Dear Trusted Advisor
attend business dinners, I’m often served food I don’t like. Do I have to eat what’s served, or
am I allowed to ask if a substitution is available?
S.R., Boston, MA
Business dinners and networking events are about getting to know new people,
showcasing your abilities and making connections. They are never about the food. Eat before you
go, and focus on making great conversation with others without bringing attention to your dislike
of what’s in front of you. Usually there’s something on the plate you can nibble on or move
around a bit. It’s just one meal – let it go and concentrate on making some new friends.
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Many professionals know that in order to gain a foothold over the competition,
especially these days, they’ve got to present themselves as five-star material. They must convey
competence and confidence when they meet potential clients and prospective customers, making the
most of their one opportunity to make a great first impression.
Well tailored suit and appropriate blouse? Check. Shiny shoes and matching belt? Check. Strong
handshake, good posture, business cards and fresh breath? Check.
But hardly anyone gives a thought to their voice. Studies show that while 55% of a first
impression is made up of visual impressions – the suit, the shoes, the smile - a whopping 38% of
data captured by others, and subsequently used to decide if one is indeed someone who could earn
their business, is based on voice. A measly 7% is left over for the actual words
Vocal quality isn’t an area even Stacy and Clinton venture into as they transform meek little
Matilda into a corporate powerhouse by way of a better fitting bra, more mascara and higher
heels. Once Matilda accepts the dynamic duo’s fashion guidance she becomes magnificent, but the
transformation is short lived when she tilts her head, twirls a lock, and says in that squeaky,
high-pitched tone, “I’m sorry guys, you were right, I look great in this!”
While a well modulated, easy-on-the-ears voice is an asset when first meeting someone, the
ability to use one’s voice to share information, persuade and connect with colleagues, clients
and customers is essential. A soft voice easily gets lost in meetings, but when Ms. Tentative
prefaces statements with, “Maybe it’s just me, but...,” or “I feel that perhaps...,” and the old
standby, “Sorry, but what if....,” she’s summarily ignored.
In our Total Image Management® seminars, women learn how they can assert themselves without
appearing overly aggressive – always the fine line for female execs to walk. Here are three keys
to improving the chances of being heard:
Record and listen to your voice. Tape yourself while you’re speaking in a meeting
if at all possible, letting the tape run for at least 30 minutes. Are you guilty of ending
sentences with a rising intonation, making statements sound like questions? Are you too
tentative? Is your voice hard to hear? Is your speech heavy with verbal graffiti? Now’s the time
to start making changes.
Manage your body language. A tilted head combined with wide eyes and a whispering
voice can come across as flirtatious, or worse, juvenile. Sit up straight and tall at the
conference table with both feet on the floor and hands on the table. Lean slightly forward when
you add to the discussion, and square your shoulders – instead of just turning your head – when
you speak to others.
Share your enthusiasm. Of course you’ve got to have great ideas and meaningful
contributions to make in order to show people you’re a serious player, but do so with conviction
and confidence. Use the range of your voice to convey excitement, sincerity, passion and belief.
Replace timid-sounding openings, such as, “I think this program will work,” with “This program
will work because...” and then show them what you’ve got.
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