John S. Gordon - Business and Personal Coach

"You have the greatness and the power.  I just help you turn on the switch."

MARVELOUS MONDAYS

 

July 30, 2012 - Issue 184   

 

Win-Win with Compassion

 

This is the 10th in a series on Happiness

 

  
Dear ,

 

Welcome to Issue 184.  If you did not receive a previous issue, you may use the archive link below to view it now.  The mission of "Marvelous Mondays" is to offer an inspirational thought, a practical exercise, some humor, or a simple tip to jump-start your week and to enhance your life, business, outlook or relationships. 

 

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OUR NATURAL STATE OF HAPPINESS & GENTLENESS 

In our last issue we discussed how each of us is born as a happy and gentle being. 

 

SO WHAT HAPPENED TO OUR NATURAL STATE OF BEING?

The Dali Lama suggests that anger, aggression, and even violence may arise, but it's typically on a superficial level when we are frustrated in our efforts to achieve love, affection, or understanding. There is an internal conflict.

 

ALTRUISM-DEFINED AS THE UNSELFISH REGARD FOR THE WELFARE OF OTHERS

New research from scientists such as C. Daniel Batson, Nancy Eisenberg, and Dr. Linda Wilson reveals some very interesting conclusions:

 

  1. We are not just compassionate but often altruistic.
  2. In researching over 100 natural disasters, Dr. Wilson found the victims had a strong pattern of altruism and helping other victims rather than dwelling on their own plight.  And the victims tended to avoid later psychological problems, such as Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.  To sum it up, being compassionate is good for everyone and is healing, which creates a WIN-WIN. 

EXERCISE

This next week I invite you do the following:

  

1.   If the opportunity arises, be aware of the compassion of a young child who seeks to comfort you

      or even a stranger.

 

2.   Enter into a conversation with a person to whom you've had difficulty relating.  Enter into that

      conversation with compassion and see what happens.

 

3.   Be aware of a person towards whom you have some negative feelings and enter into a

      conversation with compassion and see what happens.

 

4.   Observe your reactions in these situations. Were you more open? Did you feel contentment,

      peace of mind, healing, or happiness?

 

I really look forward to hearing from you and learning together.

  

Dali Lama-2   

 

"We weren't born with the purpose of causing trouble or harming others. For our life to be of value, I think we must develop basic good human qualities-warmth, kindness, compassion. Then our life becomes meaningful and more peaceful-happier."

-The Dali Lama from The Art of Happiness

 
JOHN'S BIO
John has owned several businesses and is an attorney who has practiced in the business and estate  areas.  In addition, he coaches business owners, executives, entrepreneurs, professionals, speech makers and presenters.  He also coaches persons who are determined to accelerate their careers and leadership skills or who are considering a career move or retirement.  John uses coaching as a tool in his leadership and business results based consulting.  He is also a life coach.

                   **John is currently accepting a few new coaching clients.**

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