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June 30, 2010
Confidence is Sexier Than a Push-up Bra

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Clothes, jewels, cars, and cash are lovely, but self-confidence is the ultimate accessory. It can't be bought, but it can be had.

Most of us fall somewhere in between 24/7 social divas and lonely wallflowers. Even the most self assured appreciate boosts to their self-esteem.

People are drawn to those who project confidence. It doesn't take much to make a big difference. Here are 10 quick tricks.
  • Don't apologize. Unless you've done something bad. Try NOT saying "I'm sorry" for 24 hours. People who say it with regularity usually convey insecurity.
  • Make a decision and go with it. Over-analyzing every potential choice or outcome can paralyze you.
  • Imagine success. Experts say that being able to picture ourselves completing a task successfully makes us more likely to actually do it.
  • Straighten up. According to a recent study at Ohio University, hunching over makes us less likely to think positive thoughts about ourselves.
  • Don't over re-act to mistakes. We are our own worst critics. Our gaffes are far worse in our minds than in  anyone else's. Besides, people can be pretty forgiving.
  • Assume people like you. Most of them probably do anyway, and it makes it easier to socialize.
  • Talk to strangers wherever you go. It'll make you feel good about yourself, and it's a great way to hone your social skills.  
  • Don't compare yourself to anyone else. It's a downer. We don't need to be the most beautiful, the richest or the best dressed. We just need to be our sparkling selves.
  • Take a compliment. When someone offers praise accept it graciously. No arguing and no unnecessarily false humility.
  • Make eye contact. It's a habit of confident people.
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