September 2012
Vol 5, Issue 9
Creative Coaching Group
LIGHT ON THE SUBJECT
 the Creative Coaching Group newsletter

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CanoeingI just got back from my mom's cottage in Ontario where I had a wonderful opportunity to go canoeing with my 7-year old nephew. Teaching him how to canoe got me reflecting on my summer camp counselor days, when, on our endurance-style canoe trips, we jokingly branded our campers as "lily-dippers" if they weren't pulling their weight. Being a "lily- dipper"meant that one barely broke the surface of the water with ones paddle and by "only touching the water lilies", one really wasn't contributing to the forward movement of the boat.

 

I thought about how that pertains to life - and have to confess - there have certainly been areas of my life where I have been a "lily-dipper" and robbed myself and others of the richness and satisfaction that paddling deeper can bring. (see my feature article below).

 

I am wondering if you will join me in making the commitment to quit "lily-dipping" and be "all in" this fall. To assist you, be sure to check out my free teleseminar series and other workshop opps this fall and for the lucky first 3 of you  ready to paddle deeply, you can CLICK HERE to take advantage of my crazily discounted "September -all-in-no-more-lily-dipping" coaching special. 

 

Here's to an "all-in" Fall!  Let's do it!

 

Jan Carley 2 square 

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Jan Carley  BA,CEC,PCC

Your Possibility Coach   Creative Coaching Group

Feature Article: How to Quit Lily-Dipping and Be "ALL-IN"

Lily PadsGrowing up in Ontario, my summers were spent at camp - first as a camper, then as a camp counselor. Big on our activity list was canoeing - and we loved our epic 3-5 day trips from lake to lake. The term "lily-dipper" was used jokingly to describe someone that barely put their paddle in the water deeper than the lily pads that floated on the surface and therefore, required the person in the rear of the canoe to do all of the heavy paddling work to move the canoe forward.  

 

As I thought about how that canoeing concept could pertain to life I confess that I began remembering the times in my life that I have been a "lily-dipper." Sometimes with jobs I held, sometimes in relationships. Times when I was in the boat, but not paddling fully.  How many of you are "lily-dipping" in some part of your life?  How much further could you go, and what greater results could you have if you committed to plunging your paddle in deeper - if you were "all in"?

 

There are lots of benefits of being "all in". Like the paddling analogy, you move forward more quickly and have more powerful results if you are fully committed. The experience becomes more meaningful, you have deeper feelings of connection and you experience a deeper level of satisfaction. As a spin-off , being "all in" is incredibly infectious and energetically helps others have a deeper experience as well. In short, being "all in" means you are really present, really living.  

 

The downside of committing fully is, of course, the risk factor. With any risk you take there is the potential of being hurt and the potential of failure. But what do you miss by never totally "going for it"? I maintain that slight discomfort is a good trade-off  for being free to really live big. Neale Donald Walsch said "Life begins at the end of your comfort zone".  If you never truly are "all-in" how will you ever know what you are capable of? What is possible? What your life could be like?

 

PULSE CHECK

Think of the various parts of your life - Work, relationships, parenting, fitness, or any other area.  And on a scale of 1 - 10 are you "All-in" (10) or are you "Lily-dipping" (0) ?  Or somewhere in between?  (this is an awareness piece, just taking stock of where you are now, with no judgement attached)  

Ask yourself this question:  "What would have to shift for me to commit to being "all-in"?

 

5 Easy Ways to help you Be "ALL IN"

 

1/ Get intentional

This is an easy and effective technique to incorporate for immediate results. Considering and then adding an intention to an action creates a different level of consciousness and consequent energy around the action. By creating an intention for your life, your day, or an activity, you strengthen the commitment and energetic forces and that has a powerful deepening effect.  

Experiment with this:  Create a Daily Intention. As you lie in bed in the morning, spend 1 minute thinking about what your day will BE. Not your To Do list, instead, what will the day be about?  Joy? Ease? Laughter? Passion?   Create your Daily intention, breathe into it for 30 seconds and write it on a piece of paper, stick it in your pocket and revisit it throughout the day.  Without doing anything differently, your day will positively shift if you hold an intention for it.

 

2/ Stay Present

The point of power is in the present moment. Our goal is to be present, fully engaged in each and every moment. Right here, right now. So how do we do that?

The easiest way to remain present is to quit multitasking. Yeah, I know you know this. And for many of us, we believe that multitasking is the only way we could possibly survive. However, if you are doing more than one thing at the same time, you are not truly "all-in" to either activity. (and that includes mental multitasking). Having a single mental and physical focus will automatically deepen each experience.

Experiment with this:

Take an activity where you normally would multitask (whether physically or mentally). Experiment with keeping your focus solely on that activity. eg/ Preparing Dinner: As you are chopping the carrots focus solely on that. Observe the carrots - are they hard or soft, easy to cut or not, is your knife sharp or dull, are you cutting them in identical pieces or random. How is the experience of cutting carrots different when you are "all-in"?  Now go to something a bit bigger - how about a conversation with your partner? Or a chorus rehearsal? See what happens when you consciously focus on being present in each moment. 

  

3/ Stay Curious

When you put yourself in the space of curiosity you immediately get present and stay fully engaged. Imagine if you liberated yourself from being constrained by the "knowing" muscle, and instead exercised the "curiosity muscle". How might that shift your conversations? Your interactions with the world?

