Dear
I hope you had the hottest summer and are looking forward to this glorious season of mist, wistfulness and change. Maybe you are thinking of making some powerful changes at the moment? Perhaps it's not just September that has you trawling the evening classes prospectuses or surfing the travel websites.
All year you're seeking, searching and flitting from one thing to another.
Are you one of those people who just can't make their minds up?
Should you stay or should you go?
Should you date or dump?
Why do you always want what someone else has ordered?
Of course you want to chase your bliss. But what exactly is it? Is it a year out so you can help in orphanages in Africa or work in an orangutan sanctuary? Do you fancy dropping it all to become a landscape gardener or photographer ?
Searching for happiness or lassoing your passion is often the backbone to coaching sessions. This is great when the coach is guiding you through the process of goal setting and coming up with strategies to get you to your destination.
But what if you are unsure of committing to anything? What if the great supermarket of life is offering you too many choices? How can you dare to go down one avenue when there are millions of others beckoning with crooked finger seductions of peace, contentment or riches?
Welcome to the Flitter Generation.
If you want to know if you are a Flitterer here's a simple test.
- You answer questions - "Yes. No..." but don't realise you do it.
- You always think there is something better round the corner so don't commit to the present.
- You half finish or abandon courses, writing projects, keep fit classes, diets etc.
- You think life will be great when you lose that half stone, meet the dream partner, get that promotion, do the next thing...
- You find it very stressful to make a decision from anything from a night out to a career move
- Travel always seems the best way out
- You go round and round in circles a lot. Friends are bored of hearing your "broken record"
- Even menus become an issue
- You often wait for Fate to deal with situations rather than make a decision yourself. Then when you do you complain about what's happened.
- You get anxious about making the wrong decision
- Perfectionism is a bit too important
- You're often exhausted by your indecision and neurotic thoughts
- You "leave the door open" on relationships in case someone better comes along
- In the end you end up doing nothing
If several of these observations are resonating then you'll know all too well how difficult it is being you sometimes. How you wish for clarity amid the chaotic choices out there.
You are not alone. Just look at the new advertisement for Samsung phones which dictates "Impatience is a virtue" as crowds of young folk, mindlessly run from one amazing thing to next with an attention span of a goldfish. A waterfall or sunset, a party or a down pour in Cuba. Who cares? What's next? Nothing registering, nothing meaningful.
For newcomers to this newsletter my Duvet Diet is all about showing yourself compassion and kindness so you lose boulders of low self esteem and look great in your genes!