Fall 2012
Issue:  2
Top'Therapy Bytes' Quarterly              

                        ~  for the Therapy Savvy + Therapy Curious Reader


In This Issue
Free 5 week Teleclass this Fall: 'This Thanksgiving~ Empower Don't Devour!'
Couples Corner- How to deal with an affair...
Astrology Update

      This Thanksgiving ~ Empower don't Devour! 
    Free Teleclass Series Starts Oct 20 Saturdays 10-10.50am  


         Get Tools + Tips to deal with Holiday Stress from Experts
               in the field of Food, Weight and Body Image issues 

Traditionally Thanksgiving and Christmas because of their emphasis on family and food can be a particularly difficult time of year for those of us who struggle with food, weight and body image issues.

~ Tired of turning to food to deal with holiday stress (or any stress for that matter)? 
~ Ready to have your body be your friend instead of your battleground?  

       Get some valuable tools + tips in this no obligation teleclass series.
 This series will be slanted towards the Health At Every Size Approach and will include an intuitive and mindful eating emphasis. 


What questions do you want me to ask our experts? Do this short survey to make sure I address your area of concern!  



To sign up for the Teleclass e-mail Ondina for conference call number + code:            




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Couples Corner

Consider this surprising statistic: At least one or both parties in 50 percent of all couples, married and living together, straight and gay, will break their vows of sexual or emotional exclusivity during the lifetime of the relationship.

                                                                                   -Shirley Glass, Not Just Friends


It's true. Research shows that half of all couples will experience infidelity in their relationship. Reasons for affairs are many and complicated and outside the full scope of this article. What this article will attempt to address is some of the common factors that can contribute to affairs and what you can do to recover your relationship after an affair, should it fall prey to one.

[NB: For poly or open couples, consider an affair to be the bringing in of a third party without mutual consent.]


So what creates fertile grounds for affairs?

Just like a garden, relationships need to be nurtured and tended to. All too often, the garden of our relationship is left unattended; weeds grow and plants die due to lack of water and sun (i.e. care and attention). It is all too easy, especially in child-centered families, for partners to focus on the practicalities of childcare and rearing to the exclusion of their relationship.


Whats Happening in the Stars?! 


Wed 26th Sept  

Mercury trines Jupiter...; )


Planet of communication (Mercury) is making a lovely angle to planet of good luck (Jupiter)

Jupiter is the biggest planet in our zodiac. It is useful to use the energy of this transit for expansion.

In other words this is a good time to think BIG. If you are planning or launching something this is the time! The ability to see the big picture is highlighted just watch out for missing important details.

It is also an excellent time for any kind of public speaking or interview.  


If none of the above applies to you just enjoy the social, chatty aspect of these two planets in aspect to each other.


Saturday, September 29, Aries Full Moon

 This moon is hyper and hot! It will be angling both Pluto + Uranus which is a highly excitable and emotional combo- Be ready for surprises and drama! Also depending on where this lunation falls in your personal astrological birth chart that something that has been poised for change could radically shift around this time. 


If you are following the moon here are her dates:

New Moon September 15- 1st quarter Moon, September 22;  Full Moon, September 29;  Last quarter Moon, October 8;   Next New Moon, October 15.


 Other Planetary Mischief


Mercury Retrograde- Sunday, November 4 to 26th    

 This is not the time to sign any business deals, get married or make a major purchase. Often with a mercury retrograde you will have to re-do or return to what you tried to start during the three week period this planet was going backwards. It is best to spend this time to review, retreat, renegotiate, revise etc anything that starts with "re-" is really well aspected!  

Perhaps it's the time to reorganize your office or review your finances? When Mercury goes direct again then you can proceed forward with any plans. 


        For more on how these transits might be effecting you in particular  

                    call Ondina for an astrology reading (415) 381-1065  




                          Enjoy Fall + Your Stars! 
Ondina Nandine Hatvany, MFT
Ondina assists traditional, alternative and queer couples with an approach that combines the latest discoveries in neuroscience with powerful and effective developments in couples research. She uses an approach called Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)  to help her couples get past blame and shame to a place of more understanding, trust and intimacy. 
As former Director of the Eating Disorders program at the Community Institute of Psychotherapy Ondina advocates a Health at Every Size (HAES) approach that empowers women to befriend their bodies. 
Ondina works with trauma/ abuse survivors using EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing) and somatic (body mindfulness) psychotherapy techniques with a high effectiveness rating.

Finally as a somatically trained psychotherapist and former yoga teacher, one of the ways she can assist you to make lasting changes is to foster body mindfulness. She uses somatic psychotherapies such as Hakomi and Somatic Experiencing to facilitate transitions and shifts that last.  

~ Feel Free to call for an free initial phone consultation on Ondina's confidential office line  (415) 381-1065

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