Experiment with this: Have a conversation with a friend about something that is a current challenge for them and be "all-in" for them. Make your entire focus on really hearing what the other person is saying. Don't interrupt. Seek to understand by staying curious. Ask questions to clarify your understanding.  Notice when your inner voice comes in and begins to take you away of the experience of actively listening. Notice when you start thinking of solutions or start putting your advice hat on and taking yourself away from being "all-in". Debrief with your partner. What felt different for them to be "all-in" listened to? What felt different for you?

 

4/ Adopt a Gratitude Attitude

You can help yourself stay present and focused on the here and now by developing a "gratitude attitude" - a practice of consciously thinking of what is good in your life and in this world. By appreciating the simple things-like the taste of that fresh plump raspberry that you quickly popped in your mouth-and remembering and being grateful for each moment of your day, you begin to live "all-in".  

Experiment with this: Develop the practice of a nitely "gratitude sign-off."  Make your final action of the day one of writing in your journal about what you are grateful for that you saw or experienced that day. Did you have a great conversation with a friend? Did your son give you a super hug and say "I love you Mom"? Did you notice the amazing sunset?  By noticing, acknowledging, appreciating and writing about the things you value each night, you will go to sleep with positive, affirming gratitude thoughts in your head and those thoughts will amplify during the night. The nitely Gratitude sign-off frames the day, and adds energy and importance to each of our living moments.

 

5/ Get clear on your Big Vision

What is your big life picture? How would you like to contribute to this world? Establishing your personal vision is a critical piece to ensuring your days are purposeful and "all in". If you have no compass, or north star, it is easy to get lost and spend your days drifting from thing to thing, as a life "lily-dipper", without ever being fully engaged in anything.

Experiment with this:  Get a piece of paper and pen, sit in your comfiest chair with a cup of tea or glass of wine and allow yourself to dream. Look 5 years down the road. What does your life look like? Feel like? If anything were possible, what would be? How do you feel? How are you contributing? What is really most important in your life? Write down your stream of consciousness thoughts without editing them. Leave your paper for a few days and then revisit it. What jumps out at you as thematic in what you have written? What surprised you? Are you spending your energy in the areas in which you want?  Once you have your Big Picture Vision, you can put some energy into creating the actual road map for how you will live into that Vision. When you are living "on purpose", you are passionate about being "All-In".   

 

What'll it be for your next canoe ride?  "Lily-Dipping" or "All-in"?  

 

 the red canoe

 

Lightbulb of the Month

blue lightbulb "Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, wine in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming 'WOO HOO what a ride!'"

- author unknown

*FREE* Teleseminar Sept.7  "12-Step Program for the Busy-holic" 

Friday, Sept. 7  is the kick-off  of my FAB FREE FALL FRIDAYS WITH JAN Teleseminar series. In this "12-Step Program for the Busy-holic" Teleseminar we are tackling one of the biggest traps of our fast-paced world - excessive busyness- and giving you tips on how to find some space in the middle of your multitasking mania so that you can start running your life, rather than your life running you. Make sure you register even if you are too busy to attend LIVE 'cuz I will send out an mp3 recording of the session to everyone who registers. 

(And you only have to register once to get notification and mp3 recordings for all of the other teleseminars in the series!)  

Click here for more information and to register for the series

 

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Teleseminar Schedule at a glance
(all teleseminars 9 am - 10 am PDT) 
Sept 7    A 12-Step Program for the Busy-holic - How to Achieve more by Doing Less
Sept 21 "I'm just a girl who can't say NO" - How to create and maintain healthy life boundaries
Oct. 12  What Every Woman wants to know about Money (but was afraid to ask!)
Oct. 19   Wealthy from the Inside Out - How to Recognize and Rock your Signature Assets
Oct. 26  "Yes, You Can!" - How to bust apart your Limiting Beliefs
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Exclusive in-person Vancouver Workshop with Jan  October 27th

   defragging the brain              Defrag your Life in a Day

Workshop - October 27, Vancouver BC

Is your mental hard drive full? Is your LOS (Life Operating System) out of date? Are you overloaded, scattered, overwhelmed, or tired? Are you dying to reconnect with your "big dream"?

If so, get up-close and personal with Professional Certified Coach Jan Carley in this highly interactive one-day workshop intensive that will defrag, rewire and reboot your life and reinspire you to create a rockin' fall and 2013.

*** Only 10 spots available

***EARLY BIRD PRICING UNTIL OCT. 13th   (SAVE $40)

Click here for more information and to register 

  

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Final Boot Camp of 2012! Don't miss it!
Harmony from the Inside Out Tele-Boot Camp 

Nov. 12 - Dec. 3 (Monday Nights) 

*Participate by phone, skype or on web from anywhere in the world

boot camp Transform your life "from the inside out" with 4 weeks of group coaching and teaching in Jan's popular tele-boot camp.  Discover your core purpose, get rid of the junk holding you back and move boldly and confidently into your future possibilities. Get motivated, go deep and take action to finally make the changes you've been thinking about. This is the only time this popular tele-course will be offered this fall! (if you have to miss a week, don't worry, the weekly action guides and recordings will be emailed to you so you download and listen at your leisure)

(click here for details and to register)

"It was (and still is) the best investment I've made in myself." - Lynette Pope  

About Jan Carley

Jan Carley is a Professional Certified Executive Coach credentialed with the International Coach Federation. Her com­pany, Creative Coaching Group, specializes in working with high-achieving individuals and teams to expand their possibilities, leverage their strengths, increase their capacity and focus their energies to leverage transformational success. Jan lives in Vancouver, B.C., Canada, and is available for individual and team coaching, workshops, and speaking engagements worldwide. ICF logo

Contact Jan at 604 873-1763  email: jan@creativecoachinggroup.com

    

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