A well functioning team is like a symphony, each part working in harmony with the rest. Unfortunately, some teams don't work that way at all!
 
So, what can you do if you find yourself in the midst of a team that makes more noise than music?
 
The first step is always to consider how you can change your own behavior, attitude or level of participation. Ask yourself, "Am I fully engaged in this team right now?" After all, you choose to contribute - or hold back - at every moment.
 
If you are unhappy with your teammates, don't wait for others to change or do their share; stop keeping track of who did what. Can you imagine a soccer player, stepping off the field after scoring a goal and saying, "That's it! I've done my share, now it is your turn!" A group of people becomes a true team when every individual is willing to do more than his or her share.
 
The ability to be a supportive member of the team is something that carries over into so many areas of life: family life, marriage, friendships, sports, workplace dynamics, neighborhoods and community.
 
Over the coming week, notice the different teams that you are a part of, and pay close attention to the level at which you're playing. Is it time to step up?
 
Ask yourself:

• What does the team need from me?
• How can I build more harmony among the team members?
• Am I playing the best role I can - or am I settling for one that  feels safe?

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• Do you feel alone with your challenges?
• Do you feel pressure to meet other people's expectations?
• Do you try to do everything yourself?

• Have a conversation with someone whom you feel pressured by and clarify their expectations. Dealing with well-defined expectations is easier than dealing with vague ones. 
• Look at your to-do list and identify all the items that you could delegate. Take steps to involve other team members.
• Take your team outside for some fun together. It could be as simple as a walk in the park or a picnic lunch. Even a little "no-work" time together can do a lot to nurture and strengthen relationships.
• Think about the best thing that happened to you today. Write it down or share it with your family, friends, colleagues, neighbors and other groups that you are a part of. Listen to the great things that happened in their day and enjoy the good feelings that arise.
• Take a Guided Mini-Retreat (available on CD or for download), such as the Mini-Vacation, to relax and recharge yourself fully. Even a short retreat into your imagination can make a huge difference in your energy, attitude and ability to relate with others.

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