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Summer, a time to relax?
....definitely NOT always for ADDers and their families! Typically a person with ADHD simply does better when he or she has a structured schedule. Once the routine of school and related activities breaks for the summer, chaos can ensue and emotions can run unexpectedly high. While one would think that an ADDer would thrive in a spontaneous summertime situation, the ADHD trait of "shift" can make things miserable. A person with ADHD has trouble with transitions, or "shifting" from one activity to another (unless it's his idea). When he's asked to do something without notice, it is often too much of an unwanted surprise. He tends to react impulsively, lashing out in a negative, cranky way. At times he's even embarrassed by his own behavior after he's had time to reflect on the situation. Can you see how the notion of "winging it" on a beautiful summer day becomes a frightening proposition for the social director of the family?
Here are some helpful tips:
1) Keep an UPDATED family calendar in a central location.
2) Discuss the next days' schedule on the night prior, even if the plan is unknown. This gives the ADDer notice that there might be a spontaneous activity.
3) Allow all family members to have input to the plans and give choices when possible. It's important that each person feels heard.
4) Do all of the above even when traveling! It's a shame to have high expectations for a fun family vacation only to have emotional turmoil taint it.
Most of all, try to keep peace and enjoy the summer. Remember, the more notice you can give an ADDer the better. |
