Webster defines unsatisfied as someone who is demanding, in need, unhappy and discontent.  There are so many women who appear beautiful on the outside but inside are full of unhappiness, anger, and sadness.  They are not satisfied with life.  They come home only to yell at their children, as well as exhibit feelings of discontentment about their relationship or the lack thereof.  So much so, that even when someone try or attempt to satisfy her she still find something to complain, fuss, or nag about.  Is this you? 

A gentleman can ask you out on a date and you're mad because he asked you on Friday instead of Monday yet you say, 'you want to date.' Do you really?  Or is the only way you can date is as if it's under your demands only?  You get angry with your husband because he paid the bill 3 days after you demanded that bill should have been paid.  Can he do anything right?  An unsatisfied woman places demands on everyone in her life because let the truth be told she's really unhappy with herself.  You're always complaining that no one understands you but the truth is you're expecting someone else to understand you when you don't understand yourself.  Everybody is wrong but you and you judge, criticize, and complain about everything and everyone but have you every stop to think that there is a storm brewing inside of you.  You have no peace, no joy, and ultimately no patience.  You want everyone to march to the beat of your drum even if it is off beat or out of tune.  Do you think that you are being fair or reasonable? 

What is causing the quarrels and fights among you?  Don't they come from the evil desires at war with you?  You want what you don't have, so you scheme and kill to get it.  You are jealous of what others have, but you can't get it, so you fight and wage war to take it away from them.  Yet you don't have what you want because you don't ask God for it,  and even when you ask, you don't get it because your motives are all wrong-you only want what will give you pleasure. James 4:1-3

I remember some years ago  I was so unhappy that I walked into the house and everyone was laughing and then here I come raising hell and didn't even stop to say hello I just started yelling.  Yelling that this wasn't done and that wasn't done, why is that cup on the counter and it only escalated from there.  I changed the entire atmosphere and attitude of everyone in a matter of seconds.  I took everyone's joy and turned it into sorrow.  You see an unsatisfied woman bullies others.  I wonder does the atmosphere change when you enter a room?  Are people really happy to see you or do they go to their room to keep from hearing your mouth? A friend of mine recently told me that he would sit in his driveway for hours just so that he wouldn't have to hear his wife's mouth.   I wonder if anyone in your life is taking the long way home? The bible says,' that a wise woman builds her house but a foolish one tears it down with her hands'.  Are you tearing your children down?  Are you tearing down your relationship?  Are you tearing down others self-esteem with your words of judgment and criticism?

1.  Have you ever stopped long enough to find out what you are really unhappy about?
2. Have you ever considered that it's not everyone else but you?

Often times an unsatisfied woman feels as though life will always be this way for her.  Therefore, instead of praying about what's going on with her or ask God for help, she becomes demanding simply because she is impatient and things are not moving fast enough and neither is the Lord.  She takes on the attitude that if anything is going to get done that she might as well do it herself.  Are you being realistic?

Ladies, don't you realize that even the bibles say, 'not to provoke your children to anger and that a man would rather sit on the roof top of a house instead of being in the house with you and listening to you nag him about what he is not doing.'  No matter how much people do or how hard they try it's still not enough to satisfy you.

Why am I discouraged?  Why is my heart so sad?  I will put my hope in God! I will praise him again-my Savior my God! Psalms 43:5

So in order for us to get to the bottom of your discontentment you must ask yourself why?  Tell yourself the truth!  You thought marriage or getting married would do it?  You thought having a man in your life would do it?  You thought joining the church auxiliary or organization would do it?  You thought going to the club would do it?  You thought drinking would do it?  You thought having sex would do it?  You're still saying, 'I can't get NO Satisfaction'!

What do you do when you are going to the places, person, or obtain the things and still find yourself unsatisfied?  How can you be in a crowded room and still feel alone?

Look at the woman at the well in John 4, Jesus told her, 'anyone who drinks this water will soon become thirsty again.  But those who drink the water I give will never be thirsty again.  It becomes a fresh, bubbling spring within them, giving them eternal life.'  The woman says to Jesus, 'give me this water'!  Are there any unsatisfied women who needs a drink from the Lord? She tells him I don't want to look to people, places, or things to be satisfied.  He tells her go call your husband and she said I don't have a husband.  Jesus said you have had five husbands and this one is not your husband.  I wonder when you are going to realize that it's not them that are causing your discontentment but it is your lack of fulfillment that can only come from Jesus.  You're ready to walk away from it all because you are unsatisfied.  Don't leave your husband or family.  Stop yelling at everyone and get into God's presence so that He can revive, restore, and renew you.  God doesn't want you to go another day unsatisfied. 

Recently, I had a situation to occur in my life that had made my heart feel like it was in my stomach and after church a gentlemen came up to me and said, read this scripture the Lord told me to give it to you.  This is what it said:

Then Jesus said, 'Come to me, all of you who are weary and carrying heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.  Matthew 11:28;

I cried because God was just that concerned about me, that He didn't want me to go another moment with my heart in the pit of my stomach.  Run into His presence there you will find rest for your soul.

This is part of my new book, 'Home Training, turning your house into a home God's way.'                           

Beautifully Speaking,

Sonya

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