CALENDAR
TELESEMINAR (part 3):
RETURN OF DESIRE; GETTING THE SEX YOU WANT A Teleseminar for Health Professionals With Gina Ogden, PhD and Tammy Nelson, LPC
AASECT, Imago and NASW CEs provided.
October 7 2009: FREE Introduction, Sessions: October 14, 21, November 4, 21 and 11
See www.tammynelson.org to register now!
AFFAIRS AND INFIDELITY; RELATIONSHIPS IN CRISIS
Sex, Intimacy and Connection,
Psychotherapist and Counselor Training,
REGISTER NOW! Space is limited.
June 24-26 in Vienna
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Sex and Money: Financial and Sexual Infidelity
A Teleclass with Bonnie Weil and Tammy Nelson June 30 For Therapists, Couples and Anyone who wants to learn more about financial and sexual infidelity and how they are interconnected Dr. Bonnie Weil is the author of Financial Infidelity: Seven Steps to Conquering the #1 Relationship Wrecker
Imago CEUs available for this class $39 payable by MC or Visa go to www.tammynelson.org
3 part Teleseminar = GETTING THE SEX YOU WANT
For therapists and health care professionals as well as couples and individuals looking to improve their erotic lives Classes begin July 2009 Three sessions - Wednesdays - July 15, 22, 29 12pm t 1pm EST Join Live or listen to recordings - worksheets and handouts included - First 10 registered receive free download To BUY NOW and register go to www.tammynelson.org
The New Monogamy - Negotiating Love, Sex and Fidelity
With Esther Perel and Tammy Nelson Four week Teleclass September 15, 22, 29 and October 6, 2pm to 3pm EST Join LIVE on the phone or listen to taped recording of class NASW, AASECT and IMAGO CEUs applied for To register go to www.tammynelson.org and click on "NEW MONOGAMY"
Participants will: -Explore Explore the way boundaries of fidelity are defined, justified, lived, and negotiated for couples with varying practices of sexual exclusivity.
Esther Perel, is the author of Mating in Captivity. www.estherperel.com
GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT
Sept 12 & 13 2009 GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT WORKSHOP FOR COUPLES Two day Imago workshop for couples Saturday and Sunday in Ridgefield CT Recent attendees are saying: "This was an extremely intense, eye opening, and, yes, miraculous, weekend." [email protected] Cost: $795 per couple includes manuals
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New TELESEMINAR this Fall!
Part 3 on RETURN OF DESIRE; GETTING THE SEX YOU WANT
A Teleseminar for Health Professionals With Gina Ogden, PhD and Tammy Nelson, LPC
Starting October 2009 - Sign Up Now For a Discounted Price !!!!
Tammy Nelson and Gina Ogden combine their professional expertise in a series of practice-oriented teleseminars that offer comprehensive information about sexual desire, encourage questions among participants, and provide case consultation. AASECT, IMAGO and NASW CEs provided. All sessions meet by telephone from 12:00-1:00 pm.
Cost: $250 (save $50 by registering before September 9)
Oct 7: Couples and Sex Therapy
Oct 14: Religion, Medicine and Media
Oct 21: What Men Want, What Women Want, Who's On Top?
Nov 4:
Exorcising Sexual Anxiety and Fear; Reclaiming Intimacy
Nov 21: Lubes and Vibes-What Works?
Nov 11: The Art and Science of Tantra
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THE TEN
SEXUAL STAGES OF RELATIONSHIPS
Falling in love is easy. That's why we call it "falling" and not "climbing." We fall in love - we sometimes even plummet. There is excitement and desire during this beginning stage of love and when there is a sexual connection with someone we adore it can we feel like we can't get enough of them. It's only later that we wonder what happened to our sexual connection. Stage One: Falling in love is easy. In the early phases of romantic love, everything feels easy. We are excited to see our beloved. We think about them often. We desire them sexually.
At some point, this intensity seems to slow down.
Maybe it even stops. The relationship moves into a more settled place.
Stage Two: Attachment And that's fine. As pair-bonding humans, we want to settle into a committed relationship. Both men and women crave the attached feeling of connection that comes from knowing you have found that special someone and you can stop looking. Sex between committed couples becomes a celebration and an appreciation and a continued discovery process. Then we relax into that cuddly place on the couch. Stage Three: The "sweatpants" phase. After the romantic phase has come to a landing, we settle comfortably into that commitment with our partner and we start to be ourselves. Sex is nice, It isn't always hot and passionate every time. Its just, well....nice.
