What would you do if you bumped into yourself in town and the other you was the person you had always dreamt you'd be? You know, that person you once day-dreamed about as a child; the princess, the famous tennis player, the astronaut, the thin, popular walking dream boat that made blue birds suddenly appear?
It's the "you" who took risks, said "yes" instead of "no" or "maybe" and who chose to have a go rather than live a life of regret. Not stricken by low self esteem or sub-zero confidence the Super Real You has met their life head on.
This Dream Self you bumped into had overcome challenges, forgiven and forgotten family rifts and failure was not a word in their lexicon of life. Your Dream Self had effortlessly attracted love by having strong boundaries, by daring to be vulnerable and from learning from the mistakes of previous relationships. Super Real You had realistic expectations of others and had the grace to accept what can't be changed.
You look good, successful, happy, content and satisfied. Rested, fit and restored SRY (Super Real You) sleeps well at night untroubled by anxiety, guilt or unexpressed anguish. Yes, the "you" you wished you'd been is light-housing the beam of oneness that comes with the realization that life is goooooood. You nod in recognition, smile wistfully and walk on.
Well now, how do you feel about that little fantasy? Did it make you glow like a Ready Brek casualty or did your inner light dim to the gloom setting? Did you feel a little sad or frustrated? Are you now inspired to make some changes?
Which of those qualities would you most like in your life right now? Is it career fulfillment or simply the blissful ability to let go of struggle? As none of us can turn the clock back, it's pointless wasting time ruing what might have been.
The biggest sadness and loss of all would be if you thought any of those things were beyond your reach still. Even if you are at a life crossroads, facing redundancy, a relationship split or are dealing with the illness of a loved one, life can change and change for the better.
There are few absolutes in life but change is certainly one of them. How we manage change is the key to our success. Not all change is bad; it can be challenging because it gets us out of the comfort zone and makes us re-think a situation and what its implications might be. Just think back to times when a big change seemed daunting yet you overcame it and life moved on.
