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Absurd Person Singular (or how to stop hiding and start showing up
No 81         


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- Sarah Hobley, Camden 

  

Hi there! 

Just as no one admits to being a bad driver or a lukewarm lover so it is that we find it hard to put our hand up to being out of integrity.  Yet this is no brain twister - you are either in integrity or you are not. It's that simple.

 

So how can you tell?  When you are out of integrity life's "stuff" seems to conspire against you - people, bills, bad debts, relationships, and your health.  Your find yourself reacting in a bad way to others, life starts to feel something you endure rather than enjoy and there's a sense that something is missing.  

 

There are many ways we can fool ourselves to avoid being authentic.  Blaming things or circumstances or feeling "why bother?" and employing blithe but potentially damaging carelessness with yourself or others. 

 

Here are some common examples of being a person out of integrity or, as I like to call it, an absurd person singular:

  • Not returning calls when you say you will 
  • In fact any time you say you are going to do something and fail to do so as you said you would
  • Parking in disabled spaces (even if you are going to be on minute)
  • Not returning the supermarket trolley (you know who you are!)
  • Any addictions or health damaging habits
  • Any part of your life you are not taking responsibility for
  • Victim thinking
  • Using excuses frequently
  • Being routinely late for meetings socially and professionally
  • Worrying debt issues
  • Corporate theft (taking home stationery, diddling your expenses)
  • Regularly not delivering on your promises
  • Acting the ing�nue
  • Often trying "get away" with bad behavior/things
  • Emotional infidelity - flirting, eye-chasing attractive strangers
  • Not doing your share (and knowing it)
  • Feeling resentful
  • Attracting destructive people

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If you are feeling a little uncomfortable reading some of things don't worry you are not alone.

Re-Integrate Your Integrity or...

...Owning Up and Showing Up

 

Here's the how-to tool kit to raise your mood, restore your self-esteem, fill up your confidence and allay that inner critic.   

 

Being in integrity with yourself means restoring inner peace and finding you are no longer in conflict but in harmony with your world. Oh and you sleep better add - and you develop an awesome fan club too.

 

Make a list of the 10 ways you are currently not in integrity.

  • Get to the source of each and every item; resolve all fully.
  • Make a commitment to start living in integrity, as you see it.
  • Let go of at least 10 shoulds, coulds, woulds, oughts, wills.
  • Start getting 50% more reserve than you feel you need.
  • Stop hanging out with people who are harmful.
  • Eliminate adrenaline and other unhealthy "rushes" in your life.
  • Let go of everything that you know is not good for you.
  • "Get" that being authentic feels so much better than "hiding".

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If you want to get life to feel great and restore some real meaning and purpose why not take the next step and book a 30 minute f'ree trial session today.

 

Email me now - [email protected] 

 

Events - Make a Date With Destiny Today

 

If you have an allergy to networking yet want to grow your business, meet amazing new contacts that can help you grow your business and want to learn some highly effective business coaching tools then join us. 

 

Top coach Susan Tomlinson and I invite you to our next Business Breakfast on Thursday 15th September at 8.30am at the St Stephen's Club, London.  

 

Find our more and view a film about these super events here  

http://businessbreakfastseptember.eventbrite.com/

 

Are you sick of just having enough?  Often wondering why others have been given a bucket to draw from the stream of wealth while you were given a teaspoon with a hole in it?

 

Your money story could be keeping you stuck in poverty and preventing true financial wealth from flowing to you.

 

The Awesome Abundant Thinking Programme held on 6th October 2011 will change your attitude to money forever.

Find out more and view a film of the last one here  http://abundantthinkingoct11.eventbrite.com

 

Want to develop your presentation skills, learn the art of producing great videos to market your business and do it all in one day? Join presentation skills coach Alison Matthews and top video and film maker Felix Macintosh for their Video Impact day  http://videoimpact.eventbrite.com held on 16th September.   

 

I have worked with Felix who has produced the films you see on our Breakfast and Abundance events and I can vouch for her fun, enabling and superb craft-ship.  A real investment for anyone in business.

 

If you are in business and based in West London join me the first Friday of every month for Ladies@11 networking.  Visit [email protected] to find out more.  

 

I am also one of the speakers at the Ladies@11 conference along with Tiffany St James, Penny Power and Rachel Elnaugh - book now https://www.eventelephant.com/ladiesat11conferenceseptember

 

And finally my friend and fellow coach Holly Worton is holding The Fabulous Blooming You event for anyone who is feeling stressed, stuck at a crossroads or in need of a life make-over.  Held on 1st October 2011 you can book and find out more here http://hollyworton.com/2011/08/18/the-fabulous-blooming-you/

 

Don't forget to catch up with my Happy Monday column every week in the Daily Express. Here's last week's on post-holiday blues

http://www.express.co.uk/posts/view/266386/How-to-prepare-for-the-first-day-back 

 

The Tao of Peekachou and Cherub

 - Urban philosophy from two rescue kittens

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 Take time out for reflection. Life's worth thinking about.
Warren BuffettQuote of the Month
 

"Somebody once said that in looking for people to hire, you look for three qualities: integrity, intelligence and energy. But if you don't have the first, the other two could kill you."

 

- Warren Buffet

 

Stand up for yourself and all you are capable of.

  

    

Your Coach

Carole Ann

   

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This month...
Identifying the absurd person singular
How to step up to integrity
Events - make a date with destiny today
The Tao of Peekachou and Cherub
Quote of the Month

Abundant Thinking Programme    

abundance

6th Oct 2011

9.00am - 1.00pm  

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Business Building Breakfast   

St Stephens

15th Sept 2011

8:30am - 10:30am 


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Carole Ann Rice

Carole Ann is an award winning journalist, media consultant and high profile coach, with over 6 years' coaching experience with private clients and major organisations such as the London School of Economics and Play England. 

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