Greetings!
Are you, like me, wondering who the sadist was who thought this was a good time of year to drop a dress size or take up exercise? I expect they are cackling in malicious glee as we sup our vile herb teas and twirl their fiendish moustaches as they watch us shoe-horn our flab into Lycra gym gear.
But if the duvet is looking more alluring than Colin Firth in britches or you feel like Superman confronted with Kryptonite, losing the will to live, when faced with a crispbread, then join the club. You are in very good company.
Weak and unreliable at the best of times, our willpower cannot cope with bank statements, Arctic conditions and slaying our waist-band muffin monsters in January. We just want to hide and hibernate in carb heaven and sofa- Nirvana.
A study by neuro-scientists at Stanford University revealed that willpower is governed by the pre-frontal cortex and that this is a very frail and unreliable muscle of the brain which can't take overload.
When we set ourselves unrealistic goals in the most unforgiving month of the year we could find ourselves signing up to a programme of failure.
We are more likely to reach our goals if we really want to achieve them; not because we "ought" or "should" be doing them, but we adore the idea of reaching that state or having them in our lives.
Imagine then if this year your goals were all already within your reach, but a breath away and that it demanded no pain, deprivation or despairing huffing and puffing to get there. Bliss?
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The Small Switch
All this can be yours. Here are some life goals that may resonate with you. You may feel they would be wonderful bonuses to have in your life, which could make you feel lighter (without dieting!) and more connected with the essence of what life is about.
You just have to listen to the whispers within and practice as often as you can remember with kindness and compassion for yourself.
Could these be the goals to make 2010 meaningful and purposeful? Try them on:
- I commit to letting go of trying to control situations and outcomes
- I have let go of exhausting myself seeking perfection and managing the expectations of others
- I listen to when I am unkind and cruel to myself and choose to change the tune
- I understand that "beating myself up" is not motivational. It never helps.
- I have decided to be responsibly selfish -people pleasing makes me resentful and feel over-looked
- I choose to be around positive people who make me feel good
- I don't aim for perfection - good enough suits me
- I ask myself "will I be bothered by this in 5 years time?" and let it go
- I no longer worry about what others think. I know they are too busy thinking about themselves
- I unconditionally love and forgive myself
- I listen to my needs. They are valuable too.
- Each day I seek to find pleasure in small things. A bird's song, my slippers, fresh food in the fridge, music.
- I understand that people have their own agendas and I have healthy expectations of others
- Comparing myself unfavourably to others is a toxic pursuit
- I often remind myself to see the glass half full
Trust me, keep up this little regime and you'll be looking and feeling better in no time.
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