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Intimate Chat with the Love Birds, a Relationship/Sex Radio Talk Show, interviewed Dr. Tammy Nelson about the emotional fallout and recovery for couples after infidelity. Listen to the complete podcast show at this website. |
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WHY CAN'T WE TALK?
It can feel impossible to talk to your partner; is it your style that's making it so hard?
When you are frustrated with your partner, communicating your feelings may be a good way to get it out. But sometimes we are afraid to talk to our partner about our needs. Dr. Tammy Nelson addresses these issues in an article for YourTango.com.
Read the complete article here.
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Infidelity: How to get past it?
Dr. Jennifer Gunsaullus (In the Den with Dr. Jenn) interviewed Tammy Nelson on pressing questions surrounding infidelity. Is there sex after infidelity? How do you move past cheating when it happens? Are animals really monogamous or are we just meant to cheat? For all the details, watch the interview with Dr. Nelson.
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Imago Dialogue Process
"Good Clean Love" included a blog entry by Tammy Nelson on relationship communication. Mirroring, validating and empathizing are a type of dialogue developed by Harville Hendrix, the author of Getting the Love You Want, a book about couple's therapy. The dialogue is a structured technique that you can use to talk to each other that helps with communications. This dialogue has worked for thousands of couples around the world. It is a way that may help you to talk about conflict and frustration in your relationship. Read the complete article.
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Some people believe that as long as you don't touch each other in real time then it doesn't count as cheating. Is internet sex on a webcam or through a chat room really sex?
In this new millennium, more divorces are being blamed on social networking sites than ever before. Facebook, Twitter, MySpace and other sites that encourage social connection are now being blamed for causing real time affairs. Infidelity is now easier and more accessible online. And online affairs may lead to real time affairs more often.
Go here to read the rest of this article.
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INTIMACY AND CONNECTION
- A RETREAT IN PARADISE -
March 3 - 10th, 2012, come to PARADISE for a chance at intimacy, new connection, or education, relaxation and a great vacation - AND get the love and the sex that you want - or the CE's!
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| Sex: The Honeymoon and Beyond
Tammy Nelson, PhD in the Huffington Post
As a board certified sexologist and a certified sex therapist, I have seen a lot of couples over the years for marriage therapy. Most of them seem surprised when they realize that they have to work hard on the erotic side of the relationship to keep it alive and sexy. Most believe that if they have a good marriage the sex will take care of itself. It doesn't.
In my 20 years of couples therapy practice I have found that partners can get along well and be good roommates, but still have a frustrating sex life. And this can be risky. Couples who are not having good sex are usually more dissatisfied with their relationships and eventually become discouraged about their future together.
There are several predictable phases that your sex life will pass through in your marriage.
Understanding them can help you work on your sex life and stay erotic for life.
In the beginning of a relationship, during the romantic phase, you each feel a new, exciting attraction for each other. There is still space between the two of you where you can long for each other and this creates a new erotic curiosity. Sex is usually spontaneous and satisfying for both of you.
Once you say "I do" and "I will" you enter into the next phase of your relationship; commitment. The sex is probably still good, and can become even better now that you know you are together forever. You may take some risks and ask for more of what you want from your partner, trying new things and finding sex more adventurous.
Read the rest of the article at the huffingtonpost
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The Return of Desire -
Getting the Sex You Want
A Teleseminar for Health Professionals
Presented by Dr. Gina Ogden and Dr. Tammy Nelson
Part 7 - with all new material
(Parts 1 - 6 as pre-recorded MP3 files)
November 9, 16, 30; December 7 and 14, 2011
Cost: $250 ($200 if registered by Oct 10, 2011)
Sexuality issues are a number-one reason both women and men seek relationship counseling. Yet most health professionals lack the training and supervision that enable them to help clients negotiate this complex subject. Tammy Nelson, an internationally known Imago therapist and sexologist, and Gina Ogden,with over three decades as a sex therapist, researcher, and supervisor, combine their expertise in a series of practice-oriented teleseminars that offer comprehensive information about sexual health and sexual desire. They encourage questions among participants, and provide case consultation.
Click here to register for this teleclass.
