL be challenges! Notice that I used the word "opportunity" earlier?  To be able to overcome the challenges, it's important to have a positive attitude and to look at obstacles or problems as opportunities.  These challenges will be easier to navigate if you embrace them as opportunities to learn something about yourself or understand that they are happening as a way to strengthen you in character or maybe even in your skills as a business owner.
  5. Persevere: Don't give up and don't take your eye off the goal(s) that you want.  If you're truly meant to have what you want, your desire will increase not decrease.  So giving up will not be an option.
I wish you much success in what you want out of life, whether it be personal or professional or both.  Following the five steps above will help you get there!
The Freedom of (Self-Imposed) Chains
NordineZ 98x100by Nordine Zoureg, Triple Impact LLC

Most of us are under the misconception that fit people work hard and spend most of their lives deprived in order to achieve their amazing bodies.

Nothing could be farther from the truth.

I'll let you in on a little secret...It's not hard to get and stay fit. It's not about hard work and deprivation.
It's all about boundaries.

Let me explain...

When you were a child, your parents set boundaries around you. They were the authority on what was or wasn't acceptable behavior. You had to complete your chores before dinner. You had to finish your homework before going out to play. You had to eat all your vegetables before dessert.

If you failed to comply with these boundaries, then you knew that there would be consequences.

As an adult you, and only you, are the authority on what is or isn't acceptable behavior. You are in the position to set boundaries around yourself. These boundaries serve as a framework of order around you - a rock of support in an otherwise chaotic world.

With self-imposed boundaries you can assure your success in anything...specifically with weight loss.

Your fitness boundaries have to be self-imposed-no one is going to do it for you. Don't look at this as a bad thing! Self-imposed boundaries are self-empowering.

Let's face it, you've been living life without fitness boundaries.

  • You eat whatever you want, whenever you want it.
  • You use any excuse to avoid exercise.
  • You indulge whenever it feels good.
Your Fitness Boundaries

It's time to introduce boundaries back into your life. These boundaries are the key to unleashing your ideal fit and healthy body.

1. Fitness Boundary One: What you eat

If you were to be perfectly honest with me, you could list off the foods that are unhealthy and fattening. So why are you still eating them? You know that refined, fried, processed and sugary foods are not good for you.

Place boundaries around what you will allow yourself to eat. Acceptable food items include whole foods, vegetables, fruits, whole grains, and lean meats.

2. Fitness Boundary Two: How you exercise

I know that you're not an Olympic athlete, but that doesn't mean that you can simply pass on exercise. By now you are well aware of the host of benefits that exercise provides. With regular exercise you'll look great, feel amazing and have more energy than ever.

Place boundaries around how often you must exercise. Choose exercise that is challenging and fun - don't be afraid to try new activities that improve your strength and endurance.

3. Fitness Boundary Three: When you indulge

Let's face it, we live in a world where indulging has become the norm, rather than the exception. When you live life without fitness boundaries, everyday is an opportunity to indulge. These indulgences all add up quickly, causing your clothes to become tight and your energy levels to drop.

Place boundaries around when you can indulge. You'll find that by limiting your indulgences you'll end up enjoying them even more.

Putting It In Action

Sit down and take a long, hard look at your lifestyle. Are you eating as healthy as you could be? Are you exercising 3-5 times each week? Are you indulging too often? Answer the following questions:
  1. What 3 food items can I eliminate from my daily diet? (These should be nutritionally void items like high-calories beverages, fast food, packaged snacks, high-fat food, candy or desserts.)
  2. When can I schedule exercise into my week? (Pick 3-5 days, and select a specific timeframe. Example: I'm going to exercise on Monday, Wednesday and Fridays from 5am-6am.)
  3. When will I allow myself to indulge? (Don't go overboard here, especially if you need to lose weight. Enjoy a treat a couple times each month, and do so guilt-free knowing that you've maintained healthy food boundaries the rest of the time.
Remember that self-imposed boundaries are self-empowering.

Fitness boundaries put your fitness results on autopilot. If you know what constitutes an acceptable meal, then choosing what to eat just got a whole lot easier. If you're committed to exercising 3 times a week, soon it becomes second nature.

Need help setting up your fitness boundaries? I am here to help - call me at (520) 744-5108 or email me now!