In a recently published article I wrote for the King County Bar Bulletin, Matters of Principle Require a Measured Approach, I discuss considerations for participants in emotionally charged mediations. In this issue I'll discuss the importance preparing clients for the emotional terrain of the mediation process.
After more than a decade of driving a car from the last century, I reluctantly admitted to myself that I needed a new car. With this decision came an unexpected emotional process that gave me new insight into some of the dynamics present for parties in employment mediations. While buying a car is certainly not as intense an experience as mediating an employment dispute, I was surprised by the parallels in the experience.
As I began the process, researching the vast array of car choices available, contemplating dealer vs. private seller, determining my own financial bottom line, I found myself adrift in a sea of information, overwhelmed to the point where I couldn't move forward.
I sought the advice of a friend who is a car aficionado, an expert car shopper, the go-to for many of our common friends who need help traversing the car buying jungle. In talking to my friend about my struggles, I gained some clarity about how my emotions were getting in the way of moving forward with the process. I also identified some of the potential hot spots that might emerge in the negotiation once I made my decision about what car I would buy.
In preparing myself emotionally for what to expect in this odyssey of buying a new car, I was able to navigate the process with a level of calm that was not present when I initially began my search. In much the same way, attorneys can help their clients come to the mediation table amply equipped and better able to negotiate if they prepare them for what might emerge emotionally during the process of mediation.
I look forward to seeing many of you this month and in the new year.
Sincerely,
Nancy Maisano
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