Wit and Wisdom 67 - Who did you grew up to be

Who do you want to be when you grow up? Perhaps you've already got there and are living the dream, having the life and being the YOU you always wanted to be. If that's the case then scroll down to the newsy fun stuff at the end of the email and skip this bit. In fact, what are you doing subscribing to a life-changing newsletter anyway? Peace and contentment just not enough for you? You already have it all.

Thanks. Now the rest of you - what's going on?? What do you mean you had big plans but Life got in the way? What's that you say? You're not sure what you want anyway? How will you know when you get there then?

If you're some of the way there to being who you wanted to be, part of the way to living your dream or if your psychic Sat Nav is permanently stuck on "go with the flow" and you've no idea where you are now and how you got there - it's OK, you've come to the right place.

As children we have mighty big dreams for ourselves. We blithely say - "Oh I'm going to be a spaceman/train driver/world leader ..." and shrug as though it were a given. Job done. So be it.

Then life delivers knock-backs, disappointments, rejections, heart ache and woe. Our little green shoots of hope get battered and torn as the storms of life take their toll and it seems easier to retreat than plough on.

We've all been there. Yes all of us; even the really successful, happy and contented folk. And here's the rub - it's how you choose to deal with all of those set-backs and hardships that is the key to becoming all you ever wanted to be.

Our perception of the world can create "can-do" or "can't ever do" attitudes. It can make us feel like victors as well as victims, millionaires or paupers. Our beliefs and perceptions can trip us up, keep us down, enable us to climb the highest mountain or stay stuck in the corner sulking and sucking our thumbs.

One of the first casualties of negative perceptions is a serious downturn in confidence. Fear grabs us and keeps us stuck in excuses, pain and indecision. We start to question ourselves as our internal critic acts like a jack boot on our dreams and actions.

In coaching clients who say their lack of confidence is holding them back it's important from the off to establish what being confident means.

It doesn't mean being a bragging, loud bore that people would clear a bar in 30 seconds. Why not aim for quietly assertive?

Here's The How

Here are a few coaching questions to help you take a step nearer who you want to be:

What would you do differently today if you had the confidence?
What in your life would change if you had the courage to speak up?
What might you be believing in that could be keeping you stuck?
What are you prepared to commit to in order to change what you have and to get what you want?

It's the small twists and tweaks in our thinking that can have the most momentous and long last results. What could you do today to take one step closer to being who you always wished you could be?

Why not book a 30 minute comp telephone coaching consultation with me today?

Email me caroleann@realcoachingco.comand live the life you love.