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CAN INFIDELITY SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE? Interview with Tammy Nelson In Huffington Post by Wendy Strgar "The cruelest lies are often told in silence." -- Robert Louis Stevenson There is no bigger paradigm shift that a relationship experiences than in the aftermath of disclosing or discovering an affair. The betrayal cuts deep and shreds not only the trust between the couple, but often the ability to trust one's own judgment and the agreements that we believed defined our lives. Less than a third of all couples who encounter the experience, which is more than half of all of us, actually heal from the experience. Many couples never get beyond the initial crisis that the affair creates, choosing to leave the relationship with their wounds intact and the rest of the relationship in tatters. Often this knee jerk response is a result of fear and ignorance. The pain and instability it creates feels all-consuming and we don't know how to navigate the process. Considering the prevalence of affairs, there has been little education about the process of recovery that can renew a relationship and even spark a whole new level of physical intimacy. Culturally we are trained to vilify the betrayal and rarely consider that the affair may not represent pathology in the relationship but rather be an essential wakeup call that offers an important opportunity to redefine and renegotiate what your monogamous relationship and commitments mean to each of you. Dr. Tammy Nelson, author of Getting the Sex You Want, is leading the way on the research on affair recovery for her new book: The New Monogamy. In our recent interview, she shared: "Often affairs are like viruses, in that they are opportunistic and they feed on a part of oneself that is kept underground, unknown even to oneself. " sharing of their erotic selves. Read it HERE . |
Couples Intensives
Couples Intensives are private sessions that last from three hours to two days, with Licensed Couples Therapist Dr. Tammy Nelson. For more info on dates and times available this spring and summer go to INTENSIVES
ONE WEEKEND LEFT in 2011
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Sexuality and Couples Therapy
Sexuality issues effect everyone at all ages. For a sex therapy session all you need is you and your partner and an open mind. All couples are welcome including partners who experience problems with boredom, loss of desire, porn, affairs, sexual dysfunction, open marriage, BDSM, and desire discrepancy. If you want different things, this can help. If you want the same thing, this can be a great way to recharge your relationship today. Write to tammy@drtammynelson.com for more info.
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And the #1 Thing He Wants in Bed is.....
Glamour Magazine quoted Dr. Nelson on the very intense subject of oral sex. Men want more, but our attitudes about blowjobs are confusing. Dr. Nelson gives perspective on this very personal pleasure. Check out "And the #1 Thing He Wants in Bed is..." in the September 2011 print edition of the magazine. |
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UPCOMING Live Teleseminars
The Return of Desire - Getting the Sex You Want
Presented by Dr. Gina Ogden and Dr. Tammy Nelson
Part 7 (Parts 1 - 6 available as pre-recorded MP3 files)
5 Wednesdays in November & December, 2011
Cost: $250 (Save $50 if paid by October 10)
Approved for 5 AASECT credits
Sexuality issues are a number-one reason both women and men seek relationship counseling. Yet most health professionals lack the training and supervision that enable them to help clients negotiate this complex subject. Tammy Nelson, an internationally known Imago therapist and sexologist, and Gina Ogden,with over three decades as a sex therapist, researcher, and supervisor, combine their expertise in a series of practice-oriented teleseminars that offer comprehensive information about sexual health and sexual desire. They encourage questions among participants, and provide case consultation.
The New Monogamy: Redefining Relationships After Infidelity
Four part teleseminar presented by Dr. Tammy Nelson
11 am EST - Nov 3, 10, 17, Dec 1, 2011
Cost: $175 (if registered by Oct 10, 2011)
Approved for 4 AASECT CEs
Working with couples who have experienced infidelity can be the most challenging form of therapy. Learn direct ways to bring partners into new and deeper levels of commitment and increased sexual and emotional connection after experiences of betrayal and doubt using the proven psychotherapy techniques of Imago Relationship Therapy. This class is appropriate for therapists & health care professionals as well as couples & individuals looking to recover and improve their relationships after infidelity.
Eros & Psychotherapy: Love, Sex, and Power in Relationships Five part teleseminar presented by Dr. Tammy Nelson and Esther Perel
2-3 pm EST - Nov 1, 8, 15, 22, 29, 2011
Cost: $249 ($50 early registration discount if paid by Oct 10)
Approved for 5 AASECT CEs
A new and provocative approach to working with couples using creative interventions for commonly seen emotional and sexual predicaments in treatment. Two of the world's most forward thinkers in the treatment of sexuality and relationships join together again to offer participants the opportunity to heal their own relationships and those of their clients.
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There are many pre-recorded teleseminars available for purchase as MP3 files. Each hour qualifies as 1 AASECT CE credit.
Managing Secrets in Couples & Family Therapy: A Radical Approach
A one-day pre-recorded teleseminar Presented by Dr. Tammy Nelson and Dr. Janis Abrahms
Affairs are all about secrets. How can a therapist treat both the unfaithful and the hurt partner and respect the confidences of each? This workshop will describe an "open secrets policy" - a radical model for helping unfaithful partners resolve their ambivalence about what to disclose, decide whether to recommit to the marriage, and perhaps, to work to rebuild trust and intimacy. Tammy and Janis will draw from their clinical cases to bring these concepts to life.
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Three session teleclass with Dr. Tammy Nelson
Working with couples who have experienced infidelity can be the most challenging form of therapy. Learn direct ways to bring partners into new and deeper levels of commitment and increased sexual and emotional connection after deep experiences of betrayal and doubt using the proven psychotherapy techniques of Imago Relationship Therapy.
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Eros & Psychotherapy:
Releasing Couples from Sex and Intimacy Stalemates Five session teleclass with Esther Perel and Tammy Nelson This teleseminar will focus on real life clinical examples and interventions for working with the blocks and stalemates couples experience around sexual intimacy.
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Sex on the Download
Presented by Dr. Joe Kort and Dr. Tammy Nelson
Parts 1 and 2
"Sex on the Download" is a reflection of our current culture of internet relationships where the growing societal influence of connecting in cyber relationships can create real time intimacy, but may also lead to compulsive sexual behaviors, porn addition and compulsive infidelity.
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