3.  Change

Change is a challenge we cannot avoid.   Realize change is part of life.  Decide what you are unwilling to change.  Once that decision is settled, be open to and realistic about change. Here's how I look at change:

Challenges - Change is is not easy.

Humor - It helps if I laugh a lot.

Adjustments - It also helps if I am flexible.

Newness - Change gives me a fresh start.

Growth - Growth equals change.

Evaluation - Change forces me to look at my life.

4.  Fear

There are some destructive effects of fear. For example, fear breeds fear; it has the ability to exaggerate itself. Fear causes inactivity. And, by distracting us, fear causes us to take our eyes off the goal. There are three steps to fixing your fears.

Step 1: Discover the foundation of fear. Our fears are not usually based on fact; they are based on feeling. A study by the University of Michigan revealed:

• 60 percent of our fears are totally unwarranted, meaning the things we fear never come to pass.
• 20 percent of our fears are based in the past, which means they are out of our control.
• 10 percent of our fears are so petty that they can make no difference at all.

Of the other 10 percent, only 4 to 5 percent are real and justifiable fears. Mark Twain said it this way: "I have been through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened."

Step 2: Accept fear as the price of progress. Dr. Susan Jeffers said, "As long as I continued to push out into the world, as long as I continued to stretch my capabilities, as long as I continued to take risks in making my dreams come true, I was going to experience fear."

Step 3: Develop a burning desire within you. The famous fight manager Cus D'Amato said, "The hero and the coward both feel exactly the same fear, only the hero confronts his fear and converts it into fire."

5.  Failure

Charles Parnell said, "Too many people are having what might be called 'near-life experiences.' They go through life bunting, so afraid of failure that they never try to win the big prizes, never knowing the thrill of hitting a home run or even taking a swing at one." Don't let the fear of failure stop you.  And, don't be stopped by failure. People who are stopped by failure see it from a personal perspective. People who are not stopped by failure see it from a process perspective. As Steve Davis said, "It may not be your fault for being down, but it is your fault for not getting up."

Learn how to overcome the "Big 5" and your attitude will be the difference-maker.

Source:  www.success.com