We only think we are perfect.  The reality is that there we suffer from many faults.  There are times when we say or do the wrong thing.  When we realize what we have said, we feel the remorse.  Feeling contrite is good, but we must go one step further.  We must express the apology in words.

Apologizing is not easy.  After all, you have to swallow your pride, and your ego does take a beating.  The mind says, "You didn't make a mistake; there is no reason to lower yourself."  However, making an apology is only proper and it is healing for the one who apologizes.

When should you apologize?  Apologize once the situation has cooled down a bit.  Once you have had a chance to figure out why you did or said the wrong thing.  How should you apologize?  Formulate the apology clearly in your head or on paper before uttering it.  Be clear about what you wish to say, and apologize from the heart.

There is a chance that your apology may not be accepted.  If you ask whether or not it is worth it to apologize in that case, the answer is 'yes.'  The other person may not accept what you are saying, but you will derive great satisfaction in having acknowledged your mistake.

After all, your purpose in life is to improve yourself.  The first few steps on the ladder of self-improvement are: to see your shortcomings, to acknowledge them and to work on getting rid of them.

Do not be afraid to apologize.

Yours,
Didi Ji