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                                 3rd March 2012
Springtime

As Spring approaches and the cherry trees in my suburban London street start to bud, I'm reminded of my time in Japan studying a martial art. March is the month when one of the big sumo tournaments takes place in Tokyo and in Belly Art I describe an encounter I had with one of these larger than life wrestlers. The traditional Japanese arts - whether the fighting arts, or such disciplines as calligraphy, flower arranging and the Tea Ceremony - develop in their practitioners a sensitivity to how energy flows through and between people. In this respect I find a similarity between the skills of a sumo wrestler and those of a Voice Dialogue facilitator!

The past few weeks have been an exciting time as two Voice Dialogue projects have come to fruition. First is the publication of my book Selves in Action in which I describe how different parts of me have informed and influenced my daily life. Second is our successful completion of the first Voice Dialogue Online Program.  Read more about both below.

Wishing you a Springtime of new growth and selves discovery!

Warmly,
John
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Belly Art
Sumo

 

In the late 1970's I spent three years living in Tokyo. During the day I earned a living travelling around the city teaching English to company employees and in the evenings I studied a martial art called "Shintaido" (New Body Way).

 

One day, as the doors of my commuter train opened at Ryōgoku station, the impressive figure of a sumo wrestler stepped into the carriage. His wooden "geta" (traditional Japanese shoes) clunked noisily on the floor as he occupied a seat - or rather seats! - opposite me. His hair was tied up in a "chonmage" (topknot) and he wore a blue patterned "yukata" (summer kimono) tied with an embroidered "obi" (cotton belt) around his huge midriff.

 

I felt intimidated by the enormity of his presence and glanced across at him nervously. He was taller than I had imagined a sumo wrestler to be. His broad feet hung over the sides of his shoes and above his thick ankles were a pair of tree-trunk legs. Atop these rested the incredible bulk of his belly and over that his massive chest and shoulders. His round face with its small mouth seemed strangely baby-like. It was difficult to gauge his age.

 

I could see how, when squatting down to face his opponent in a tournament, his enormous stomach would give him great stability - like a triangle resting firmly on its base. I couldn't help comparing this to archetypal Western images of the ideal masculine physique - Superman, Mr Incredible, or American football players. With their exaggerated shoulders and slim waists these popular heroes appeared more like inverted triangles balancing somewhat precariously on one point!

 

It was not just the sheer physical mass of his body that so impressed me. There was also something about his energy that I found fascinating. He appeared not just very grounded but also centred and he had an ineffable inner calm. Even though his eyes were half-closed and he seemed to be paying me no attention at all, I felt that there was some kind of invisible communication taking place between us. It was as if I was being scanned by an energy radiating from his belly and that he was using this to take the measure of me. After a few stops he stood up impassively and exited the train, leaving an indelible mark in my mind.

 

Sometime later I was invited by my Shintaido teacher to accompany him to a sumo tournament. As we watched the bouts he explained the various moves each wrestler was using to try and force his adversary to touch the ground, or step outside the "dohyō" (small circular wrestling ring).

 

He pointed out that there were various slapping, holding, pulling and pushing techniques, but that fundamental to them all was the ability to maintain a strong and low centre of gravity, making it very difficult to be destabilised and thrown off balance. I knew from my Shintaido training that the place in the belly where this centre is located is called the "hara", which is three finger widths below and two finger widths behind the navel.

 

He explained that in Japan, a master of such disciplines as calligraphy, swordsmanship, tea ceremony or the fighting arts like sumo is said to be "acting from the hara". Teachers of these arts often instruct their students to centre their mind in their hara in order to anchor themselves. In addition to breathing techniques and physical exercises, developing the hara also involves emotional and spiritual practice. As a consequence, the student becomes more aware of and sensitive to both internal and external energies. Consciously communicating with someone from one's hara is called "haragei" - literally "belly art".

 

I listened attentively, realising that his words were not so much a description of what was going on at the tournament but more an instruction to me as I continued with my study of the martial arts.

 

Over the years I have applied the practical experience and understanding of hara I gained in Japan to different areas of my life - including to my work as a Voice Dialogue facilitator.

