The month of February is known affectionately as "Love Month". There are all types of advertisements that sway us to purchase items to adorn our love ones, to show just how much we love them. For some this particular holiday can be quite depressing. It seems as though everyone has a sweetheart, and we tend to think GOD has overlooked us again. If that isn't enough, society teaches us that if you are a single woman raising children, you are the product of a broken family.  This puts us in the mind set that in order to be whole; we must have a man in our lives to be complete. Now we are willing to engage in any type of relationship in order to feel loved. Why do we as women diminish our self-worth to maintain unhealthy relationships with men? Ladies remember GOD has not forgotten and he is saving the very best for you. In the meantime learn to love on GOD and he will display the portrait of love you have always longed to experience. In return when your blessing arrives you will know he was sent from GOD.

The Perfect Love

Love is the passion that exists between two people that goes beyond the physical attraction.

Love is that tiny surge of anticipation that weakens your knees at the thought of being in the presence of the one who professes his love to you.

Love is dreaming of that perfect man. Someone who loves you, and cares for you despite your every fault

Someone who listens when you speak and is not quick to judge

Someone who commends you for your strengths and shields you from your fears

Someone who does not take you for granted and will do anything in his power to ensure your every happiness

When you awake you realize that dream is your reality.

Love is giving of yourself unselfishly to someone that needs more than they are actually able to give.

No task is too great, and every challenge is met head on with the expectation of an absolute resolution

This love that I speak of is undeniably the most fulfilling I have ever known

Each day I awake to embrace a new horizon, I thank GOD for loving me unconditionally and allowing me to experience the meaning of true love

So that when he prepares a mate to enter into my life, I will be able to share the same unconditional love GOD has so graciously shown me

Lady 4.0

Unlike any other Black man in the world, the Black man in America has survived the 400 plus year old lineage of the Trans-Atlantic slave trade.  Furthermore, he survived being robbed of his culture, language, God, family, education, and nature.  Yet, today he suffers severely from broken homes and family structure as he once knew it before being brought to America.  These factors are significant to his current success or lack thereof to experience closeness and intimacy within male: female relationships as he truly desires to.  As a result, the current image and life style of the Black man in America conveys a lack of interest, desire, and effort to experience and facilitate intimacy within a male: female relationship.

A more accurate account of how much value or emphasis is placed on intimacy by Black men is needed.  Also, any positive correlations between age, family structure, previous and present experience in relationships will be discussed. This study seeks to answer the  questions of how successful Black men will be in intimate relationships, if he so chooses to, and if Black men in America are interested in intimacy and being intimate in relationships, according to their own definition of the word.

There have been implications that women, with the exception of some, view and judge Black men in a general manner contributing all wrongs done by a few to the entire population as to imply that the negative behavior define what it means to be a Black man.  This study seeks neither to prove or disprove the above statement, but to understand the root or why that conception or misconception exists.  Thus, to know what it means to be a Black man in America you must ask one.