The Wit and Wisdom Newsletter

The  Real Coaching Co

How To Do Christmas 
No 49
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Contents
 
To Want or To Be
Recipe for a Tasty Christmas
Stocking Feelers
Make 2009 Sublime
Join the Club
Quote
 
Seasons Greetings   
 
As Oblivion taps her eager fingers while you surrender to another "Oh blow it" retail moment and you attempt to squeeze something the size of Harrods Food Hall into the shoe box of your freezer, spare a moment.
What do you really want for Christmas and, for that matter, the year ahead?
Sometimes it's not so much what we want to have or wish to do, that is the question, but who do we want to be?
 Do you want to be more peaceful, less anxious and with self-doubt relegated to the loft with last year's decorations?
  Would you suit more confidence, perhaps at last be in integrity with yourself and doing all those things, finally, that you say you will?
Maybe you'd like to be fitter, able to voice your own needs for once or simply stop worrying what the heck everyone thinks about you?  Would it be nice not to have to be proving yourself to someone or some nebulous thing you've set up to drive yourself into the pursuit of perfection but never reaching personal satisfaction? 
Do you simply want to give love and receive it fully with someone you trust?
I wish all those things for you too.  I am not a fairy godmother (though I can work wonders with a pumpkin and a can of coconut milk) but I do believe we have the magic within us to create the lives we really want.

 
Imagine the wonder of that.  You have the power within you to become the YOU you've always wanted to be.  Deep down you know that already.  You can't expect someone or something to provide all that, some lottery ticket or Xmas stocking that will suddenly deliver you from fear so that life feels like you've slipped into a pair of velvety Wolford tights or a pair of silk Jockeys.
Instead of crossing fingers or expecting others to be Santa why not commit to treating yourself well, showing compassion to yourself and deciding to really step into your own brilliance at last?
Start by writing out all the things you want for yourself.  You might like to try doing this fun game which really gives you that shopping fix as well as expanding your consciousness around abundance www.choosingprosperity.com Alternatively why not book that 30 minute f'ree telephone coaching consultation with me and get everything you really want for Xmas?
Email me now [email protected]

Gift

Recipe For A Tasty Christmas
 

As a coach one of the things we do like to focus on is what people want and getting them really clear on that in order to see their goals with greater clarity.  Sometimes it's even helpful to start from the position of what you don't want in order to gauge what you do.
So with that in mind here are the ingredients of a Christmas of comfort and joy and all the things you Do and Don't need for a happy and peaceful Yule.

  • Don't expect too much from others.  Our expectations can cause us the most pain.
  • Do try to accept that which or whom you can't change.
  • Do remove yourself from annoying people or situations and go and beat up a pillow in a spare room.
  • Do remember even this will pass
  • Don't forget your personal boundaries - nobody has the right to be rude, aggressive or demeaning to you no matter what day it is
  • Don't forget your own needs
  • Don't do too much self-sacrifice - the smell of burnt martyr doesn't mix with turkey
  • Don't be quick to judge but do try to love unconditionally - everyone is scared, in fear and has issues of some sort they just exhibit in different ways.
  • Do give yourself permission to love yourself unconditionally too.
Stocking Feelers
 
Ok guys and gals here are some great ideas that are more potent than pot-pourri and longer lasting than bath salts.  Some fabulous gift ideas to really make a difference.
  • How about this gorgeous, inspiring and spiritually uplifting book by one of my brilliant clients Lou Hamilton http://www.blurb.com/books/436591 Want a dream job?  My first book co-written with Sarah Wade is out on Jan 2nd 2009  
  • Find Your Dream Job includes effective coaching tips and real life stories about how people like you got the job to die for.  Find it on Amazon www.amazon.co.uk

or Marshal Cavendish /ISBN 9781905736478 �12.99 - more on this in next month's newsletter!

  • Perhaps your dream job would be in the healing arts.  Stress and meditation coach Jo Sumner is one of the UK's leading Bach Flower Remedy practioners and she is holding  an International Training programme in March 09.  The self-development course will teach you how to use the 38 remedies discovered by Dr Edward Bach.  Contact Jo now for more details [email protected]
  • What about buying some coaching for a friend or relative who could really do with a life change?  Buy one �70 coaching voucher and I will give the happy recipient 2 hours of coaching (worth �140) - contact me [email protected] for more details.


                                    Coaching Gift Voucher                                         

Make 2009 Sublime 
 

Have you booked your f'ree place on my Minsitry of Fun teleclass on the 13th January?  For one hour and with fellow fun seekers I aim to give you a clear vision for what you would like to achieve in the year ahead as well as sound advice on how to build in more fun too.
Book a place now by emailing me [email protected] and make 2009 divine.
 
Our Next Real Coaching Solutions Monthly Group Coaching Call is THURSDAY, 22 January 2009 at 8:00 pm UK time
Do you ever wonder how some people seem to be in the right place at the right time and achieve effortless personal and professional success?  In this call you will learn some of the fundamental principles to help you attract opportunities and boost your career success.  Find out how your beliefs and behaviours are keeping you stuck in deficit thinking, the long term implications for your work and relationships of your attitudes and habits, and why dealing with tolerations and boundaries will free up space, time and energy to help you achieve your goals.
This call is FREE for all Mastermind members. Not a member?
Join now to access this call with our special FREE 2-month "Membership" trial.

And finally thank you to all of you who sent me such wonderful feedback as requested in my last newsletter.  How gratifying it is to hear so many of you read and enjoy the contents. 
 
May your Christmas and New Year bring you all you wish for (so make sure it's a big and magnificent one) and I look forward to joining you all in January.
 
Give yourself lots of love
 
Carole Ann