Stage Four: Maintenance Sex. Now couples have been together for a while. Maybe they even have kids, a mortgage....and sex is reserved for Friday nights, or when the in-laws can baby-sit. Now the sex is not so passionate. The highs are not as high, and the attraction is not quite the same. Does this mean that we are no longer in love? What happened to the fun? Stage Five: Conflict phase. When we go into a conflict phase (and we all do), sex can sometimes be used to keep score. For some of us, falling from "in love" to relaxed can feel like the ground rushes up fast, and we slam into the hard cold reality of real relationship. Our partner doesn't always adore us. We don't always feel cherished. Sometimes they annoy us. And sex isn't as spontaneous and passionate as it was during the free fall stage. Stage Six: Defend and Negotiate - Sometimes we wonder whether we are still "in love" at all. We put up emotional walls to protect ourselves from being hurt. Maybe we put up a wall in the bedroom. There is defensive behavior from both partners at this stage and we may begin to withdraw from each other. We pull back from the relationship, trying to protect ourselves from harm. Stage Seven: Sleep phase. We may make a choice here - instead of ending the relationship, we go to "sleep," sinking into the inevitability of unhappiness. We choose to focus on outside interests to keep us feeling energized. We split off our erotic energy outside of the relationship. This could mean an affair, pornography or just shutting it down. Stage Eight: Waking Up. The good news is that there is another stage of sexual relationship: the "waking up" stage. Long-term relationships are not necessarily a death sentence for love and desire.
Stage Nine: Curiosity. These phases of partnership are normal and common to everyone. Sexual excitement and passion are part of a conscious relationship, where a shared vision of connected, intimate partnership is part of the "work" of couple hood. Stage Ten: Joy. The best sex is erotic, joyful sex where partners connect in a conscious, direct way. The real "hey I know you!" feeling....This wonderful stage feels like "Hey I know you too - and I like finding out about what gives you pleasure!" For more information on recognizing these stages and learning how to get to Stage Eight through Ten, feel free to contact [email protected] -
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TAMMY NELSON ON THE RADIO Tune in to Just Relationships, Long Island's radio station WHPC 90.3 FM. with Dr. Duffy airing this June and July schedule of shows with each Weds date (they replay Fridays 11:00 AM & Sundays 9:30 AM): Catch these Re-runs: Wednesday at 330pm June 10 - "What's Eating You?" Wednesday at 330pm June 17 - "Imago Therapy" Wednesday at 330pm June 24 - "Sexual Therapy" Hear these Brand New Interviews: Wednesday at 330pm July 15 "Understanding Sex Therapy -Part 1" Wednesday at 330pm July 22 "Understanding Sex Therapy - Part 2" Wednesday at 330pm Wednesday, June 10 at 3:30 PM and again Friday, June 12 at 11:00 AM and again on Sunday, June 14 at 9:30 AM WHPC 90.3 FM now Podcasting. To hear or download any show, click on http://itunes.ncc.edu . Click on "Launch Nassau". Look for the WHPC-FM 90.3 Icon, then scroll right to "Just Relationships". Find the title of the show you'd like to listen to and click. Now WHPC'S is available on line 24 hours a day! Note this feature is only available for computers with ITunes. Remember, each show replays on Weds at 3:30 PM, Fridays at 11:00 AM and Sundays at 9:30 AM Listen to WHPC 90.3 FM three times a week |
NEW radio podcast interview! Perspectives on
SACRED PORN & THE EMPOWERING USE OF FANTASY
with Tammy Nelson
In this episode, Tammy discloses the path of Sacred Porn.
Discover: When is pornography objectifying or connecting?
When can fantasy increase healing and pleasure?
What are the warning signs of compulsive use of pornography?
Why has pornography use by men been confusing or irritating for women?
How can you select pornography and share fantasies in ways that work?
Get ready to ravish with heart.
Francesca Gentille is the Radio Host of Sex- Tantra & Kama Sutra
RADIO HOST: "Sex - Tantra & Kama Sutra"
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GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT
WORKSHOP FOR COUPLES
AS SEEN ON OPRAH!
Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT) is a form of relationship therapy innovated by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. Dr. Hendrix is the author of the Best Seller "Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples." To read more about IMAGO Relationship Therapy go to http:www.imagorelationships.com
Tammy Nelson will lead couples through this breakthrough process of learning about each other and creating a new way to love. Tammy is a Certified Imago therapist, a Certified Imago Workshop Presenter, an Imago Advanced Clinician and the author of "Getting the Sex You Want" Coming Saturday & Sunday September 12 & 13, 2009
Deposit DUE by August 15- REGISTER TODAY!
workshop held in Ridgefield CT
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