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I want to share this revelation that the Lord gave me to write about in my new book, "Home Training, turning your house into a home God's way."
 
In the beginning we understand that the Lord had a plan for creation.  The bible says, 'that in the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.'  After which He then  placed the birds, fish, and animals into their environment.  He didn't do it the other way around and then tried to find a place for them to live. 
 
 We also understand that when God created each one of us that He had a purpose for our lives and within us He placed gifts and talents that will help us to reach the designed destiny He had for our lives.  God then tells us that faith without works is dead.  He also tells us that He doesn't want us to be lazy.  We then understand that in order to achieve our purpose we are going to have to get up, work, seek employment, information, career, school, etc.  Therefore we are to be very aggressive in our search for purpose and God's plan for our lives.  He tells us that whatever your hands find to do, do it with all of your might.  This helps us to understand then that He had a plan and a purpose for our lives.  Follow me, I am going somewhere with this.
  
 Here in lies the problem we take the plan for creation,(to design the relationship or the man into what we want them to be) the plan for purpose (tell him who he is suppose to be) and the plan for relationships (to act like God) to turn them into one. 
 
God just laid this on my heart. Are you trying to get your husband to be like your Pastor, co-worker, an Actor, and/or President?  God said, 'you don't know them.'  All you see is what they do in public but you have no idea what goes on behind closed doors.  Stop! desiring your mate or future mate to be like someone else.
That is what the bible calls, 'coveting.'
 
 This is why women are so aggressive in their relationships, simply because you are using the wrong plan and this one is on God. For those who are single, we try to  make a man become our goal that we are to achieve and conquer. This is why you say, I am this age and I thought I would be married by now or I will be married this time next year.  For those who are married we try to make our husbands do things according to our plan. I told you to pay this bill, clean the garage, take out the trash today but you insist on doing when you want to.  Yes, you are to put your hands to work  for purpose and position, but you are not to put your hands into God's plans for relationships.
 
This is what the scripture means when it says, 'a foolish woman tears it down with her hands.'
 
The definition for hands according to webster is to manipulate, to steer, manual labor,  bring about pleasure with your own hands and to control.  You see ladies when it comes to your life as a person, yes work hard but when it comes to relationships this involves another person.  When we try to make people be with us, when we try and manipulate our husbands, or try to steer a man to come into our lives at a certain time then we must understand that we are trying to involve God's purpose for that man to be in alignment with ours. 
 
If you are single and/or divorce then this simply means that God's plan for relationships did not include the two of you being together.  It wasn't that he was bad or that you were good it just meant that you tried to put your hand into God's plan for your life in the area of relationships.
So then we thank God for opening doors but we stop today to give Him thanks for closing doors.  God already has a plan for you. Become a lady in waiting.
  Amen.
 
 Then we understand that when God created man that He first created the garden (Adam's home) then placed him in it. This should have helped someone.  Ladies, it is not your responsibility to provide a home for a man to dwell.  I told my son if a young lady ask you to move in with her tell her NO!   
 1.  First of all it's wrong.
  2.  When she gets mad or upset she will then say, that      this is her house and will try and put you out when you don't do as she commands.
  3. Lastly, I told him get your own stuff.  YOU ARE THE MAN!
 
I told my daughter you should not be dating anyone who don't work, have his own place and/or transportation. 
 
 After which he put Adam to sleep and out of his side the Lord created Eve.  Neither of which had a hand in creation when it came to a relationship. The Lord simply said, now that I have Adam established, 'it is not good for man to be alone, I will (God) make him a helper compatable to him. Many women say that men don't know a good woman when they see it but the truth is every woman that he see isn't his wife therefore he is in a sleeping state.  If you are not married then this must mean that God is still working or making  you before He awakens Adam. Isn't that a great revelation?
 
Ok, I will discuss me so let's talk Girl Talk for a minute.  Yes, ladies I am just like you, I am a girly, girl.  LOVE IT!  How do you think I am able to write about these things.  lol
There is this guy, ladies he is fine, cute, muscular (love it), a man of God and we have been looking at each other and being a little flirty.  So I prayed and I said, Lord I don't know if he is in your plan but I would like to get to know him if it is your will. 
 
 I am thinking within myself please let this be in your plan.  Many women say they don't have time to date.  STOP! saying that.  Wouldn't you rather date than to marry someone and find out, no you're not the one. Anywho? that's girl talk language.  Ok, so I began to get anxious, like come on already.  Then I had to stop and say, 'no Lord I am going to let you put this together.'  Don't you know that when I handed my desires back over to the Lord my anxiety left.
 
I have learned that if God don't build it, then I will be laboring in vain.
 
Here are the tips:
 
1.  Hand (which is your desires) your plans back over to the Lord. (marriage, desire to get married)
 
2.  Pray not to be so anxious for a man to come or for your husband to do what you want right now.
 
3.  Understand that God has a plan for relationships and that He does things in order.
 
4.  Let him turn you into a wife after His own heart.
 
If these tips helped you let me know ladies: 
 
Beautifully Speaking,
 
Sonya 
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