 

Like the sumo wrestler, when I facilitate clients I have to be both centred and grounded. Focusing down into my hara helps me to "scan" my clients and be sensitive to the different selves that show up during sessions. Identifying and resonating the energy of these selves from my hara helps clients deepen their experience of a particular self. The greater my capacity to consciously hold as many selves as possible "in my belly", the better able I will be to facilitate the wonderful variety of selves my clients present.

 

My goal as a facilitator is, however, very different from that of the sumo wrestler. When working with clients my job is to help them become aware of, stand between and embrace as many of their selves as they can. The natural consequence of this for the client is a feeling of being more expanded, centred and grounded. Far from trying to destabilise and throw my clients off balance, my task is to help them do the opposite - to become more stable and more in balance.

 

I have always found the Japanese depiction of Hotei (the so-called Laughing or Fat Buddha) attractive. I love the rotund figures with their big bellies and broadly smiling faces. When I look at them I am reminded of my first encounter with that sumo wrestler on the train at Ryōgoku and of the words of my teacher: "It is in the hara that the soul of a man resides".

 

A Voice Dialogue Session

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John's New Book: Selves in Action
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In this collection of short biographical essays I will give you examples of my selves in action. As you read about my journey of selves-discovery and how different parts of me have informed and influenced my life, I invite you to consider your own selves. Which parts of you have been in charge of "driving your bus" as you travel through life? How have they served you? Have any selves been excluded as a consequence? Which of your selves have interacted with others in your relationships - both in positive and negative ways? How might your experience of life be different if you could become aware of and embrace more of your selves? 

 

'When it comes to personal growth, there seems to be no substitute for telling one's personal story. And John is a delightful storyteller. His stories embrace both the personal emotional experience of the selves and the ways in which he (and his strong cognitive faculties) was able to deal with these selves as he became conscious of them. The style of John's book is easy to read and is appropriate to any level of psycho-spiritual development.'

- Drs Hal and Sidra Stone, creators of Voice Dialogue

 

'John Kent has done something remarkable: he has written an easy-to-read, easy-to-understand and easy-to-follow guide to working on your issues, resolving problems, understanding and deepening relationships. There is nothing complex here, the stories (and he is a storyteller) are of everyday life and yet his Voice Dialogue approach is profound.'

- Martin Pollecoff MSc, CASS, MSc Psych Int. UKCP

 

To preview or purchase the book click here.

 

 

 
 Next Online Program begins April 18th
 
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Following its successful worldwide launch, the next 7-week web-based Voice Dialogue Online Program will start April 18th 2012. It will provide an in depth introduction to Voice Dialogue, the Psychology of Selves and the Aware Ego Process and is designed for anyone wanting to improve the quality of their personal relationships, their work life or their physical and emotional wellbeing.

 

Here's what participants are saying:

 

'Thank you so much for creating this online Voice Dialogue Program.  At first I was a bit sceptical at the thought of attending an online seminar of this type but it has exceeded all my expectations and has been absolutely brilliant! I have been involved with Voice Dialogue for a while now and I feel it is a very professional program. In my opinion both newcomers and people with previous experience with Voice Dialogue will benefit a lot from this. I certainly did! I highly recommend this programme! Many thanks John and Michael.'

 

Pia Lindgren, Psychosomatic Therapist 

Sydney, Australia

 

'I would recommend this course to anyone who wants to enrich their lives.

When I signed up for this course, I didn't know what to expect. I was having problems with my critic harassing me all the time - I called him my "Demon". Now I have embraced many of my different selves and it has worked wonders for me. I'm grateful to John and Michael for what I have learned on the Voice Dialogue Online Program.'

 

Mark Ouellette, self-employed, auto repair business

Peabody, Ma., USA

 

View a video Endorsement of the Program  by Drs Hal and Sidra Stone.

 

The Program includes:

  • Seven 90-minute live interactive webinars
  • Seven 1-hour online small group discussions
  • 56 practical exercises putting the weekly themes into a personal context and applying the theory of Voice Dialogue to everyday life
  • An online journal to capture personal insights and log responses to the weekly exercises
  • Monitored message boards to expand on issues and questions raised in webinars and small group discussions
  • Access to recordings of all the webinars for the duration of the program
  • Access to a library of videos and MP3's
  • At the end of the 7-week program participants will receive a free fully formatted copy of their personal journal.
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