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Your One Minute Mood Turnaround Kit
No 65

Greetings to all my subscribers old and new of my Wit and Wisdom newsletter - the monthly goodness-packed smoothie to sooth your psyche and satisfy your sensibilities.
It takes 2 minutes to read but has a slow release goodness factor that reduces anxiety and swells the heart.

Greetings!
 
 
Is it taking a lot to be you at the moment?  Is your lack of confidence becoming a burden, your need to please an irksome chore or are you biting back so much of what you really want to say your tongue has turned into mincemeat?
 
I found I was wearing my shoulders as earrings the other day I was so stressed out by being me.  I poked my podge, sighed at another vulture's claw (upgraded crow's feet if you must know) and tutted at my over-committed diary.  It got worse. 
 
My hair looked like something David Attenburgh would poke and run away from and I was rating a 10 on the bleuurgh scale.
 
Know the feeling?  Quite often 3 rounds with Mike Tyson would be less painful than the blows we quietly and persistently deliver to ourselves.  Working with my clients we very quickly uncover the self-critic or hanging judge within that undermines our confidence and gives us GBH of the soul.
 
Lack of confidence, people pleasing, low self-esteem, envy, resentment, procrastination, being "stuck" and "putting up with" - just some of the myriad of by-products created our own pernicious inner bullies.
 
Storm
 
Having identified that we make Alan Sugar look like a Care Bear when it comes to self-motivation my clients then say - so how do I switch it off and how can I change?  A good starting point is at least acknowledging your Negative Internal Dialogue, hearing its carping tone and ability to cut you off at your knees.
 
Do you recognize yours? Does it sound like any of the following:
 
"Why are you bothering to do this you know you'll be useless?"
"Don't try something new, you'll only fail"
"People won't like you if they saw the real YOU"
"Don't speak up, you'll look stupid"
"I don't'deseve success/love/luck"
 
Am I talking your language?
The One Minute Turn-Around Kit 
 
Naturally it takes time (and a bit of help and support from your coach) to fully put the inner critic in its place.  But for starters here are a few ways to go from floor to soar in less than 60 seconds.  OK, some of it will take practice to perfect but start right now and you can turn the inner voice of doom into a reveille of possibility.
 
  • Imagine a time when you overcame something really difficult - an exam, a scary situation, some bad news - you triumphed then so you can do so again. Just see how brave and equipped you are.
  • Drop all the "oughts" and "shoulds" and think about "want to's" and "will do's".
  • Reverse every negative thought -  ie. "I am not good enough" becomes "I am entirely good enough" - keep saying it until you believe it.
  • Ask yourself - is beating myself up motivational or inspirational?
  • Struggling to not be the person you are right now is pointless and useless
  • Practice forgiveness, acceptance and  mindfulness - of yourself and then others.
  • Stop arguing with what is.  You will lose 100% of the time.
  • Don't judge how you feel.  Your emotions just "are".
  • Remember it's alright to be you in all your vulnerabilities, talents and weirdnesses.
  • In fact it's GREAT to be you - full stop!
  • In the great scheme of things will  it matter?
  • Even this shall pass.
 
Take time out when you feel your head is fit to bust with negative thoughts, stress, anxieties and fears and practice just one of the above for a minimum of a minute, breathe deeply as see you and the world in perspective again.

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Quote of the Month
"Three things in human life are important. The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. And the third is to be kind" - William James
Give yourself lots of love and have a powerful week
 
Best wishes,
 
Your coach 

Carole Ann
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Carole Ann

sitting on the fence in life can be painful

Carole Ann is an award winning journalist, media consultant and high profile coach, with over 6 years' coaching experience with private clients and major organisations such as the London School of Economics and Play England. 
 

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