AWARENESS is KEY
Will a woman who has had bad love or destructive men ALWAYS attract, or be attracted to, abusive and destructive men?
YES!
Scary, right? You bet, it is, that's why it's crucial for women to learn how these things happen and how we can stop getting sucked in.
Noticing what leads us down the wrong path to love is the first step towards changing the future, and awareness creates the biggest impact.
It is common for women who have had a bad guy once, to have one again, but that doesn't mean we are destined to a chaotic life.
Where there is a lack of discussion, there is a lack of awareness. Drawing in one bad love after another is no surprise, it is more like a symptom of how some women approach the world. The key to ending the cycle and staying safe, then, isn't with understanding abusive men, it is with women understanding themselves.
We have been led to spot what the men do but this information is of little value and pulls us down even deeper. Women continue to write off their safety, security and happiness because they don't know how they chose wrongly to begin with, how they got caught, or how to alter what they do the next time around.
Applying even just a a few of the relational harm avoidance strategies I teach can save you from heartache and trauma.
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Getting Ready to Date Again?
Critical observation and assessment allows you to see possible warning signs for bad love, and teaches you to break old patterns.
The Bachelorette Lowdown
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Assessment II
With ABC's show, The Bachelorette, we've been given a gift in Ashley Hebert. She is proving to reveal many typical patterns and characteristics that get women caught in troubled relationships, allowing all of us to see the traps and danger zones of destructive love more clearly. By critiquing the program, I show you by example how we position ourselves for hazardous and dangerous dating, romance, and partnerships~and how we attract the worst of the worst. In assessing Ashley's approach to love, I direct your attention only to the problem areas that serve as examples for how women end up with men who harm, so my notes are intentionally unbalanced and not meant as a personal attack on Ashley, nor to suggest that she isn't doing anything "right." In spite of my overall impression, it also doesn't mean that Ashley has already had, or will end up in, an abusive or destructive relationship, but I do suspect she has consistently attracted the wrong men into her life, and that she will continue to until she either lucks out and lands a good guy by chance, or gains clearer insight. Finding the wrong men in your life consistently is typical for some women, so the examples I show are to highlight where the pattern of finding them begins.
We all know the expression, "love is blind" and there are many reasons for why that is true, but that doesn't mean we are fated to choosing blindly. Women who choose the bad guys unconsciously are choosing the questionable guy long before love begins, she gets challenged and intrigued by something in him, lets her guard down right away because they seem to have so much in common, and falls for him hard and fast before knowing much about him~so the choosing is where the "blindness" begins for her. Women who have had scary or scarring relationships have to conduct the business of love with a special kind of awareness and thinking. Keep following these posts and assessments about The Bachelorette to see exactly what I mean. Read about the trouble spots I've seen so far...
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When we don't respond effectively to subtle communication cues,
we create interactions that trigger a chain reaction
towards bad love.
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Until next time~I leave you with this:
Quotes to remember
"It is the woman who chooses the man who will choose her."
Sincerely,
Teagin Maddox
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