Top 10 Tips for Successful Play Dates

1. Don't rush into it. In the early stages of development, it is harder for children to play with another child than with their parents. This is because peers are unpredictable and less likely to compensate for the child's lack of social skills. If you wait until your child is comfortable playing with you before starting play dates, your child will have more success
2. Play some one-on-one. If your child is just beginning to interact successfully with peers, invite only one child at a time. Group interaction is more difficult for children.
3. Keep it simple. Prepare a simple activity or one which both children have already done successfully.
4. Have a back-up plan. Keep a couple activities on hand in case your first choice flops.
5. Make it short and sweet. Try having the kids play for ten minutes and then serve a snack. Cooperation is hard work for kids on the autism spectrum! Extend the time period when you child is ready.
6. No winners or losers. Avoid competitive games. Choose activities that encourage your child to cooperate with his friend.
7. Set the stage. Remove clutter from the play area so your child can focus. Set up the activity in advance so they can get started with minimal instruction from you.
8. Create calm. Turn off the stereo and TV. Your child may have difficulty tuning out the background noise.
9. Button up! Try not to prompt your child. You may want to listen to be sure they are getting along, but don't stay in the room. Allow your child to practice interacting independently.
10. Take notes. Reflect on the play date to see if there is anything you would do differently next time. Consider aspects of the activity, environment, or friend choice that may help your child succeed. 

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