Be Your Word

August 2008

In This Issue
WOVI Presents
About Lori
This Fall: The Transitions Program
Appreciative Inquiry: Try it
Join me 9.18.08...

Women of
Visionary Influence

.25 Seconds: 
Beyond Survive to Thrive!
with Lori Darley
At any given moment in life, we can react to the circumstances life hands us or create our lives through our choices, moment by moment by moment.  Lori uses the new brain science to demonstrate how we as human beings can leverage our choice point of power by transforming survival based thinking into intentional, committed action.

When: Thursday, 09/18
Registration: 6:00p Program: 6:30p
Where: Chocolate Angel, 635 W. Campbell, Richardson, TX 75080
Cost (includes dinner): $20/members,

RSVP here.

Transitions Coach Links
Who is the Transitions Coach?
Be Your WordLori founded The Transitions Coach in 1998 and has coached organizations from multi-national corporations to entrepreneurial ventures and individuals in non-profits, manufacturing, financial services, management consulting, commercial real estate and the arts. Lori received her coach training from David Zelman, founder of the Transitions Institute, where she also serves as faculty. She is a member of the International Association of Coaches.

Lori Darley is a Certified Somatic Coach and Associate for the Strozzi Institute, where she received her certification. Over the last 25 years, she has trained in a variety of backgrounds, developing specialized training techniques to support her clients in reaching peak performance through dynamic communication, conflict resolution and leadership skills.
Focus on What Works! 

Each of us has a thousand opportunities every day to "solve problems." From the mundane... "Where on earth did I leave my cell phone?
" "Should I complain about the lousy customer service I got today?" to the major... "Should I stay in an unfulfilling marriage?" "Is it time for a career change?"

However, it's not so much the solutions we come up with as it is how we approach these "problems," even before solving them, that determines our joy and fulfillment in life.  Our perspective monumentally matters. When we look at situations as problems needing solving, that's what we'll continue to experience - problems.

I invite you to try something different.  Appreciative Inquiry is a revolutionary practice that evolves organizations and communities in positive, self-directed ways. Developed by Dr. David Cooperrider at Case Western Reserve University for businesses, governments, and local communities, it can also be easily applied to any and all aspects of our lives, including our relationships, career choices and every-day issues. 

Appreciative Inquiry focuses on what works, what delights and discovering the countless opportunities hidden within every situation. 

Appreciative Inquiry rouses hope, kindles optimism and can corrode any so-called "problems".

Any of us, if we chose to, could complain all day about our suffering. But when we start to find the sparkling jewels of opportunity and possibility in our lives, we can't help but to see things differently. It changes everything, and that's exactly what Appreciative Inquiry is about.

Imagine the possibilities,
Lori Darley

The Transitions Coach

"Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change." - Wayne Dyer

p.s. For more on this process, visit or I've also included a short version of the Appreciative Inquiry process below for you to play and experiment with. Enjoy!
Tools & Strategies for Success with Lori Darley

Believe it or not, you are 100% committed 100% of the time.  Question is:  What are you committed to?

Through a disciplined process of inquiry, committed dialogue and direct application, you will delve into your inner resources to recognize the commitments that are already operating within your life and make the shifts necessary for a maximized life experience. In this program you will:
  • Gain precise, laser-clarity on who you are in life
  • Release old patterns, stories and beliefs that tie you to a 'victim' stance in life and work
  • Utilize the power of choice to intentionally CREATE your life and your future, starting NOW
Are you ready to author a new story? This program will support you as you take a stand for the fulfillment of a new future. 

This program is for courageous people who are ready for the next step in creating their most powerful, committed lives and transforming their vision into a reality. I invite you to be part of this potent and life-changing program. Your future begins now.

Space is limited, reserve your spot now.

Sept. 29, Oct. 13, Oct. 27 and Nov. 10
6:30-10:30 p.m.
8235 Douglas Avenue, Ste. 720 Dallas, TX 75225
Led by Lori Darley, in association with Transitions Institute
Seminar fee:  $2,400
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Appreciative Inquiry:
A Four-Step Process

Think of a situation or a "problem" you are currently facing in your life.  In your journal or on your computer, spend time answering the following questions, that will take you through the process.

1. Discover
In this first step, you initiate an inquiry to discover what makes the situation or "problem" great. This is not a typo. Brainstorm as long of a list as you can on all of the positive attributes, situations, opportunities and nuances of this particular issue.

Questions to ask:
  • What is really great about this, already, right now?
  • What is going really well about this?
  • Are there any shining examples of success already existing in this situation?
  • What attributes, however small, do you appreciate about it?
  • What is positive and unique about it? What is right about it?
2. Dream
Now begin to let your imagination create positive, life-affirming possibilities inherent in the potential of the situation. You are uncovering the ideal future of the situation.

Questions to ask:
  • What would ideal, everyday activities look like?
  • How can the world be bettered because of this situation?
  • What is it's purpose?
  • What things, specifically, do I want to keep, no matter how much the situation changes?
3. Design
You now have a vision for what your particular situation can become. It's time to select and determine what specific things you will change, add, or remove.

Questions to ask:
  • What concrete steps need to be taken to bring the situation closer to its optimal potential?
  • What needs to be added, removed, or rearranged?
  • What should I do more of?
  • What can I do to support what I came up with in the Discovery stage?
4. Destiny
The final stage in the Appreciative Inquiry is the action stage- taking the ideas birthed in the process into creation. Start small with realistic, do-able action steps that excite and inspire you. Since this stage is all about DOING, there are no questions here. Just get doing!

Using this technique has the power to completely and utterly shift your thinking, your responses and your destiny. The Appreciative Inquiry process can dramatically affect the way you think and act toward anything life offers you. You will see your so-called "problems" magically transformed into opportunities.

I want to know how this process has worked for you. Contact me with your stories, feedback and successes. The possibilities are endless, the potential is immeasurable. Have fun!
I would love to know what you think of this newsletter, and in particular, any feedback, questions or responses you might have to its content. Please feel free to email me at the link below.
With gratitude,
Lori Darley
The Transitions Coach