AWARENESS is KEY
Will a woman who has had bad love or destructive men ALWAYS attract, or be attracted to, abusive and destructive men?
YES!
Scary, right? You bet, it is, that's why it's crucial for women to learn how these things happen and how we can stop getting sucked in.
Noticing what leads us down the wrong path to love is the first step towards changing the future, and awareness creates the biggest impact.
It is common for women who have had a bad guy once, to have one again, but that doesn't mean we are destined to a chaotic life.
Where there is a lack of discussion, there is a lack of awareness. Drawing in one bad love after another is no surprise, it is more like a symptom of how some women approach the world. The key to ending the cycle and staying safe, then, isn't only with understanding bad or harmful men, it is also with women understanding themselves.
We have been led to spot what the men do but this information is of little value on its own, and so it pulls us down even deeper. Women continue to write off their safety, security and happiness because they don't know how they chose wrongly to begin with, how they got caught, or how to alter what they do the next time around.
Applying even just a a few of the relational harm avoidance strategies I teach can save you from heartache and trauma.
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The Bachelorette Lowdown  | | Ashley Hebert The New Bachelorette |
Assessment III
It is no surprise that Bachelorette Ashley has already allowed more than one bad guy too close, because women who attract toxic men do so repeatedly. It isn't just that her radar is way off, there is something more going on.
How we attract the worst of the worst is being revealed in this show without a doubt, and unfortunately for Ashley, she is showing us the way.
The departure of Bentley should have made is all feel happy and relieved. So cold and calculating, he provided so many examples how hazardous and dangerous romance and partnerships form I almost wanted to send him a thank you letter for revealing his stupid self. But what is more important than what men like him do, is how women like us respond. Learn more about the men and how Ashley goes for love without regret (so dangerous) by continuing to follow my critiques. Pay close attention to the issues I point out and watch the episodes I discuss a second time to help you see just how easily the bad guys sneak in if you are traited a certain way and aren't aware of it, or don't pay careful enough attention. Read Week 3 The Bentley Week Assessment... I will continue to direct your attention only to the problem areas that serve as examples for how women end up with men who harm. My notes, therefore, are intentionally unbalanced and not meant as a personal attacks. In spite of my overall impression, it doesn't mean that Ashley has already had, or will end up in, an abusive or destructive relationship, but I do suspect she has consistently attracted the wrong men into her life all along, and she will continue to until she either lucks out and lands a good guy by chance, or gains clearer insight. The examples I highlight are to show where the pattern of finding toxic love and bad men begins. Ashley has already repeated the cycle of attracting, being attracted to, and tolerating abusive and destructive men on the show in the first 4 weeks, so this is a great place to learn how it happens...
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"Our emotions need to be as educated as our intellect.
It is important to know how to feel, how to respond, and how to let life in so that it can touch you."
~Jim Rohn
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"It is the woman who chooses the man who will choose her."
Sincerely,
Teagin Maddox
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