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The Waiting Game
There is a fine line between patience and procrastination - which is it for you?
- Are you waiting for someone to see your brilliance at work and give you a promotion or for the phone to ring with a job offer?
- Are you waiting for that lost love to see the light or another to rescue you?
- Are you waiting for somebody to take responsibility for the pain they are causing you? How long are you prepared to wait for them to change?
- Why is the yearning for your book/radio play/band to be snapped up by a savvy decision maker so unbearable?
- Perhaps you are waiting for just the right time to start that diet or take up an exercise regime? Is it when the Moon is in the 7th house and Jupiter aligned with Mars?
- Are you wishing away pain and grief?
Sadly, there is no magic wand.
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But there is Magic
Trust me, I've been there. I've willed someone to "rescue" me from jobs so much that I've practically thrown my brain into some 4th dimension; a kind of living hell of unmet expectations and dashed hopes. Wasting years of my life in misery and longing, patience turning to rage and anger morphing into pity and despair, I waited for my world to change.
I can't tell you how many paper clips I straightened and crows feet I grew in that time.
That was until I decided to do something about it.
I stopped expecting the world to turn for me (just as Sally did) but started digging my "escape tunnels" instead. I turned down the despair and turned up the creativity. When I quit waiting for life to deliver, these wonderful things eventually came to me - out of a place of gleaming hope and zero fear I found the courage to write and sell television programme ideas, became a journalist, got the partner I wanted and later the children I cherish and now, years on, a career I adore. I couldn't have done a lot of this without my coach.
My blood runs cold to think what life would've been like if I hadn't had bothered. If I'd left it to chance. If I'd given up.
And the definition of luck? It's when preparedness meets opportunity.
A Warning
I love your passion, your determination and your eye on the outcome. But it is vital to live in the now as you follow your dream. You can't put life on hold until you drop the dress size, meet your dream date or take over Apple. The journey is as important and urgent patience must mean that you enjoy your life in its fullest whilst holding your dream deep in your heart. |
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Here is a lovely "a-ha!" story
A desperate young seeker visited a wise Master saying "I want to be enlightened; if I study with you how long will it take?"
The Master surveyed the young man and said "Ten years."
Crest-fallen the youth urged, "If I work night and day, do without sleep and do twice what other students do, then how long will it take to be enlightened?"
"Twenty years," replied the Master, calmly. Looking at the perplexed youth the Master explained: "When you have your eye firmly fixed on the goal, you have but one eye left to find the way."
Ok grasshopper, what's it to be?
Get your dream in place (write it out, create vision board - just get one!), then think of the baby steps you need to get there.
Take one at a time, get help, tell friends, create a community, do what you have to do to get there. Seize the day and never, ever give up.
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News Snippets
- Look out for some life-changing and exciting news of our Career Coaching Bootcamp for January 2010 - which is set to make next year your year. In your Inbox soon.
- Check out my fortnightly column on the UK's leading personal stylist website www.istylista.com
- Come and meet me and Sarah Wade on our world book signing tour of Find Your Dream Job at Waterstones Putney on Saturday 28th November at 2.30pm. Free inspirational talk and goodies galore.
Our last signing at Richmond in October was a gas.
- Follow me on Twitter too
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Quote of the Month
"Hope is patience with the lamp lit" - Tertullian |
